AIBU to ask if you are worrying this week and if so what about?

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To ask what are you worrying about most this week? That's if you are if course

We all have worries don't we? What's the biggest stressor/thing on your mind at the moment?
Are you one of the lucky and rare ones that never worry?
If so how do you do it?

Yes I'm worrying and my anxiety is through the roof just now. Lots of family issues and also work is just terrible. I'm dreading tomorrow and definitely have the Sunday blues.

The Sunday scaries are real. Work is incredibly tough at the moment (nhs), and it seems relentless. Worrying about everything currently, post menopausal anxiety, poor sleep. But outwardly I think everyone around me thinks I’m quite chipper.

Nothing, worrying is pointless you technically go through things twice once with worry and once again with the actual thing.

I’m very lucky and don’t have any real worries at the moment but sending big hugs to all that are.

Worried about inevitable redundancy in the next couple of years, I'm 59 and will most probably never be employed in my field again at 60, but not able to retire.
Worried about an adult DC, they are lovely, kind amazing and strong and an absolute warrior, but going through a hard time that they don't deserve.
Worried about my old cat, he can't possibly last much longer, but it's sad to see his decline and I'm worried about making the decision in time
Also really worried about a couple of beautiful trees in the neighborhood that look diseases and dying. Am in contact with council about them.

In the same sort of train of thought as @Larrythecatforpm i tend not to really worry about things if they’re coming anyway.
No point in me wasting time worrying as I will have to do the thing regardless. That’s not to say I’m a zen warrior, obviously sometimes things will pray on my mind but I’m quite good at rationalising things, working through the worst case scenario, deciding whether or not it’s something I can control and then putting it inside a box in my brain and enjoying the rest of the day.
No worries for me this week upcoming, got a lovely weekend away with the girls coming up starting Thursday evening which is lovely to look forward to.
I know it’s going to be a busy heavy 4 days at work but I’m not paid to think/worry about it during non working hours so I don’t.

I’m starting a new job tomorrow, it’s the first full time mon-Fri 9/5 role I’ve had since kids as I’ve studied and worked around my family. I’m very excited but also worrying about the changes to come and impact on everyone, although 2 kids are teens and one pre teens now, so I’m sure this very much more in my head than reality.

DD2 had a failed suicide attempt last week. We're being handed over from the children's crisis team to camhs tomorrow, worried as they were so useless when DD1 was in need a few years ago and also so worried as DD2 isn't wanting to engage and is very resentful of me calling the ambulance to save her life.

True but sometimes you can't help it.
Some people's brains are more sensitive than others.

Not much this week but I've noticed my anxiety/sleep/rational thought/ ability to drive/ ability to cope with work is very much linked to my menstrual cycle.

Yes, I normally work three and a half days but have to work full time this week to cover for a colleague. Trouble is I’m really suffering with back and hip pain at the moment, and my job is an on your feet all day one, really stressed about how I’m going to do it. I’ve stocked up on painkillers and I’m doing Pilates or yoga stretches every evening to try and help. Also I’m waking up at 5am every morning 😩

I feel like I worry enough for the whole family sometimes…

big worries atm -

going up an extra day at work next year . I (secretly) struggle with anxiety. I’m better then I used to be , and it’s been 7 years since I took anytime off work with it , but I have successfully managed 4 days for 3 years (often clinging on to the knowledge that I could stay in bed on day 5 if needed) I’m hoping I can push through and it will help advance my career- but I’m well aware it could go the other way.

money worries in general- nothing too bad , but I want to get on a better footing before I’m 40 and there’s definitely a few outstanding things that need clearing ( the extra day is going to help)

eldest daughter…. Few she’s a handful… but will hopefully finish her level 3 course next week, and move on to uni , but some of her behaviour is questionable and she’s very grumpy… I’m worried there’s more too it but she gets very very angry if I ask any questions, and generally only comes home at midnight (college night curfew) or about 2 ish the rest of the time. She does work in a pub which does equal later nights but something is off. (I emailed her tutor last month and she was on track to finish at that point so I don’t think it’s that , although I’m sure there is pressure to finish)

that husband will have an accident at work / make a careless mistake that will end his employment (not entirely mad worry , he’s a bus driver and plenty of his colleagues have had accidents over the last few years- often others fault on the road , but it’s a worry that he could hurt someone/ himself

and I’m worried because my mum is pecking at me to book two nights in a hotel for Christmas but I can’t untill a cheque clears but will that woman listen? Absolutely not. Message after message about how it’s going to be booked up.

those are my big main worries at the moment, but I also know there is very little I can do to change a lot of it, and we need to take each week as it comes and reassess at Christmas.

I don’t want to wish my life away though!

Heath stuff: I have constant aches and pains and the GP can't find a cause. He's prescribed HRT and I should be able to pick it up tomorrow. Hoping this works and worrying what happens if it doesn't - do I just have to go on like this forever?

Sometimes it can help to frame it that slot of what we worry about now won't matter in years to come and certainly won't matter when we aren't here anymore.

You know what's almost worse than having the NHS ignore health concerns? It's when they think things are very serious and fast track you.
I had a tummy upset and went to the doctor thinking it may be IBS. It's not that at all but they spotted that I'm immune deficient and that I needed to see a consultant. That meant a bone marrow aspiration and total body MRI to see if I have a condition that can lead to sudden catastrophic organ failure.

I get the results in 2 weeks, the day before we go off on holiday.

I’m worrying about my MH. I feel very strongly I’m dead but then people keep telling me I’m not but if I’m imagining all this then their conflicting opinions could just be a product of my imagination too?
I just don’t believe that things in my life would happen in reality. I think it’s all in my mind. It’s hard to explain.

I made a big mistake at work on Thursday so I’m worrying a lot about that 😞 had a near sleepless night that night. The uncertainty is the hardest thing about it, as the consequences of the mistake aren’t yet clear and could be huge or could be nothing much. I’ve managed to put it out of my mind for much of the weekend but now it’s Sunday afternoon the worry is back. Hugs to all those worrying.

My car is on its last legs. Need a new one but will have to be on finance. Have never had monthly car payments so a bit stressed about the impact.

I have my third round of chemotherapy this week and then I’m working four hour shifts on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I felt very rough after the first two rounds so I’m absolutely dreading having to go to work. Unfortunately I can’t afford not to work.

I’m hoping the weather is nice for the mini festival we’re going to at the weekend. But if it’s not, it will still be fun.

My parents are both very unwell in different ways and struggling terribly. But I don’t tend to worry. For what purpose?
Just support them in the ways they need, to try to help.

I've been told I have cataracts. I can still see at the moment but they are only going to get worse. Hopefully it will be a few years before I need surgery but everything I like doing involves my eyes. Reading, sewing, watching television, crafting. I'm not sure what I'm going to do when I can no longer see properly.

I have a daughter with additional needs. I worry about her all the time and sometimes the amount of worry feels overwhelming and almost unbearable.

I worry about whether she’ll ever be able to live independently. I worry about who will look after her when my husband and I aren’t around any more. I worry about money constantly as although my husband and both have professional careers, I’ve had to pretty much give up work and we can barely make ends meet. I worry that the life I intended for us all is sliding further away each day. I worry every time I see my daughter notice all the things that other children can do that she can’t and every time she struggles to manage social situations despite desperately wanting friends. I worry about my own health and I’m sure the stress and sleep deprivation is taking its toll. I worry that my son is missing out because so much of our time and energy and resources are being used on my daughter.

I'm so, so sorry 💐. I really hope your DD gets the help she needs and that you have people irl that you can lean on. Xx

Quite a few things.

Our nanny just put in her notice and we don’t have any childcare beyond next Thursday.

My child is having emotional challenges at school and the teacher is being a) uncommunicative b) defensive c) witnessed that she is mocking his voice and d witnessed that she told the class that child is ‘driving everyone mad’.

Above child is also waking multiple times at tight due to anxiety.

A very very tight, challenging deadline at work to squeeze into the next week or so.

Worried about how to balance the cost of private IVF (we recently had two miscarriages on our only NHS round) with the cost of being a bridesmaid at my best friends wedding in America. Want a baby but also want to go to the wedding. There's also so many other big things this year. One friends 30th birthday, the hen do, other birthdays, so many things