AIBU to over think boyfriends ex??

[rachel55488]

Hey guys so just came here cause as usual my head over thinks everything 🤣 so basically me and partner have been together 6 months. And 2 months in he called me his ex girlfriend’s name 🤣 and I literally was so angry I messaged his ex girlfriend.. and asked her is there anything going on. And she messaged me back and was really nice and said they haven’t seen each other in about 9 months and he’s a nice guy but they just didn’t work out and there was nothing going on but she told me they had a phone call around Christmas time but there was nothing in it.. but this is when me and him started talking so I was a bit annoyed but we weren’t anything serious at this point. But then i got him to block her on Facebook and she was angry and messaged me and him and asked why she was blocked. He has since showed me that she’s still blocked etc. but my question is how did the girl notice she was blocked and why did she care so much to message him and ask why she was blocked?

Oh dear. Really?

If you hadn’t mentioned Facebook, I would have assumed that you were 14 because you are jumping to extreme conclusions and acting impulsively. Eg calling her after he called you by her name.

Please let us you are no older than 14 because your behaviour and post suggest it.

Are you 12?

You're being a bit ridiculous.

I call my partner by my ex husband's name at times. I can't stand the man! The first time I did it, he just laughed and said, "I'm glad you did that first!"

They had a phone call at Christmas, which was when you and he had just started talking. So what? God, I went out for dinner and to the cinema with an ex the same week my partner and I started going out as we'd had it arranged for a few weeks. I haven't seen him alone since. There was nothing untoward about it.

I think you've massively over reacted here and caused drama where there actually wasn't any.

I think op you are being very unreasonable and it's not healthy. Either you trust him or you don't. If you don't trust him you end the relationship and look elsewhere, what you don't do is continue the relationship while controlling who he can see or speak to. If you do trust him then you've no reason to dictate who he sees and speaks to or to contact his ex.

I can't believe you contacted his ex over that... I'm sorry but that's really ott behaviour on your part. And I say that having been cheated on. Your issues are not his problem to take on op, you are accountable for yourself in any relationship. And that includes how you respond to what he's doing.

Ur way too much. She should block u. U need to sort out ur issues. Not nice to call u her name but fk sake, not the girls fault. Ur really insecure and needy, total turn off and also major red flag.

I pity your boyfriend. Hopefully he'll see the red flags you are having and save himself the grief

He's your bf. You're too immature for a partner. And we aren't (all) guys.

This is not rational, not okay and not healthy. Get some help before he runs for the hills. If her my son/brother/pal I’d be telling him to do just that.

I literally was so angry I messaged his ex girlfriend.

don't do that. Seriously just don't. You are beyond ridiculous.
If my BF was behaving like you, I would dump him fast frankly.

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You’ve now made yourself look insane 👏🏼👏🏼

Yep you've either lost it or never had it. Crazy.

Yes my thought they were all around 15.

Been with my husband for 30 years and he still sometimes calls me his first wife's name!
You are wayyyyyyy overthinking this!

You are much too needy and suspicious. I don't know how old you are but your post reads like a 14 year old.

Sigh

You all sound very immature

@rachel55488 I think you need some help.
You post a new thread about you boyfriend every week or two and basically how jealous you are of his ex(es).

Everyone here blatantly thought you were a teen the way you are carrying on but you've mentioned previously that he has 2 teen kids so you must be well advanced 🙄

Just a bit needy are you?

I absolutely think you should grow up. How would she know? You know when someone’s blocked you by the way messenger comes up etc etc. They have nothing going on and she made the clear. I’d end the relationship and work on yourself that’s clearly what you need

You sound incredibly immature and insecure. Perhaps a relationship is not for you at the moment. Give it a few years.

Fucking hell, you sound like a nightmare. He should have split up with you the moment you contacted his ex.

You messaged her? How is it her fault that your boyfriend called you her name?

this isn’t overthinking it’s petty playground behaviour

and this is why 14 year olds shouldn't date...

In addition to the points already made, you can't police the friendships that another person has or makes. You can choose to react to them in your own way, but don't tell anyone who they can or can't be friends with. 🤷