AIBU to over think boyfriends ex??

[rachel55488]

Hey guys so just came here cause as usual my head over thinks everything 🤣 so basically me and partner have been together 6 months. And 2 months in he called me his ex girlfriend’s name 🤣 and I literally was so angry I messaged his ex girlfriend.. and asked her is there anything going on. And she messaged me back and was really nice and said they haven’t seen each other in about 9 months and he’s a nice guy but they just didn’t work out and there was nothing going on but she told me they had a phone call around Christmas time but there was nothing in it.. but this is when me and him started talking so I was a bit annoyed but we weren’t anything serious at this point. But then i got him to block her on Facebook and she was angry and messaged me and him and asked why she was blocked. He has since showed me that she’s still blocked etc. but my question is how did the girl notice she was blocked and why did she care so much to message him and ask why she was blocked?

Only old people use Facebook.

But he told me around October time she reached out and messaged him askin for a walk on the beach but he never replied, does it not sound like there’s always been unfinished business with them? The phone call, her askin to go a walk, when they’ve been split up? Or maybe just meetin up for sex because why would you not just block an ex and why would a girl want to meet up with her ex again? If they broke up

God I thought I was paranoid

Wow you are bonkers! My poor husband gets called all sorts of names.. most often my nephews name as they sound alike. He has been called my exes name before though.. my brain is just rubbish with names. You need to get a grub on this before you start boiling bunnies!!

You are a walking Red Flag (or maybe a wind-up merchant)

Your BF needs to leave you

you need to go back to bed and wake up. They aren’t doing anything they aren’t meeting up. We are allowed to be fully grown adults in this world and behave like them with our ex partners. You are the problem here not them two

So she messaged him before you got together asking for a walk on the beach- no mention of sex no mention of a relationship no nothing but your putting two and two together and getting 100. Just leave it they are in the past. You’ve stopped them being friends so move on and stop thinking about her. I could understand if there was overwhelming evidence of an affair or what not but there isn’t. You need to let go and move on. If you don’t I assume you’ll piss your partner off

Oh god, just dump him now before he dumps you anyway. You’re sounding like a bunny boiler. We’re all telling you the same, so hopefully you take on board this feedback!!!!

I’m sure your boyfriend is planning to leave you, what batshit crazy behaviour off you op.

Get therapy for your insecurity issues, this all sounds a bit unhinged

Yeah true when she messaged me back she did say there was nothing goin on etc

Why do you insist in posting a new thread about your boyfriend and his ex(es) every week or 2?
Why not just dump him and let him live a nice life free from your paranoia?

Are you 14 OP - you sound very insecure? If you are a mature woman then I suggest you start working on yourself - get therapy or read some self help books as you are going to be having some very unhealthy relationships if you don’t become more emotionally mature.

You sound jealous and possessive. If you keep that up he’ll soon get fed up and go running for the hills.

You sound jealous and possessive. If you keep that up he’ll soon get fed up and go running for the hills.

OP you need to get help for your jealousy otherwise you will push this man away. A reference from an ex saying he's a good guy but things just didn't work out is the best possible answer. Would you rather she'd said he's a shit that ruined her life and you should run? We all have a past, we all have previous loves and sex lives (depending on your age!) So if you cannot handle that you are not ready for this relationship.

Let this man be free if you don’t trust him. People make mistakes with names, if he’s otherwise a good guy then that’s all it is. If you don’t trust him, break up with him. No one is forcing you to be together!

I’m great friends with 2 of my exes, I see them a couple of times a year for a meal and/or drinks, sometimes with my partner sometimes without. No biggie.

This is not a, "How old are you because you sound 14?^ question because they say more about the person saying it than the person they're asking it of.

But I do wonder how old you are because your preoccupation around this suggests you don't have much life/relationship experience.

Lots of people stay friendly with exes. Some people have children with their exes and are amicable for that reason. Some exes are part of wider friendship groups and stay friendly for that reason.

Two months before you started talking to him, she suggested they went for a walk. So what?

If him being friendly with an ex is a problem for you, you are fine to set a boundary around that. But your boundary is for you- I don't date men who are friends with their exes. So make that choice and end it. But you can't force someone else to behave the way you want because that is control.

I'm exhausted just reading your posts. You sound like a teenager who has just necked four cans of Monster.

You sound extremely needy and volatile.

I’m surprised he hasn’t dumped you.

If someone told me to block someone I'd be off, how childish!

You will lose him if you carry on being so controlling. An ex is an ex for a reason.

You cannot possibly be serious...

Hopefully your fella will realise how controlling you are and leave you.