Four Weddings and a Funeral

[TheBlueRobin]

Watched this film tonight, bit of a comfort film and love anything from Richard Curtis. What I hadn't really paid attention to before was how soon people got married? Lydia and Bernard after 3 months. Carrie and Hamish after a few months?

Was this more normal in the 90s or just a plot device? I'm getting married this year but was born in the 90s and been with my partner for nearly 8 years. Most of my cousins got married in the 90s in their early twenties after 1-2 years together.

Yabu - that was normal in the 90s
Yanbu - definitely unusual, people took longer to get married.

Traitors within our midst 😁

no one wants to watch a film where a couple meet, date for 6 months, have sex, date for a year, move in, live together for 5 years, get engaged, stay engaged for 2 years and then get married unless there's massive time hop.

having said that DH and I met July 2011 and married Feb 2013.

No, he only meets Hamish at the second wedding, when Carrie introduces him as her fiancé, to Charles’ horror. In the script there’s a reference to Carrie inviting all of Charles’ friends round for dinner after she’s seated with them at Bernard and Lydia’s wedding (when Charles is at a separate table with all his exes) because she and the gang all get on so well. It’s still pretty implausible, of course, but this is Richard Curtis.

In the script, another difference is that Gareth’s funeral is in the Lake District, and Fiona only tells Charles she loves him after the funeral, not at Carrie and Hamish’s wedding.

Yeah, my teen watched it with me recently and in the first scene where we see Hamish and Gareth together in their flat she said 'are they together?' I think it's cleverly done because they are hidden in plain sight. Of course, we then get 'bury your gays' trope but that was probably necessary for the US market.

Whoops - voted the wrong way! I think usually a couple of years between dating and marriage was average. Definitely just to move the plot along. I think people possibly got married younger on average though.

Another who thinks that Kristin Scott Thomas is stunning and who would turn her down?

She's very attractive but it's a lot more than just looks

Hugh Grant's character must have been blindsided, poor love, at all these women throwing themselves at him 🤣

Carrie was supposed to be played by Jeanne Tripplehorn but her mother died just before shooting and she pulled out.
I think she would have been much better.

Bit of both. I think the briefness of the "courtship" is a plot device but certainly many people didnt plan their actual weddings 2 or 3 years in advance like nowadays.
We got engaged in October and married the following July

The table of ex girlfriends is one of the best in the film!
Edited to say "one of the best scenes"... looking back he was a big drip, albeit a very good looking one!

“And that’s not including the so-called fruit teas” cracks me up. I still can’t look at a box of Twinings without hearing it in my head 🤣

We met in January, engaged May, wedding booked for June following year. Not unusual in our circle. Late 90’s. Been married almost 30 years.

Couldn’t stand AMD in it. Why you’d turn KST down for that??? Awful character. Just didn’t work. Zero chemistry. Brought nothing to the role.

"Are you telling me I don't know my own brother?"