Four Weddings and a Funeral

[TheBlueRobin]

Watched this film tonight, bit of a comfort film and love anything from Richard Curtis. What I hadn't really paid attention to before was how soon people got married? Lydia and Bernard after 3 months. Carrie and Hamish after a few months?

Was this more normal in the 90s or just a plot device? I'm getting married this year but was born in the 90s and been with my partner for nearly 8 years. Most of my cousins got married in the 90s in their early twenties after 1-2 years together.

Yabu - that was normal in the 90s
Yanbu - definitely unusual, people took longer to get married.

That wasn't Angus who didn't get invited to Charles' stag! That was the twit Charles talks to at Angus and Laura's wedding in front of an amused Carrie. Charles says 'How's that lovely girlfriend of yours?' and the twit says she's no longer his girlfriend, and Charles says something like 'Oh well, cheer up -- rumour has it she never stopped shagging old Toby de Lisle in case you two didn't work out' and the twit says 'She is now my wife.'

Yeah, Anna Scott. It does sound like a British name.
I do find it funny when he mentions horses in her new film and she whispers ‘ it’s set in space ‘.

He always seems to do that. Carrie in FWAAF is called Judith Caroline Hartnell in the script. There's a joke in the script that when he opens the invitation he doesn't recognise the name until Scarlett realises who it is.

They could have given her a really starry name, a bit like Demi Moore's character in The Substance, Elizabeth Sparkle!

Gah! Bloody face blindness. Poshoes all look the same... 😂

It's a Richard Curtis script. They don't reflect real life.

I found Carrie rather brash and sarcastic. The rain comment was sarcasm, I’ve seen it as such as she looked like a drowned rat in that scene!
They wouldn’t have lasted the year and the baby at the end in the photo was probably one of their friend’s ones!
The bits below they cut out is interesting and far more cutting edge than the actual film.
I don’t mind it as something to watch and I like seeing how the roads are so empty everywhere. Not like it today is it.

There were people who lived together in the 90s but there were families who absolutely did not approve. I would have caused a family rift

I would say a plot device. I got married in the late 90s and we had been together for 4.5 years by then and lived together for 2.5.

We went to so many weddings in that decade and I don't remember any whirlwind romance weddings. Everyone had been together at least a few years or more. It seemed to be the case that you booked your wedding about 2 years before and then spent that time saving up to pay for it.

tbf, Julia Roberts is a pretty boring British name if you forget about the famous actress...

(I was at primary school with a girl called Julia and another with the surname Roberts)

I think the posh twit is Duckface's brother, which is why he asks about the stag do, as you would expect to invite the bride's brother if he wasn't a knob.

In the script, Duckface's brother is George, the red-faced bore who corners Carrie at the pub after the first wedding and keeps reminiscing about his schooldays (and is played by the actor who played Mr Hurst in the BBC Pride and Prejudice). But from what I can remember there's no indication of that in the film, so maybe posh twit has been rewritten as her brother?

Mind you, in the script Duckface isn't Duckface. She says 'Fiona calls me 'the attractive duck'', and Fiona once calls asks 'How's the Duck?' but generally she's referred to as Henrietta or Hen by everyone.

I’m sure posh twit says something like “hope my sister turns up, can’t have a wedding without a bride” just before he asks about the stag do. Charles seems more familiar with him than hotel bore which makes sense if he’d dated his sister.

I do love the fact that the red faced hotel bore basically plays the same part in P&P 🤣

He's one of my favourite characters. Just the ultimate pompous arse and even worse for being full of booze. Goes looking for, can't remember the name he calls her but he gets it wrong, and describes her as a fine filly. "I think I'm in there." He's got some great lines and HG's reaction to him and wondering how he is going to get away makes me laugh and squirm at the same time. (I think, writing from memory.)

Plot device. They were very much my generation of getting married and all my friends and family got married on very similar timescales to today.

I found it dreadful.

Yes, and he only has about one line in P and P, but is perfectly cast!

I always wondered why Charles was at Carrie’s wedding ? He had only met her once or twice

And weren't all the gang there too?

I thought that Charles was friends of a friend of Carrie’s husband , so invited along by default. As he helped her to find a wedding dress, maybe she invited him too ? It seemed the sort of thing she would do ‘ oh, you know some of the others ‘ kind of thing.

I saw this movie when I was about 16. I didn't realise the Scottish guy was in a relationship with the older man. Even at the funeral I was thinking they must be best friends. There was a reference towards the end I believe, where the partner mentions loving the deceased. That's when the penny dropped. Thinking back now it seems quite shocking that I had never seen a story line about a gay person. I had never met or known any and there were none in my town (openly).

If anyone hasn't seen the IT crowd, there's a funeral scene and the son of the deceased goes up to do the eulogy. He introduces Auden's poem as 'here's a poem I heard on Four weddings and a funeral', or something to that effect. Makes me laugh every time I think of it

Even when Matthew (Scottish one) says to a woman who describes Charles' brother as a bit of a dish, "well I've always thought so". He also describes the man who wrote the poem he read at his bf's funeral, WH Auden, as another splendid bugger.

I met and married my wife 6 weeks after going out with her. First year was hellish because we didn't know each other. 47 years married this June.
We were very young and I totally understand why couples marry later now. We had £5 to buy crockery.
Get house , jobs and money sorted first.

@Dontlletmedownbruce Exactly the same with me! I think it was when Tom says the bit about two of them being essentially married all along that the penny finally dropped. If my ten year old watched it now she’d suss out their relationship in the opening credits 🤣