to tell my dd to shut up

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she doesn't stop talking (she's 11) from the minute she gets up - we all have to hear what she dreamt about (yawn yawn) to the minute she goes to bed.

She must think she's the bees knees, I'm sure she thinks she's my sole reason for living.

She goes on and on and on, interrupting my conversations with friends and my other kids. I wouldn't mind but she never says anything interesting! It's all so mind-numblingly boring!!!!!

Am I being unreasonable to say

"for god's sake shut up"

eh??

You are not unreasonable to think it but YABU to say it IMO

I think you just need to ask her to be polite and not interrupt , wait her turn and say excuse me.

She must think she's the bees knees, I'm sure she thinks she's my sole reason for living.

my dd's are the bees knees and are also my reason for living.

Nametaken, I am really hoping that this is a wind-up and you are bored?

What, your SOLE reason for living

Think it but don't say it.

Of course she thinks she's the bees knees ... it's part and parcel of being a kid to think that the world revolves around you.

It's all terribly important to her, no matter how boring it is to you - if you don't listen, who will? And if you don't listen, you will more or less be telling her that she's boring.

There is nothing wrong with asking her to be polite and wait, but why shouldn't she talk to you? Thank heavens she does; plenty don't.

Do you like her?

well swimming against the tide

No you're not unreasonable to say it .. but say it with 'lurve' and a smile .. "I love you but shut up will you"

kids need to know that their every thought doesn't need to be expressed IMO .. and she's 11 .. she should have learned a long time ago

I'm not trolling I was hoping for some sympathy - you obviously have no idea how boring it is having had only children for company for 5 years and 95% of my conversations for the past 5 years have been with children.

I guess in your eyes that makes me a nasty person

I'll go and cook dinner then. At least I'm good for something.

EVERY parent thinks OH FOR THE LOVE OF GOD PLEEEEEEEASE SHUT THE FECK UP!!! from time to time That's normal.

Saying it however - no no no no no. Bad thing. Bad bad thing.

And it's lovely to hear she thinks she's the bees knees and the centre of your world. Every child should believe that of themselves and their mother.

Thank you Twiglett and Hecate.

Thing is, don't boring children grow up to be boring adults? I should say something, shouldn't I?

No.

Thing is, don't boring children grow up to be boring adults? I should say something, shouldn't I?

or you could argue that boring adults produce boring children

I'm with Twiglett, there's nothing wrong in telling them to shut up (with love) now and then, otherwise they'd drive you mental. How unrealistic is this?? And what about the other poor people they'll go on and on at not knowing how terribly dull they are?

My kids are younger so i might be wrong, but at 11 she should be able to understand that you don't want her wittering on at you the whole time, no?

But if you can, avoid telling her to shut up. Maybe when you're less annoyed you can have a chat with her calmly?

Or could you take a break? Some evenings when i had a whole day of DS talking and jumping and shouting constantly (including excessive jet engine type noises), then i go out for a swim to clear my head.

trip trap

Or put the telly on - that's what it's for.

Is it just you and her?

Give her more interesting things to do, then she'll have things to talk about. Broaden her horizons.

Actually though - there could be an issue if she is talking all the time, only wants to be heard and to be the centre of attention but not listening to others or willing to give attention to others. Communication is 2-way. If you are concerned that she is just talking 'at' people rather than engaging them - iyswim - then that could be something to work with her to sort out.