Throwing drink cartons out of bedroom window

[Livingingangstersparadise]

How strict would you be on this?

Dh just doing the front garden and came in with an empty drink carton saying ‘They’ve thrown this out of the window’
Dd, 7 and friend playing in her bedroom upstairs, I called up to ask her and she said her friend did it to be silly to our dog (he’s a lovely boy) I just said ok and not to throw rubbish again.
Dh angry about it, is it really that bad? It’s not ideal at the end of the day, but they’re only 7

DH shouldn't have picked it up, he should have called DD and her friend down to pick it up and put it in the bin, and told them why they should not be throwing things out of windows.

If my kid was generally goid id leave it at a cross face snd don't do that !

id have a word before friend comes over again not ok to torment dog!

I wouldn't be angry, it's silly behaviour and deserves a firm telling off then move on.

Agree with this. Make them clear it up.

Whereas I'd say that if you're on your kid's case about every tiny thing, they end up feeling like they might as well do the really fun really bad things because they will get a bollocking anyway.

(But, just to be clear, it absolutely wasn't me that did any of it...😁)

Yep 😂

How is 7 year old DD going to stop a friend throwing something out of the window though?
I remember a few occasions as a child when a friend or cousin did something they shouldn't and my mother bollocked me afterwards even though she knew full well who did it and told me I was responsible and should stop them. One time a cousin threw a drinks' can into the neighbour's garden; another time a friend crawled through the hedge into another neighbour's garden and despite shouting at her to come back she wouldn't, neighbour went ballistic and I got the blame and another time a friend wouldn't stop banging on the keyboard full blast, got blamed for that as well.

Ah ok fair enough. Yeah that's true. Then you'd be faced with them both screaming that it wasn't either of them, haha! I guess that's good as it means your kid already knows not to do it. I guess ideally he should've been made to pick it up and put it in recycling but the time has passed.

I would have told her to stop because that damages someone elses property.

Such a non event. Kids were being silly. Get them down to pick up the rubbish and/or new rule that food and drinks stay downstairs from now on. End of.

DH has a point about shaking the chair in the cafe though. Firstly it’s easier to have a blanket we don’t do that policy then a maybe but only if the next table is vacant, secondly she could damage the chair which doesn’t belong to her, thirdly she could hurt herself if the chair broke or she fell.

Oh don't be silly.

I know this is Mumsnet and therefore the man is likely always to blame, but he simply gave a 7 year old a drink.

He wasn't to know he was going to fling the carton out the bloody window! 🙄

Of course she should know better, no wonder he was annoyed, 7 is old enough to know right from wrong.

You’re ’team DH’ but he was the one that gave them drinks to take upstairs! (Which you don’t allow).

This.

Sounds like your husband is making much ado about nothing. The 7 year old friend shouldn’t have done that but no harm was done. And your 7 year old daughter is not responsible for what her friend did. Both children have been told that it was wrong. I would say it’s time to move on.

We don’t know that. We’re just told that he gave them drinks. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Is DH her dad?

FFS they're 7 ,,it's just a bit of silly behaviour thats been dealt with.

Its not fair to hold your DD responsible for this boys behaviour just because it happened in your house. A seven year old can't be expected to police the behaviour of another child. I'd have given them both the lecture and told him he mustn't do anything like it again, or they wouldn't be allowed to play out of sight of an adult again if they couldn't be trusted to be sensible.

Funnily enough, a drink carton landed in front of me the other day, but it was from a crow

I think that telling them not to do it is enough.

Sounds very dangerous that the children can easily access a window that’s open enough to lob a cartoon out.

Yes why?

The crow was drinking a carton?

Are you actually serious?

Good grief 🫣!

Struggling to expand on that tbh, so I'll leave it there 😄😂

eta Just clocked your username. I doubt that very much. Unless you were being deadpan.