To question if I should continue to out with my DH

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Im curious to see what anyone else would do.

So Everytime we go on a night out or especially to a wedding, I'm left on my own. Family weddings are the worst because I'm left to be with his family whilst he heads off or again sitting on my own. It seems the more drink he gets the less he wants me around. I love to dance.. and when I go on the hunt for him.. he is on the dance floor or at the bar enjoying the fun with others..
Is this weird?

Why aren’t you going with him?

Im told he is going to get a drink. Or we are talking to someone and he disappears.

I head to the dancefloor and I could find him there.. he will avoid me on the dancefloor which is I find odd..

My husband is a social butterfly, much more than I am. At a recent family wedding I barely saw him! But we see each other for hours every day, so when we’re out it’s fine to spend time with other people, no?

Surely anyone else would ask him what he’s playing at, and to cut it out? Is there a drip feed coming about how awful he is generally?

My DH does this, he even did it at our wedding reception! He didn't do it before we were married, interestingly. I hate it, seems pointless going out with him if he's just going to bugger off and leave me the whole night.

Yes this is odd behaviour. You’re supposed to be out together. Has he always been this way?

Mine isn't a social butterfly which is why I find it odd..
It does seem really pointless going.

Not drip feed. I just find it odd

Do you drink OP and on the same scale as your DH? Perhaps he feels you’re a little boring when out and he likes to party, party, party?

New behavior.. he wasn't always like this.

I love fun and the chats. I love to dance. Im not sure how I could be boring.. I wouldn't be big into drinking but then again I don't need to drink have fun..

He's not going off to find ❄ is he? My previous partner had a drug problem and he would be in the loo or off with his mates every chance he got..

I hope that's not the case for you.

Does he get very sociable the more he drinks? Sounds like he wants to be off the leash from everyday life.

This would make sense..

Next time an event comes up for his family say I’m going to give this one a miss. When he asks why explain.

This is probably me too, why don’t you just go and talk to people and have a nice time? Why do you need him to chaperone you?

I’m not sure it’s a problem. He’s having a good time at an event you’ve gone to together, in order to have a good time?

If you love to dance, get up and dance with him! If you love to chat, then chat!

You don’t need to be joined at the hip, but if you go out to have fun then do just that - have fun! Don’t sit on the sidelines and complain when he gets bored of it.

if you’re not sociable or interested in going out then you don’t have to go. But I don’t think this is a DH problem I’m afraid. I also don’t think he’s going off for drugs either.

Find an attractive man to dance with instead of him.

I’d find it annoying if I knew dh was sat waiting for me all the time, he can chat and dance too. God we spend enough time together already

Drugs? Does he disappear to the toilets a lot?

Me too, I’ll often get caught up chatting or make a new friend. We don’t need to be joined at the hip at parties.
i get feeling weirder as it’s new behaviour though. I’ve always been like this.

You go off and find someone to chat to. Hide from him. See if he misses you, at least you’ll see what’s going on. I’m a social butterfly but so is my partner.

It happens with me and my DH. We're together all the time, parties are a chance to socialise with other people. We don't need to be by each other's side all night. Our own wedding was probably the most time we spent together at a party but even then we had times off talking or dancing with others individually.

Hide from him?! Really?

We hardly see each other throughout the day.
This doesn't happen if it's my family weddings or nights out with my friends. I would would hate the thought of him sitting on his own.

Definitely not drugs.

If you're not having fun, don't go.

You could try copying his behaviour at your next friends or family event. My guess is he'd have something to say.

Why would he be sitting on his own at your family weddings? He sounds sociable so surely he’d just go and chat to people.

Weddings are a great opportunity to catch up with old friends, and even make new ones. You don’t have to be joined at the hip all night.