To question if I should continue to out with my DH

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Im curious to see what anyone else would do.

So Everytime we go on a night out or especially to a wedding, I'm left on my own. Family weddings are the worst because I'm left to be with his family whilst he heads off or again sitting on my own. It seems the more drink he gets the less he wants me around. I love to dance.. and when I go on the hunt for him.. he is on the dance floor or at the bar enjoying the fun with others..
Is this weird?

For the posters criticising the OP her DH sticks to her side when they are at events for her family and friends.

If we were at an event where I didn’t really know anyone I would expect DH to be around me more, introducing me to his friends etc and vice versa

Not very nice for him to leave you in a situation where you don't know anyone, but surely at big events, assuming you either know people or he's introuced you to people, he's allowed to socialise?

I'd find it really weird to stay glued to DH'S side.

Yes, but that's you.

But where did I say I sit on the side not talking to anyone? I don't think I'm wrong for wanting to chat with my DH or dance with him at a social event throughout the night.

I also wouldn't class going to a wedding or a big event as a date, it's a social engagement to me - who h means being sociable.

What happens if you go and join him when he's dancing? Surely there is a group dancing and it's not invitation only?

Quiet a few points have missed I believe. But yes I don't think it's fair I'm must stick to his hip whilst at my event but expected to entertain his family or be on my own.

You came on here asking for people's opinions and peope are giving them.

What's the point if you dismiss those opinon as 'but that's you?' - it's what you were asking for? 🙄

My exH was like this. Preferred to drink and party than be with me and our kids. Always had traits of it; we are now divorced after his drinking and flirting pushed him into an affair when both my DC were babies. Couldn't stand the boredom of home life apparently. Second H was fantastic when we were out together, always checking in with me/very entertaining but including me etc.. world of difference. Like a PP, my first H was rarely seen on our wedding night - off smoking joints at every available opportunity, which progressed to ❄️after we had kids. Massive mid life crisis in IMHO. Trust your gut OP.

Why did you ask if you were being unreasonable then? I’m not being mean, from your responses to posts I can see that you have already decided and just want confirmation.

Exactly

Hide from him
Im sorry but this made me laugh! Im imagining op under a table or behind some coats in a cloakroom and jumping out saying 'surprise, surprise!!!

My understanding is, when we go out together...we go out together..- It's like going a date!

Your issue is seeing a wedding or a social night out, as ‘date night’.

It’s a social event where you mingle with other people.
If you were just going to stay with your DP the whole time then you could have just stayed at home together.

If you two are going out for a meal together, just the two of you on a date night and he disappears - then yes that would annoy me.

But if he’s socialising whilst at a social event then you don’t have any reason to be annoyed.

I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve been on the way to the bar or toilet and a great song has come on so I’ve headed to the dance floor instead or got chatting to someone.

We would separate at a party too. I get on great with his Dsis and Dbro. It wouldn’t bother me if he went wandering as long as he returned at different times. I’m probably the one who goes walking around talking to different people.

Wow this is awful behaviour he actually ignores you on the dance floor. Yeah I’d be continuing the ignoring and he wouldn’t see me for dust.

Hmmm, is there somebody at these events in your social or family circle that maybe he doesn't want to see him loved up with his wife.
Because similar happened to my Dsis, turns out Dbil was having an affair with someone very close to home.
Sorry posted too soon but he was obviously spinning the OW the line that he and Dsis were only still together for the kids and were divorcing 'soon'

You don't have to be stuck to him at your social events, presumably you choose to stay with him. Wander off and talk to other people at your events if that's what you want? Social events with family and friends are not date nights, they're for you to socialise with others. Date nights are for just the two of you.

Ohmigoodness your poor sister! Like what did he get out of doing that to her and their kids!

I think people are missing the fact that, we do not get out often together, we do see social events as having time together and socializing with others, his NEW behavior is clearing off, which nearly feels like avoiding me.

I appreciate other people's views/opinions. However for us we normally stay together and socialize together when at these events, we have always done this- yes he will go to the bar and chat or get distracted. HOWEVER, he would come back to me. There has been a shift which I feel is odd and not normal for us. At my family events he would be stuck to my hip and not like me leaving him on his own.

we normally stay together and socialize together when at these events, we have always done this- yes he will go to the bar and chat or get distracted. HOWEVER, he would come back to me. There has been a shift which I feel is odd and not normal for us.

So this is what needs raising. I would also notice an be unhappy about it (and would be wondering if there was some reason why he doesn’t want me around at these events).

Do you still have a normal vibe at home or if you go out just the two of you?