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New neighbour has asked us to stop construction on new home until daughter has finished exams.

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Grammarninja · 03/06/2026 19:34

This is such a tricky one for me. We bought a house that needed a complete overhaul a year ago. We've finally gotten through architects, planning permission and trying to find affordable builders etc. It has been stressful.
We broke ground this week and the neighbours have asked us to stop until dd has finished her exams in 3 weeks.
I really feel for the family and can't imagine how upsetting it must be for them at this crucial time (we had no idea they had a child sitting exams this summer). My husband has offered them an office at his work around the corner to facilitate study. I wouldn't mind postponing if it wouldn't cost us 30k to do so as builders are working to a set time frame. I wouldn't even mind the extra costs we'd incur through having to stay in our current accommodation for another month if it weren't for the builders' costs which we simply can't afford.
I'm worried now that we're going to start off on a terrible note with our new neighbours which would be such a shame considering my current neighbours are like family.
Are we being unreasonable to continue with the build in these circumstances?

OP posts:
Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:07

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:01

In your opinion?

In the meantime, I’ll decide if I feel it adds to the “debate”.

Well it doesn't.

Zucker · 04/06/2026 17:14

You couldn't afford anything turn key, but are spending €550,000 renovating a house that you've bought! Where is the house, Blackrock, City Centre, Bono's back yard? Holy Christ the rich neighbours will be worse to annoy 😨

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:15

Zucker · 04/06/2026 17:14

You couldn't afford anything turn key, but are spending €550,000 renovating a house that you've bought! Where is the house, Blackrock, City Centre, Bono's back yard? Holy Christ the rich neighbours will be worse to annoy 😨

Is "turn key" an Irish term?

Yes, I thought the same.

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:16

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:07

Well it doesn't.

But as much as you seem to think you’re the owner of this thread, you’re not, so your opinion means zilch.

JuliettaCaeser · 04/06/2026 17:17

No. It’s a widely used term in the construction industry.

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:18

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:07

🤥

This is brilliant!

Sums up your input brilliantly.

Like you own this post.

Thank you 🤣😆🤣🤣

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:19

JuliettaCaeser · 04/06/2026 17:17

No. It’s a widely used term in the construction industry.

Well known, if you known anything about construction.

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:19

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:16

But as much as you seem to think you’re the owner of this thread, you’re not, so your opinion means zilch.

I think what's more likely is that you aee the kind of person that always needs to have that last word.

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:20

JuliettaCaeser · 04/06/2026 17:17

No. It’s a widely used term in the construction industry.

Never heard of it.

Nordic89 · 04/06/2026 17:20

Troublein · 03/06/2026 19:39

They will hate you forever and you will deserve it.

You've been faffing around for a year from their perspective, then suddenly you want to make their daughters life harder while you live elsewhere so the noise and disruption doesn't bother you.

Oh stop it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:20

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:19

I think what's more likely is that you aee the kind of person that always needs to have that last word.

Do you mean are?

pot.kettle.black

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:21

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:20

Never heard of it.

🤔

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:21

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:18

This is brilliant!

Sums up your input brilliantly.

Like you own this post.

Thank you 🤣😆🤣🤣

I was being subtle but I think it's gone over your head. I was lying about being devastated.

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:22

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:21

I was being subtle but I think it's gone over your head. I was lying about being devastated.

Oh come now, that’s not true is it.

Nordic89 · 04/06/2026 17:22

MakingPlans2025 · 03/06/2026 19:40

Have you ever been next door to a house where an angle grinder is being used? Ear buds won’t touch the sides

Ear defenders will work. How do you know they are using angle grinders yet???

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:22

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:20

Do you mean are?

pot.kettle.black

Yes, my app keeps auto correcting

WhatsAWeekend · 04/06/2026 17:23

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:15

Is "turn key" an Irish term?

Yes, I thought the same.

No it’s not an Irish term
Its a developers term and used in the U.K. too

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:25

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:22

Oh come now, that’s not true is it.

Why would I want to be neighbours with an inconsiderate and reactive person.

chirrupybird · 04/06/2026 17:27

Once the builder has given you dates it will cost a fortune to delay things, you could ask the builder if there is anything he can do to reduce noise or maybe change the sequence of work, but the answer will be no or at a cost. Neighbours should have said something earlier I assume they got notice of planning permission?

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:27

WhatsAWeekend · 04/06/2026 17:23

No it’s not an Irish term
Its a developers term and used in the U.K. too

I have never heard the term being used by anyone recently.

Farawaytreemagic · 04/06/2026 17:29

The neighbour wasn’t unreasonable to ask at all.

Can you compromise at all? Such as noisy work during school hours when child might reasonably be at school? What is the routine for the builders? What time do they start and finish?

I think this might sour relations with the neighbours,especially if it affects how much their daughter is able to concentrate and possibly lower her grade, as a Mum to a child doing their GCSEs I’d be very annoyed at you n

noworklifebalance · 04/06/2026 17:31

Witchonenowbob · 04/06/2026 17:19

Well known, if you known anything about construction.

Definitely heard of it - maybe initially from Kirsty and Phil.
No idea if that is controversial on this thread - just clicked to see what the OP was asking that made it reach 40 pages within a day.

WhatsAWeekend · 04/06/2026 17:31

Goldenbear · 04/06/2026 17:27

I have never heard the term being used by anyone recently.

Then you’re not in the property or building industry
It exists as a standard term for completely ready to move into

WhatsAWeekend · 04/06/2026 17:33

Farawaytreemagic · 04/06/2026 17:29

The neighbour wasn’t unreasonable to ask at all.

Can you compromise at all? Such as noisy work during school hours when child might reasonably be at school? What is the routine for the builders? What time do they start and finish?

I think this might sour relations with the neighbours,especially if it affects how much their daughter is able to concentrate and possibly lower her grade, as a Mum to a child doing their GCSEs I’d be very annoyed at you n

If you read OPs posts they will be at home revising

WhatsAWeekend · 04/06/2026 17:35

chirrupybird · 04/06/2026 17:27

Once the builder has given you dates it will cost a fortune to delay things, you could ask the builder if there is anything he can do to reduce noise or maybe change the sequence of work, but the answer will be no or at a cost. Neighbours should have said something earlier I assume they got notice of planning permission?

Edited

OP said they have to do demolition first

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