To ask would you expect someone to look very different if they had lost 13 stone

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Or not

No. If someone think you look different t they are just fat phobic.

Yes. How could they not?

Even if they started off at 40 stone, losing 13 would still be obvious.

I assume it was supposed to be a joke or sarcasm or maybe they think they are making some sort of point.

People already look a lot different when they lose 2 or 3 stones, so what's a strange question

It appears to be yet another silly post and run with no context.

Yes, I know someone who lost a massive amount of weight and it took me a while to get used to seeing their new "look" at parkrun.

It depends what they weighed to begin with. If they were extremely obese - e.g. 40 stone - then people are likely to 'categorise' them as 'obese' and not notice weight loss while the person remains obese, as much as they would if the person weighed, say, 22 stone and the 13 stone loss brought them down to a healthy weight.

I’d expect someone to look very different after that amount of weight loss even if they were very obese to begin with.

I went from 21.5 to 11.5. I went from a 22/26 in size to 10/12!

I halved my weight from 26st to 13st. I got a lot of 'Congra ... tulations?' especially because I lost loads of hair too.

Nobody loses 80+kgs without looking substantially different. They might not look thin, but they will look different. I follow sumo and even with very large men, you can notice a visible difference with far smaller weight gains and losses than that.

Well, yes, of course. I am fat and I’m 15 stone. That’s basically an entire fat 5’9 adult woman give or take a bit. I’d expect someone to look like a completely different person. I know someone who lost a lot of weight on WLIs. I honestly didn’t recognise her. I thought she’d sold her business to an entirely different person.

Me too, I’d be imagining swathes of skin hanging from abdomen, arms and back!

Depends on where they started. At 40 stone, 13 stone wouldn't make a lot of difference visibly.

@Grammarninja There’s a huge visible difference between 254kg (40st) and 171kg (27st). A 171kg person will never look small, but they look very different at 250kg. Like I said, I follow sumo, where you get people at those sort of weights.
This photo shows what a 175kg man looks like standing next to a 250kg man. At the same height, the difference in build would be even more pronounced.

EDIT Apparently I can’t post the photo. If anyone is curious, you can see the picture here. https://tachiai.org/tag/dewanojo/page/2/ It’s the third one on this article.

Yes, 13 stone is a lot of fat so I’d expect them to look drastically different.

The most I’ve known someone lose is 9 stone. She went from huge to fairly normal sized.

When this has happened to friends m they’ve looked almost unrecognisable

Depending on what they weighted to begin with yes they would look very different. But that's not to say people would mention it. I lost 8 stone a few years ago. I look completely different. Not everyone I know has remarked on it. Probably as they don't know what to say. I think some people don't like to say you look good as that implies you looked awful before. Or they wonder if the weight loss is due to illness. Or they simply think it's not nice to make remarks about someone's weight, whether it is loss or gain. Or they simply don't define their friend by how much that friend weighs.

I've lost about ten stone I think and seem to be unrecognisable

I bumped into an ex colleague I'd not seen for a couple of years and he must have lost over 10 stone. He was entirely unrecognisable; the entire structure of his face seemed to have changed. He literally had to tell me who he was because I thought he was a stranger, and he said that he was finding lots of people didn't realise who he was.

Depends what their starting weight was and if they were hitting the gym and improving posture/muscles mass etc.

23 stone to 10 stone would be a huge difference.

43st to to 30st not so much.

I'm sure if I bumped into people I knew 10 years ago they absolutely would not recognise me if we hadn't kept in touch. If that's what is behind the OPs post that is the reason someone hasn't 'noticed'.

Yes - I’m assuming you lost this and no one has said anything? I have a family member that was never slim but not overweight either. In her 30’s she gained 200 pounds so obviously looked a lot different. Over the years she has lost 100 pounds (which is great) but is still 250 and I remember her as 150. We recently saw each other and I didn’t say anything - now I’m feeling bad that I didn’t. But I guess the reason I didn’t is that I remember her at 150 so 250 still seems like a lot on her, and I’ve only seen her several times in the past 20 years. Whereas as a child/teen I saw her several times a year and the 150 on her is the ‘Normal’ to me iykwim.

That's because you just see her as her though. A person. Not a number in a scale.

Don't feel bad. She will be very happy some people aren't commenting on her up and down weight loss. In that situation a positive comment can often be negative ( oooh look at all you have lost, but let's face it it will be back on again - either explicit or implied). You haven't. Lots of people will have. It was probably a relief you didn't mention it.

For a person whose weight fluctuates, the comments you get are 90% awful, disparaging dreadful comments that make you want to curl up and die.

I've been there for years. To talk to someone who just doesn't mention it is great. You did that for her.