AIBU this is NOT a moustache

[ChocHotolate]

My son (age 13) has been given a Saturday morning detention for having a moustache (not allowed at his school).
I have attached a pic, I don’t think this is a moustache and certainly not enough to shave.
Interested in what everyone thinks before I challenge the school.

YANBU @ChocHotolate there is barely anything there. How ludicrous your son's school is!

It's just a bit of bum fluff!

It seems pretty cruel to jump on young men's pride in their masculinity.

That would have been called a little bit of bum fluff in my day, you'd have been laughed out of school if you tried to say you had a moustache with that.

Definitely not a moustache and ridiculous that you can get a detention for facial hair.

What a mad rule! So boys have to shave their face to go to school now? Madness

I wonder if they would say the same to a girl who had some facial hair on her upper lip? 🤔

Wow my DS has more than that and he doesn’t want to start shaving yet. I don’t think it’s defiance or a fashion statement just not being ready to enter the world of daily shaving as yet. I would be very upset if the school forced this decision for something as minor as that. As has been said many women and girls have more than that!

Good grief. That's barely bloody visible! I'm pretty sure there are 13-year-old girls out there with as much of a 'moustache' as that. He certainly doesn't look like he's at a point where he'd need to start shaving.

(I also think banning boys from growing their facial hair is bad anyway. It's not like a moustache represents some sort of catastrophic failure of hygiene or grooming.)

He certainly has hair on his lip, albeit pale

Everyone, including women, has some hair on their top lip, and that's barely more than peach fuzz.

I was going to say this too, especially as this hair looks blonde but some girls have very dark facial hair which is more noticeable. I don’t think any child (or adult really) should be made to remove any hair they don’t want to

Way to go to make young people feel awkward about puberty.

They should not be punishing him for entering puberty.

Bet the teachers in peri can beat that ..utterly ridiculous..must he shave his arms too?

Dear lord, the world has gone insane. There was a 16 year old boy when I was at school who managed to grow a full beard! I seem to recall he had a friendly competition with one male teacher. I'd definitely challenge that.

It’s the over reaction - people nowadays seem to have going ‘ballistic’ as a default reaction to anything that they object to. I agree that it’s ridiculous but surely it’s better to model a reasoned response for your child than ‘going ballistic’

That’s ridiculous!

Of course it isn't.
Be careful of shaving that and causing skin problems.
Poor boy.
Disgraceful of the school.
Definitely challenge that.

This. And even if it were more of a recognisable moustache and they have a clean-shaven policy, wouldn't it be fairer to ask if he's considered starting shaving yet, rather than jumping straight to detention?

My moustache is bolder than his.

No way it’s a moustache and echo all the others saying what an awful rule! Would they insist a hairy girl must remove hair?

It's definitely not a full blown moustache. However, I never understand why boys don't start shaving when they start to grow facial hair like this as it's not a good look the half grown moustache.

Jesus, there's no hope for me (female) then. I have more hair on my upper lip and I aint shaving it, so suspension for me I guess. 😅😅

Unbelievable. I would fight this for as long as it takes for common sense to prevail.

This! A detention wouldn't be used as a first sanction for uniform violation, would it? I wonder if it's been imposed for something else that he hasn't told you about.

Bloody hell, the poor lad! Someone must be making it their business to inspect upper lips if they're spotting that. Ask if they're policing girls' facial hair as well.