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Neighbours fallen out with us

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Ilovewatchingthedrama · 01/06/2026 15:32

Could I have a bit of perspective on this please?

Our neighbours of many many years installed a high pitched bird scared in their back garden. It drives us crazy and it doesn’t actually stop the pigeons going into their garden. We have asked them a couple of themes if they could turn it off or at least down. When they refused we asked if they could at least leave it off until later in the morning as DD was sleeping in the back bedroom and it was waking her up. That was also met with a refusal. So the weather got nicer again and it meant we couldn’t sit in the back garden or have the patio doors open. We tried one last time but again they refused to turn it off stating what he did in his property was up to him - if only the sound stopped at the boundary that would be fair enough. we made a noise complaint to the council. They got a letter and we got a diary sheet to fill in. One of our other neighbours spoke to them (they are also sick of the noise but not willing to do anything about it) and he told them nothing was going to change. Someone else must have made a complaint as the council guy came out to him and told him to remove it. Neighbour is now chatting shit about us and the easy going relationship we had has gone forever. I know how different noises can be perceived differently by different people but we couldn’t stand that high pitched whining.

was I unreasonable to take whatever steps necessary to allow me to use my garden ?

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Ilovewatchingthedrama · Yesterday 22:34

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · Yesterday 21:21

If the Council.are involved. I would leave it with them to take legal action.

Your neighbour sounds like a grade one prat. Likes throwing their weight around, winding people up and thinks that there is only them in the world.

Unfortunately, this country is full.of.people like that..

Hope you get it sorted..

Thanks, he is the sort that wants everyone to like him but he his behaving like a child trying to get the neighbours to think badly of us just because he didn’t get his own way. A bit like kids “ I’m not their friend so I don’t want you to be their friend” sort of thing.

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Ilovewatchingthedrama · Yesterday 22:39

Hangingcrystal · Yesterday 18:27

Get a camera up front and back, a decent one.
It might give him pause if he can see clearly that he will be recorded.
Are you allowed to have flood lights that impact your neighbours gardens?

He has his front and back gardens covered by cctv (and probably a good chunk of our front garden as well) and he has lots of lights in his garden. Our front would be covered by the ring camera it we have nothing at the back. I maybe have to have a good think about getting something for the back

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changeme4this · Yesterday 23:06

You ‘could’ position a motion activated spotlight aimed directly at his camera, when the spotlight hits it as long as nothing is in-between the camera will only show the white of the light..

anyhow these people were never your friends. The neighbours who complain but don’t want to officially address the problem are just as bad. Doesn’t help you of course but you know where the line is in the sand now as to who will help or not..

our nearest neighbour now has 3 dogs who bark all afternoon. If someone is at home they rarely come out to tell the dogs off. Neighbour up the road sent me a message the other week asking whose bloody dogs were barking etc et. That neighbour now had a business relationship with our dog neighbours so I asked her did she speak up about the dogs barking and she hadn’t and isn’t going to…

I’ve had two conversations with dog neighbour so they know and one was initiated by them so I presume someone else spoke up. Nothing has changed so it will be a call to animal control shortly.

we have a restraining order on another neighbour, he has been in the road for about 20 years and is known to police. Threatens people he doesn’t like when he gets the chance and did it to me.
I’m surprised at the number of men and women who won’t speak up! Again we do not consider these people to be friends, but by not speaking up, it enables bad behaviour to continue….

AllTheChaos · Today 00:12

I accidently YABU - but you aren’t! You really aren’t!

PyongyangKipperbang · Today 01:38

Ilovewatchingthedrama · Yesterday 22:34

Thanks, he is the sort that wants everyone to like him but he his behaving like a child trying to get the neighbours to think badly of us just because he didn’t get his own way. A bit like kids “ I’m not their friend so I don’t want you to be their friend” sort of thing.

He acts like Billy Big Bollocks because no one has ever dared stand up to him before, and now you have he has nowhere to go with it. I very much doubt he will retaliate, he will simply pretend it never happened once he realises that you actually have a lot of the other neighbours on your side.

I wouldnt be at all surprised if their house is on the market sooner rather than later.

dayslikethese1 · Today 03:46

Sounds cruel, what's wrong with birds in the garden 😕

user1492757084 · Today 03:58

Look into visual and movement activated bird frighteners.
Some have good reviews.

Your neighbour might find them useful.

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