AIBU to think 33 is not too late to start TTC?

[Anxietiess]

To think 33, nearly 34 isn't too late to start TTC 1st baby?

Just looking for reassurance here. I've only just started feeling ready and wanting to have a child. We have a once in a lifetime holiday booked for early next year, so thinking of TTC after this. AIBU to think I've plenty of time? No medical conditions, fit and well, ovulating normally as far as I can tell.

I got pregnant with my first child at 33, had her at 34. Followed by my second at 37 and third at 39. No issues conceiving but everyone is different x

sorry misclick, definitely not unreasonable isn’t that the average sort of age?

You never know. I ttc after I was married at your age. Took 10yrs and 5 private ivf to get my one and only ever bfp

unexplained infertility

so I was a mum at almost 44. Wanted to be 33

Mini blondes is now 9 and I’m almost 53

many will say you have loads of time. And prob do but some don’t fall easily. Like me

Why would it be too late?

not at all , very average these days I reckon

Absolutely not. I think early to mid 30s is pretty standard nowadays for baby making territory!

I would start taking some prenatal a few mknths before the trip and enjoy the trip contraception free!

I know some people will say "Oh you might have difficulty and could take years" etc... and it might. But if you aren't ready now, you aren't ready. Waiting a year won't really affect you hugely right now.

Why on earth would you think that?

It's not too late, but it is quite late; it depends how important having a baby is to you.

Of course it's not too late. What gave you that idea?
It's true that fertility gradually declines after 35, and after 40 the chances of conception decrease more noticeably as women start perimenopause. But at 33, having children is still completely normal by today's standards, and many women have healthy pregnancies well into their late 30s.

Absolutely not! Good luck with it.

Please enlighten us on the medical reasons why you believe having a child at 33 is "quite late."

I was 35. All was fine. I didn't want to try again though.

Conceived first at 33 had at 34 (couple of weeks after my birthday). Second was born a day before I turned 39.

Completely normal these days. All my friends had their firsts in their early-mid thirties, except one who was 28 (and freaked out as it was an accident and she’d wanted to wait a few more years). Is it not the norm in your area OP?

It is the norm here - I've only just really got into my career as it took many many years studying and I wanted to have it all completed before children. I've no reason to be worried, I think I'm just an anxious person! And hear lots of stories about it taking ++++ years etc. I'm not sure if I've being too naive to think it won't take long.

I had ds 2 months before i turned 34.No issues.ds is 12 now and im 46 dont feel like i should have had him any earlier at all.

In all likelihood it will be totally fine, that is a very normal age, and on the young side where I live. No one can tell you for sure though. My SIL started at 30 and it took 7 years with fertility treatment (unexplained infertility.) One of my best friends tried at 40 and got pregnant the first month. If you are really concerned you could always do some fertility basic checks to reassure yourself. X

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42 starting ivf

Big hugs because 33 is plenty possible. Go for it! Be patiently prepared for a few months' active campaign after you swear off the pills.

I had DD1 at 35 and DD2 at 38. They were/are both perfect.
Go for it!

Similar to you I wanted to be established in my career, be a few years in our house (so we weren't worrying about money trying to do it up a bit), then we got married and started TTC straight after that. I was 29 when we started TTC and unfortunately it did take me a few years. I had multiple losses but had my first at 31.

At 33, even if it took you 2/3 years you'd still be young enough. I'm 33 now and expecting my 2nd. My stepsons mother had a baby last year and she's just turned 40... she was 35 when she met her now husband. My best friend is 35 and has 4 kids. All this to say there is no hard and fast rule and it needs to be what you and your partner want.

I don’t think anecdotal date will help here - there’s probably no way of knowing until you try.

That was an average age among my friends and most of us did conceive easily, though a couple had IVF.

I don’t blame you at all for waiting til now - I waited til I had stable career and married (34) because I didn’t want kids earlier.

I'm glad I didn't have them earlier - I didn't want to be a Mum in my 20s (although I understand why people do!). I just hope I don't regret my decision to wait.

I've just had my first at 38, and I plan on a second. No issues and we're in a stable tested marriage and financially secure. I'd say in Edinburgh where I live 33 would be on the lower end of the first time mum spectrum, most are around the 38-40 mark.

aha active campaign made me laugh!

It may take a little while depending on what contraception you’re currently on when you come off it, I think the pill can take up to a year or so for your cycle to regulate, I had the coil so got pregnant the next month after it was removed! Conceived straight away at 32 and 34. I’m now 37 and we were actually trying to avoid ovulation and found ourselves pregnant for a third time 🤣 (now a much wanted baby) so it’s definitely possible to not have issues conceiving in your 30’s.

Try and keep healthy/active and don’t smoke! Good luck!