Would you tell a woman her gym leggings were see through?

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Regular gym class. Behind a woman today who was wearing black leggings, looked fine when she was standing but as soon as she bent over they were completely see through, almost like a pair of 30 denier tights. Could see colour and shape of underwear. Would you have told her at end of class?

I was planning on doing but she was chatting to another class member at the end and stayed on for the next class so couldn't grab her outside. Feel bad now but also wasnt sure how she would react??

I think people on this thread are assuming that everyone wears underwear under their gym leggings. Sadly some do not

Exactly!

they can confirm that a random stranger is bothered that the leggings she uses in a gym class are see-through? 😂Mind readers are we?

I think if you read the interchange again, you might understand it. The thread confirms that it isn’t odd at all to think that a person might choose to wear more discreet leggings, if in full awareness of their inadequate coverage.

maybe do read yourself, because I can see a lot of these, to quote just one:

She probably already knows seems to be a fad atm

Nope. She probably knows and wore them for that reason.

Oh ok. Thanks.

This hypothesis simply has to be a fact, I guess. Presenting any hypothesis baldly means it’s true.

What are you talking about.

I would. I pulled over in my car the other day to tell an older lady that her skirt was tucked into her knickers... Why wouldn't you try to save someone's embarrassment.

That’s a bit different though - nobody intends to have their dress in their kecks

As long as she’s not indecent (which she isn’t as the OP could only see her kecks), it’s nobody’s business.

Look the other way 🤷‍♀️

There are plenty of unpleasant sights when you go out in public, let people get on with it

You might appreciate it, but many would not and the reaction could just as easily be extreme embarrassment or an aggressive rebuttal.

The funny thing is, in this thread, people vary in their responses. So weird isnt it.

Mental health is not a gift that all are in receipt of. Aggressive rebuttals being so widely feared is a proof of this. Relaxed happy people don’t aggressively rebut helpfulness, even if the help isn’t required.

No, most definitely not.

This. Maybe she knows and she doesn't care. Maybe she wants attention. Maybe she doesn't. Maybe she wears them because they are cool, being thinner, and she's not interested in others opinions about it...

How do you tactfully tell someone that you can see through their gym clothes and suggest you're doing it out of concern instead of being a bully? Especially since they may not share your "concern".

It's just a hard no for me.

Yup. The first was what used to happen when we told girls at work (in a Scottish high school) that their underwear was showing through their 'leggings' (actually woollen tights, IMO). They'd wear bright red underwear through crochet/knitted type leggings.

That's different. With regard to the leggings, I suspect that the wearer knows.

I would be so incredibly grateful if someone told me this! And would admire them for being brave enough to let me know and risk getting a negative reaction.
I only tell people stuff - discreetly - when they are in a position to do something about it though, like spinach in teeth or skirt tucked into pants. And I always preface it with - ‘I would want someone to tell me this….’

But after reading this thread, am wondering whether this is a v bad idea as many posters seem to feel is rude 🧐

WTF? Relaxed happy people don’t go round commenting on the appearance of others. If the recipient of the ‘advice’ intended to dress like that, it just makes it sound like a stranger is trying to embarrass the other person.

Some people just prefer strangers to mind their own business 🤷‍♀️

That’s because it is, if it is a stranger. I am ND so it probably colours my view but it can actually be more humiliating for someone to take you aside.

And prefacing like that wouldn’t soften it. I would be embarrassed that someone had judged me to the point they had to say something under the guise of ‘being kind’.

Thank you @Anarchy99 I will bear this in mind in future 👍🏼
It is a bit of a minefield. I would be aghast if I discovered too late that the bum of my leggings was almost worn through, even more so if I’d been in a class with a whole bunch of women who had said NOTHING 🙈 For me it would be a real failure of the Girl Code.

People who are embarrassed will often become aggressive (or apparently so) to cover their embarrassment. So you're more likely to get a 'fuck off' but those leggings absolutely never appearing in public again.

what the heck is the "girl code"!

If someone comes to tell me they dont' like seeing my bum in my leggings, I would be neither embarrass or ashamed but would tell them to look somewhere else if that's so triggering for them 😂

Skirt in a knicker is obviously not a fashionable preference, but an accident, of course you tell them.