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Heatwave water deaths - campaign required

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aurpod1980 · Today 06:56

I saw the tragic news of two more lives lost in the heatwave, in water.

I believe there needs to be some sort of National campaign to warn people of the dangers of open water on hot days - or any day.

so many lives lost.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn0p7j3lwepo

Search and rescue teams at the side of a pond

Teenage boys die in Kent and Oxford in latest heatwave water deaths

The body of a boy is recovered from a pond in Kent, while another teen dies in the River Thames in Oxford.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cn0p7j3lwepo

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Octavia64 · Today 08:07

There are.

the whole reason swimming is on the school curriculum (at a lot of hassle and expense to schools) is to teach basic swimming skills and make parents and kids aware that it’s a skill that needs to be learned.

there is also the float to live campaign.

https://rnli.org/safety/float

JustAnUdea · Today 08:07

While I hate making things about Covid...

Todays mid teens are the ones who missed out on School swimming. And had "normal" swimming lessons disrupted.

I did ask my 13&14yos whter they did water safety at school. They couldnt recall any.
But recently had a lesson about not accepting lifts from strangers.... they were bemused as they saw it as something you explain to younger children.

I agree though.. teenagers do think they are invincible.

Roastiesarethebestbit · Today 08:08

I work in a secondary school. We’ve had an assembly this year on water safety. It was pretty hard hitting. I hope it gives some of the teens pause for thought. Though sadly
some
seem to think they are invincible.

WillieBanjo · Today 08:08

cauliflowercheeseplease · Today 07:19

Sadly the youth of today are a law unto their own. I live near a big lake and constantly see teenage boys going to it everyday at the moment. There are more than enough signs and warnings surrounding it to tell them how dangerous it is but obviously they know best. I genuinely don’t think it’s the parents fault here either, I live in a lovely area with great schools.. it’s teenager boys entitled, defiant don’t care behaviour.

I really disagree that dangerous swimming in open water is a youth of today issue. It was part of the summer where I lived as a child.

My friend went against his mum's wishes to not go, as his Dad had swam there as a kid, so I would agree that there is a teenage boy defiance there ( and it's proportionally Teen Boys), but they don't deserve to die for being utterly stupid.

Passingthrough123 · Today 08:09

aurpod1980 · Today 07:23

but where might these teens see/hear something? Like something hard hitting to stop them. It’s so so sad to wake up to hear more news like this and it seems it’s more than ever before.

There are lots of things teen boys don’t do wrong - there has to be something they they’ll see or hear?

What about parental responsibility? If you live near a body of water where your teens might go, you should've been drumming it into them from a young age. Why does it have to be the state's responsibility to educate them about this?

LarksAscending · Today 08:10

MonteStory · Today 08:03

School swimming lessons should be free, government funded from year 1-9. Once they can swim they should be doing life saving skills including a few open water sessions.

I agree the issue here is mostly ignorance - most teens can swim but they massively over estimate their abilities and under estimate the risks. Regular water safety sessions in PE (where children get in the water, not just lectures) would make the world of difference.

Thr inclusion of ‘swimming lessons’ in the national curriculum but the refusal to fund it is absolutely shameful. My kids primary don’t offer any swimming lessons at all any more which they justify by ‘we checked with our current y6 and they can all swim 25m’

With what money? The government doesn’t even fund glue sticks in classrooms

Fluffybuns88 · Today 08:10

rwalker · Today 08:05

I think the mum of a lad who sadly died campaigned and it is going to be added to the curriculum

we live on the coast with rivers and canals
i think people just bang on at there kids about not doing it but with the best will in the world they will do it
I’ve taken mine in the sea and rivers since being small taught them how to get in gradually and climatize themselves
checking depth and currents

we have a local beauty spot and irresponsible parents just let the kids in the water with 1/2 arsed effort at watching them
I don’t go now as I can’t settle it genuinely frightens me

educate them don’t try and stop them
in an ideal world they wouldn’t go in but the more you can try and manage the risk the better

as for swimming it’s a life skill but a lot of parents see it as the schools job not there’s

Also a lot of people think it just about being able to swim they couldn’t be more wrong

not to mention tomb stoning there a notice up at that beauty spot where they jump off the bridge about people killed and paralysed
snd they still do it you can’t educate stupid

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I literally had a conversation a couple of days ago with DS about how you should never just jump into water without testing and getting used to it first. I did this once when I was a teen and it was one of the most scary experiences, it literally steals your breath and your body fights between breathing and staying a float. My friend was with me coaching my breathing within seconds whilst helping me float, it took so long to catch my breath.

ChalkOutlines · Today 08:12

It’s not just kids tbh. The worst/reckless behaviour I’ve seen was from men /fathers . Not only are they modelling that recklessness, but they’re encouraging their kids to join in. I sit with DD watching sometimes and tell her “see that man there? That’s exactly what you DON’T do!”. Doesn’t hurt that a few times said man came out all bloodied and struggling .

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · Today 08:12

LlynTegid · Today 07:21

TV public information films instead of endless commercial or promotions between programmes would be good, but given how low tv audiences are, not very effective.

This but in schools as well as on prime time tv. And proper scary ones too - the ones we saw in 70s/80s were scary but effective.

bafta16 · Today 08:12

aurpod1980 · Today 07:23

but where might these teens see/hear something? Like something hard hitting to stop them. It’s so so sad to wake up to hear more news like this and it seems it’s more than ever before.

There are lots of things teen boys don’t do wrong - there has to be something they they’ll see or hear?

I suppose some sort of absolutely full on heartwrenching testaments from bereaved families might just get through. But who will be funding and who would wish to do this?
To quote a friend who is a manager in Education " There are no services, we're running on fumes"

PartyQuestion30th · Today 08:15

I still remember the awful warningfilms they showed in the early 80s, still petrified of farms, crossing railway lines and swimming in anything other than a pool. They worked. https://www.bbc.co.uk/videos/cv2g0jvdvexo

A child screams

The public information films we'll never forget

From stranger danger to playing in electricity substations - the public information films of the 1970s were often truly terrifying.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/videos/cv2g0jvdvexo

Lapplach · Today 08:16

I feel like a slow-burn message from primary would be no bad thing. We seemed to spend huge amounts of time at primary in the 90s learning about road safety, farm safety (ritual area), not playing on ice, even not dropping litter. We just don't have time to do that now because we're too busy teaching 9 year olds the difference between the perfect and continuous tenses or about improper fractions. I always talk to my class about not playing on ice and feel like it's my personal crusade in the winter but there's no requirement for that sort of thing at all and there's no time for actual lessons on it, just snatched conversations when really you should be doing something else.

HRTQueen · Today 08:16

A campaign by a mother after her son died from cold water shock on a hot day has lead to this being taught in schools (not sure if this has started yet) it’s called Doing It for Dylan her determination and hard work to get this far has been relentless

it’s so sad and she isn’t the only mother campaigning because their child has died in similar circumstances

I agree that teenage boys are often reckless but if the messages get through to just a few then that could potentially save a life

MonteStory · Today 08:17

LarksAscending · Today 08:10

With what money? The government doesn’t even fund glue sticks in classrooms

So that’s that then? It’s expensive so we won’t bother?

The money used to develop and administer SATs might be a good place to start.

Perrygreen · Today 08:18

Swimming lessons would be more useful if they taught swimming for health, safety and lifesaving.
In my day, 80's, we didn't have to muck around with getting our dolphin and butterfly strokes. That was ignored and we just did a decent crawl and breaststroke for 15 mins, treading water for ages (not the pissy 1 minute they get kids to do now) and lifesaving skills.

Most swim curriculums seem to be about spotting the next Olympians rather than getting kids strong and water safe for life.

Passingthrough123 · Today 08:19

PartyQuestion30th · Today 08:15

I still remember the awful warningfilms they showed in the early 80s, still petrified of farms, crossing railway lines and swimming in anything other than a pool. They worked. https://www.bbc.co.uk/videos/cv2g0jvdvexo

They worked because we never saw any other images or films like them. Now we can go online and see the most graphic images of bodies being blown apart in wars (if we seek it out). Public broadcasts won't have the same impact because they'll be too vanilla.

VickyEadie · Today 08:19

Greenwitchart · Today 07:33

I think rather than more campaigns what we need is to make sure that kids learn to swim and receive some awareness of potential dangers as part of the school curriculum.

That means having enough swimming pools and swimming lessons.

Parents as usual should be doing their jobs and make sure their kids can swim and are warned of what could go wrong.

It seems like one in three people in the UK cannot swim properly so funding lessons and not closing swimming pools to me seem more important than wasting money on campaigns when as people have said there is already signage around asking people to be careful.

It's the ones who CAN swim that tend to take the risks, though!

bafta16 · Today 08:19

MonteStory · Today 08:17

So that’s that then? It’s expensive so we won’t bother?

The money used to develop and administer SATs might be a good place to start.

Running on fumes. SATS, utter waste of time.

getwiththeprogram · Today 08:19

aurpod1980 · Today 07:23

but where might these teens see/hear something? Like something hard hitting to stop them. It’s so so sad to wake up to hear more news like this and it seems it’s more than ever before.

There are lots of things teen boys don’t do wrong - there has to be something they they’ll see or hear?

Parents job.

Spacemountain · Today 08:20

Swim lessons and education around the dangers of swimming are vital but signs of drowning also need to be taught. Movies have made us think it is yelling for help and flailing around but it is not. If everyone was aware of the signs they could get help quicker or assist in getting the person out the water if safe to do so.

AngelinaFibres · Today 08:20

aurpod1980 · Today 07:24

What about in the games they play? Like fornite? Are there adverts? What about one of the big influencers/musicians etc they follow? Could say something.

Teenage boys brains are wired to be attracted to risk. Its why they behave as they do.
Add in group dynamics,bravado and lager and any thought of 'that's stupid, we shouldn't do that' goes out of the window. Its why so many of them wrap their cars around trees.
I live near Malvern. We have Gullett quarry. A young man drowned because it's a deep quarry and the water is unbelievably cold. There are fences and sign after sign about the danger. I dare say there have been young men up there over half term trying to break in.

HidingFromDD · Today 08:23

Overall numbers of drownings since the 80s have roughly halved, although I couldn’t find stats on this particular type. There is already multiple sources of information giving the same messages, particularly in a heat wave.

while I don’t disagree that this is tragic, there needs some specific thought on how you get these across so they land.

godmum56 · Today 08:24

aurpod1980 · Today 07:27

Well plenty is sold to teens and they hear about it somehow. Tik Tok? Snapchat.

i spent a day shopping with my DD yesterday and marketing is going right somewhere as they’re all clones!

So these teens - there is a way to to reach them.

ermmmm? parents? Mind you locally its a thing to jump off a local dual lane A road overpass into the tidal river below and has been for at least the 30 years I have lived here, and some 50 years ago when i lived in London, it used to be a thing for boys to jump off some of the Thames bridges andf one boy I know broke his neck doing it. I guess its like the young drivers thing, there will always be (mainly) young men who think they are immortal.

godmum56 · Today 08:25

AngelinaFibres · Today 08:20

Teenage boys brains are wired to be attracted to risk. Its why they behave as they do.
Add in group dynamics,bravado and lager and any thought of 'that's stupid, we shouldn't do that' goes out of the window. Its why so many of them wrap their cars around trees.
I live near Malvern. We have Gullett quarry. A young man drowned because it's a deep quarry and the water is unbelievably cold. There are fences and sign after sign about the danger. I dare say there have been young men up there over half term trying to break in.

absolutely this.