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Have we, in the UK, become selfish, lawless and irresponsible?

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Commencethe · 27/05/2026 08:12

This Bank Holiday seems to have descended into chaos and honestly I am starting to wonder what is happening to people generally.

This weekend alone there have been reports, tragically, of teenagers drowning in rivers and reservoirs, emergency services unable to reach one incident because of illegal parking, beauty spots gridlocked with abandoned cars, beaches overwhelmed with people drinking and taking drugs to excess, fights, weapons, rubbish left everywhere, police being called because a pair of teenagers were apparently having sex openly in a park, and racist outrage because a tourist attraction acknowledged Eid and invited people to celebrate it.

What strikes me is that this feels much wider than just young people behaving badly. Adults blocking roads and verges because they cannot be bothered to park properly. Families leaving litter behind. People ignoring safety warnings around open water. Whole communities unwilling to challenge awful behaviour because someone else should deal with it.

And every time there is discussion afterwards, the blame immediately goes to lack of education, the police, the council, schools, anyone except the individuals involved, their parents, or society more broadly.

I also wonder whether increasingly populist politics and public discourse have plays a role. Constant anger, division and disrespect towards other people, experts, authority and even basic rules seems to have filtered into everyday behaviour. More entitlement, less responsibility, less thought for anyone else.

At what point did personal responsibility disappear? When did we stop caring about our impact on other people or lose any sense of community?

It all feels increasingly selfish, lawless and entitled. Less consideration, less accountability, less self discipline.

Have standards genuinely collapsed or am I overreacting and being unreasonable?

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Badbadbunny · 30/05/2026 14:55

Commencethe · 29/05/2026 12:25

As they try to pick up the pieces of austerity and fill the many, many gaps left (or not if taxes do not rise and the country has less money to spend).

My LA had to save £5 million each year under the Conservatives. This was year on year. They did meet the budget constraints but so much public service lost ( early years support and safeguarding oversight, school transport, SEND support, school services ended, budgets slashed, family centres gone, youth centres and teams gone, libraries (apart from where they are ran by volunteers), council offices closed and sold.

And that is just in the Children and Young People Service. Think of the same across a whole range of council departments. ( Adult Social Care, Highways, Planning, Environment to name a few).

Our village and the next nearest village lost our libraries back around 2005 under a Labour government and Labour controlled county council. This cutting of public services had been ongoing for decades, not just the Tory years. Ironically, the council had spent £300k on renovating the library just a year before they closed it - utter stupidity, and then they wonder why there's no money!

Papster · 31/05/2026 15:23

HoppingPavlova · 29/05/2026 02:02

Ironically Covid was supposedly reigniting community spirit, care for others etc

Bolllocks. Covid created more discord than anything else. As I said earlier, it pretty much sent communities back to a Nazi regime with neighbours spying on each other, people clashing over it and ‘dobbing in’. Just look at the posts from Mumsnet at the time! It created extreme distrust in individuals and exactly the opposite of community spirit a lot of the time.

Covid actually created sense of selfish entitlement

Per above, yes and no. It did, but that’s what happens when people have contrast in each other, there is community breakdown. When you come out of that, people then move forward just operating in their own orbit.

You obviously skipped the word, supposedly

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