British behaviour in holiday hotel

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We are staying at a good all inclusive resort (yes, I know all inclusive is not high end, but this is about as good a one as you can get). I am just shocked and ashamed at fellow british people at breakfast time. Letting their kids make a huge mess by allowing them to get their own food. Huge amounts of wasted food. Multiple untouched plates left on tables. Total disregard for others barging round, blocking walkways etc. When did this become ok?? AIBU with expectations? Bear in mind this is not a cheap rubbish tui-blue type place. I dread to think what they are like!

I think unfortunately this is true. I do also think people in general have just got really entitled and inconsiderate lately, particularly when it comes to lazy / gentle parenting (puts hard hat on…..).

I do 😁

British behaviour? Have you never encountered people from other countries abroad? Trust me, it's not just Brits that are rude/entitled/messy.

Oh god yes so true- I forgot about our northern friends- the Swedish are mad too 😂🙈

Have you seen what happens when a non-parent tries to correct the behaviour of someone else's kid? I tried it once - in our last house all the neighbourhood kids started using my front garden as a hanging out/meeting point for some reason - I don't even have kids with my partner - they'd literally sit on my grass, climb on our little wall, throw sweet wrappers, bounce the ball against my windows, you name it. It was so odd. I asked them to stop once. I was polite.

OMG the reaction of one of the mothers. Came round all guns blazing, threatened to knock me and my partner out. Then her husband came round later and threatened the exact same. Yes we called the police but we really would rather have avoided that kind of aggro. All she had to do was apologise and tell her kid not to do it again, but of course with some people, their kids can do no wrong. She was a nosy moo who didn't work, and she made sure all her little cronies in the area made our lives there a misery.

It is quite noticeable in some resorts that British kids don’t necessarily know how to sit at a table and eat. Constantly jumping up and down, running back for more food. I do think French and Spanish kids understand the concept of dining tables and table manners much more.

I really disagree with it just bring british people. We have stayed st a very expensive all inclusive with multiple a la cartes too. Plenty of different nationalities allowing pile ups of food, one large table of 8 were collecting the display trays of deserts for the table, being stopped by staff. They were middle Eastern. No queuing ever from other nationalities. I think some brits go wrong with the alcohol but no worse than ither kids with food concerns

French and Spanish people aren’t very big users of holiday resorts. The French tend to holiday in their own country more, and the Spanish sometimes holiday locally more but are also generally poorer than other Europeans to take these big summer hols

This is simply untrue, like others have said how much experience do you have of other nationalities.

Well it isn't about me, but my last break this winter was 3 months in Asia. We don't like flying for much less time because we can't justify the environmental impact.

We do travel in France, Spain and Portugal in autumn most years, we use a tent though, not a caravan and stay in quiet areas. Yes we allow other people to dictate our choices to the extent of on the whole avoiding travelling at peak times and avoiding tourist areas. We are lucky in that we are able to do that.

Re the pyramids - I'm sure you are aware they are on the edge of the city and the experience is not what people expect. Again we avoided the worst by arriving at 5am in January, it was pretty quiet.

We don't do boat trips on grockle boats - we had many years on our own yacht and wouldnt enjoy being around people drinking and preferred swimming off our own boat in the ocean, without other people around, which is a privilege for which I'm still grateful.

So there you are. Some of us are very lucky and privileged to be able to do things without relying on being with other people.

I must admit to frequenting Carrefour when I lived in Spain, but I can't vouch for the Brie. We bought our cheeses mostly in the local market.

I have Danish family stayed at a five star hotel in Spain with them and most of the guests were French or Spanish. The French children were very highly strung, their manners and ability to quietly sit at a table didn't stand out at all!

You are quite wrong.

Bollocks. I’m surrounded by quite posh people and they almost all go AI. Usually Ikos and Sani in Europe and then upscale places in the Caribbean, Maldives etc.

The poshest of course have second homes but look around any Ikos and you’ll hear a few plums in mouths

Yeah, chinny reckon

It is you who is wrong. Have you ever been skiing, it is most certainly those listed above causing all the obnoxious behaviour. In fact, IME there aren't many Brits that ski compared to other European countries so I know that bad tourist behaviour is not just a Brit thing.

They usually do, in fact. Why is it that British parents have badly behaved DC - at home or abroad?

Again, you don't sound well travelled or much experience of children outside of the UK

They don't, they have a nation of self hating self obsessed citizens who think anything forrin is exotic superior and perfect (o)

it’s a unique trait from a life time of class rule, imperialism and boot licking

It sounds amazing, and I would not judge you for it - but I assume having a private yacht also has an environmental impact? As does flying (albeit I know you said you go long haul to minimise this).

People choose their own priorities/red lines around this stuff. Maybe those going to AI resorts are meticulous recyclers or volunteer at hedgehog sanctuaries or eschew cars in favour of rollerblading everywhere. 😁

You can't envisage people living my lifestyle, but there it is. And I vote Labour.

Cheap rubbish TUI Blue?? We paid over 10k for the one in the Maldives and have been to most of them, none of which have been under 3k.
I am assuming you only book via high end bespoke travel agents, well unfortunately for you even some people with feral children have money to spend. Maybe a villa or self catering would be a better fit?

I know people who live such a lifestyle.

The ’brits Abroad’ are notoriously vile and poorly behaved; this is nothing new. All Europeans know it and despise it.

Yes it’s embarrassing if you’re a decent British person.

It's not just AI. I was at a B&B adults only hotel. Quite an expensive one. There was always prosecco out for breakfast - I think the idea was to make mimosas. Anyway, one youngish lad had a row with his girlfriend, she stormed off and he proceeded to get a whole bottle, take it to his table, rang his mate and spent the next hour effing and blinding about what a b*tch she was at the top of his voice.

I think you created a misleading impression with “private yacht” as most people envision something like Abronavich’s that cost tens of millions. We know people who own ocean going boats that cost considerably less than that.