AIBU to refuse removing lilies because next door’s cats keep coming in?

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Next door neighbours cats frequently cause a nuisance to me. Pooing in my garden , getting in the house if back door or windows open etc. I shoo them out or pick up the poo it annoys me but I tolerate it.

She has messaged me today (she can see directly into my conservatory from her garden and she is always staring ) asking me to shut my windows / door or to get rid of my flowers as they are poisonous to cats! They are 2 bunches of Lillies that family got me for my birthday yesterday! I also have some in a pot in the garden and various other flowers. I’ve messaged back and said maybe she needs to make her cats indoor cats as I’m not changing anything and that the cats will be fine as I’ve had the same flowers in the garden for a month and they’ve not gone near that pot (dig up my other ones though to use as litter trays!) so I’m not getting rid of my ones in vases in my own home just in case her cats come in !!!!!

Sounds like you need to paint more lillies to reduce the pooing problem ….

She should cat-proof her garden. More / all people should really.

Your neighbour needs to be ignored, talk about entitlement!
id not want cats to come to any harm but I’d not want them in my garden either!, as for clearing up their poo, I’d bag it and drop it round to the owner, maybe she’ll get the hint.

I’d also possibly buy lots of fake lilies and put them in every windowsill!

she is being beyond ridiculous telling you want you can and can’t have In your own home!

I never had Lillys in the house when I had a cat but I did have them in the garden and never gave it a second thought until now! I wouldn’t dream of dictating to the neighbours what plants they should have!

Lilies are horrifically toxic for cats - I would never have them in the house even though we tend to have flowers on the mantle where our cat would never go. Other flowers can give a cat an upset tummy if they ate them, but lily poisoning is pretty much a death sentence if they ingest pollen or any part of the plant. (Most likely scenario is pollen drops, cat walks through pollen and it’s on cat’s paws, cat licks paws.) I dug up a load of lily of the valley last year (in our own garden!) because I stupidly hadn’t clicked that was part of the same family.

Your neighbour is, however, totally unreasonable - I’m a proper mad cat lady and I think she’s being utterly bonkers.

They are poisonous. My cat had lily poisoning - they damage the kidneys.As many other posters have said, we had lilies and she never showed any interest, never tried to eat them ( we had had her for years by this point) - but one day she obviously brushed past the vase on the table and got pollen on her fur and must have licked it. She was white so I saw it, thought “ wtf is that, oh hang on, lilies - and aren’t they meant to be poisonous…” so I rang the vet expecting to be told not to fuss, keep an eye on her. Instead they said come straight in - it was midnight!
She did survive but she was at the vets on a drip for 4-5 days, still remember when they called me at work to say she was a bit better as I was sure they were calling to say we’d lost her.If she hadn’t been white we would have lost her.
I still think it’s the neighbours job to protect her cat , but dear other cat owners I wouldn’t be too relaxed about the risk.