To call police not knock the door

[SleepingStandingUp]

Cnat sleep, so went down stairs for a snack. Heard a thump on the floor and some muffled noise, assumed one of mine had gell out of bed but when I went upstairs it was coming from next door. DH is asleep, as are kids. Woman next door just screaming and screaming. I can hear hi saying something but she just kept screaming.
I've called the police. They have a young kid
I don't know them, I don't know what he's like. They're English isn't great so we're polite but she's quiet usually, shy.

I feel like I should have knocked the door, but if he is hurting her then she needs the police not a fat 40 something who could easily escalate the problem. But the I've done that by calling haven't I.

Fuck.

I don't know if I've fine the right thing or not.

It's gone quiet and that makes me feel sick

You should have. What if he was hitting them? Don’t feel bad that’s why it’s went quite the man knows.

The advice to knock on neighbour's door is if there's drum & bass blasting, not in case of suspected domestic violence.
You did the right thing.

Of course you have done the right thing. There’s only one person escalating the situation and that is the perpetrator.

Calling the police was the best thing to do.

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You've done the right thing. If there isn't an issue, the police will discover that and your neighbours will have no consequences except possibly an awkward conversation. If there IS an issue, police will deal with it. You heard your neighbour screaming like crazy; even if you're somehow wrong, your instincts and your actions are completely understandable. The worst consequences if the police came out and everything was fine after all are far outweighed by the consequences if your neighbour was screaming because she was hurt or in danger.

You’ve absolutely done the right thing - hopefully the police are there by now and all is ok?

Thank yoiu. I think I'm just really shook up and alone. Police are here and they've got entry

How frightening for you. You’ve done the right thing by calling the police. It’s too dangerous to be knocking on the door yourself. Really hope her and the child are ok

That’s really good to hear x I think you deserve a strong cup of tea x

Have you woken DH?

Our walls are thin but operator could hear her so they can't say nothing was happening at least. God I hope it's something and nothing. But it was like a terrified scream.

You did the right thing. There is absolutely no point in putting anyone else in harms way at that point. There’s nothing you could’ve physically done. Or you could’ve knocked and then all present could have pretended it was fine, causing you not to call the police when actually police intervention and safeguarding is needed.

No, no point now police are here

Yeah that's what I thought, time to think up an excuse and I'd just be up all night waiting for it to resume

You did the right thing.
As someone who wished the neighbours would call the police when I didn't feel able to myself, thank you.

Definitely right to call the police and not knock.

DH once knocked on someone’s door who was screaming and screaming when he was walking home from the station.

He was given a right earful from the lady who answered the door and basically told to fuck off and mind his own business.

@SleepingStandingUp
youve 100% done the right thing
you could literally have made “that call”
her escape
or at least a step to her getting to safety and potentially saving her life
it took some guts to make that call but you’ve done the right thing absolutely x

Police stood nattering out my front so I'm relieved and confused why they're jsit stood there instead of leaving

I ways think, what did I wish my sisters neighbours had done, when she was with her ex

They could be waiting for him or her to pack some things and escort them somewhere - safely separate them x

Police have left. Sounds like they were checking some info out and satisfied, have left. Guess we'll have to wait and see if they say anything. It'll be obvious it's us, it's semi detached.

Not necessarily - it could’ve been someone walking past your houses x

If there’s a child in the house the police must inform SS who will do their own investigation.

Definitely did the right thing. And if the neighbours ask you about it, tell them you did ring the police because if they heard those noises coming from your house then you'd expect them to ring the police as well.

Regardless of if anything happens, if it's a fight/abuse it builds a picture for police and also sends a message to the husband that he can't do as he likes.
If it's nothing then it's nothing. You can't just let out blood curdling screams at night time and expect nothing to happen.

I'd have had my windows wide open and listening in to the police outside! I'm nosy.
Glad they've attended and left now though. Cup of tea and bed x