To call police not knock the door

[SleepingStandingUp]

Cnat sleep, so went down stairs for a snack. Heard a thump on the floor and some muffled noise, assumed one of mine had gell out of bed but when I went upstairs it was coming from next door. DH is asleep, as are kids. Woman next door just screaming and screaming. I can hear hi saying something but she just kept screaming.
I've called the police. They have a young kid
I don't know them, I don't know what he's like. They're English isn't great so we're polite but she's quiet usually, shy.

I feel like I should have knocked the door, but if he is hurting her then she needs the police not a fat 40 something who could easily escalate the problem. But the I've done that by calling haven't I.

Fuck.

I don't know if I've fine the right thing or not.

It's gone quiet and that makes me feel sick

I just wouldn’t say to them it was you lol.x

Adrenaline dropped, night. Appreciate the company

You’ve definitely done the right thing. A local man here heard what he thought was domestic abuse happening on the other side of the close from him and went to see if he could help calm things down/rescue the woman victim. He ended up being the first fatality of the evening; very noble of him but I suspect his family are wishing that he had rung the police rather than get involved personally…

You definitely did the right thing. The very idea of you going round there is pretty ridiculous.

You did the right thing by calling the police tho Amazed dh didn’t wake if walls that thin and operator could hear the screaming down the phone

if in doubt always call the police esp as kids there

Maybe in case it starts up again?

This exact thing was posted a few weeks ago. Are you asking for opinions again?

Don't worry about the neighbours. He should have not been making her scream the PoS

Our neighbour once called the cops on us. Our teenage DD was screaming the place down as if someone was murdering her. We'd just had a long and difficult train journey and she had a total meltdown when she got home. I think at one point I told her to 'Shut up,' but that was the level of violence.

Police arrive, separate the family (me, DH, DD and DS), question us separately, we all say the same thing (i.e. that DD has had a meltdown and there's no underlying history of violence), then they get us back together, say some nice calming stuff, off they go ...

Neighbour arrives apologising profusely saying that she didn't know what else to do because my daughter was screaming and she was scared. Point being, she did the right thing. A child could have been in danger. It wasn't my best moment telling someone about to have a full blown meltdown to shut up but there you go. Absolutely no problem with the neighbour going forwards ... because there wasn't and still isn't any DV in the home.

You 100% did the right thing OP. You could very well have saved her life last night. I’m sorry your sister went through something awful with her ex.

Not by this OP it wasn’t. This can happen to different people you know. In fact it’s happened twice in my cul de sac of 6 houses.

Many years ago I was staying over at my boyfriend’s ( now DH) house. I went up to bed and he stayed down watching tv. At around 12.30 there was a knock on the door. It was the police. Someone had reported hearing screaming from our house (a prank call). Boyfriend assured them there was no problem and that I was upstairs asleep. The police wouldn’t leave the house until they had seen and spoken to me.
I would assume similar has happened next door to you. The police have done checks on the lady and are happy that all is in order.
Thank you for caring enough to do something.

I’ve called the police before when I suspected DV, even though I was actually quite friendly with the woman. She had two little kids as well. Me knocking wouldn’t have fixed anything, or worse escalated things. Yes the police did get rid of him and the relationship ended.

I mean. Maybe she told the police she saw a big spider or something, but I certainly would have been calling the cops too.

Better safe than sorry, call again if it happens again.

Do you know how common domestic violence is?

Bless you. Well done for getting involved at all - many would just turn the tv on/up.

I hope all is alright this morning. Stick to your guns if they accuse you of phoning the police - 'yes I did, because there was screaming, I'd expect you to do the same etc'; don't let anyone shame you into thinking it's a bad thing.

And if it was DV and he's still there (with fabulous excuses) - at least it contributes to a picture, as another OP has said.

Are you sure it was them and not the tv

Take a moment to think how many peeps there are in the U.K alone, around 70 million, then add on millions of people in other countries who read /contribute to MN, this is hardly going to be a one off situation with one person writing on here.

@SleepingStandingUp - just wanted to say: huge well done to you for calling the police. That was the right thing to do and you cared enough to do it.

Relevance?

No I was sat I ntbe living room watching cos if they took hi away I was going to go round to her so when I say sounds like I just means I could see but not really hear

He's partially deaf, turns his hearing aids off and sleeps like a man. I had the phone near the wall so she could hear.

Wasn't me, they've always been quiet and seem like a nice family. Like I say, she's quiet but her English isn't great. He always says hi. We take I each other's parcels but that's it.

If there are young children in the house, it will trigger a referral to social care. So you’ve also safeguarded the children. Absolutely the right thing to do.