to think some retired people completely forget what it’s like to be working full time?

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I know retirement is not always easy and older people can have health issues, caring responsibilities etc. But I do think some people genuinely forget what it is like to juggle work, commuting, childcare, housework and just basic life admin all at once.

My DM is retired and will often say how busy she is because she has shopping on Tuesday and a doctor’s appointment on Friday. That is apparently an exhausting week. She is in good health and active. Meanwhile most working people are fitting those things around 40+ hour working weeks.

My retired neighbour constantly comments on how awful another neighbour’s garden looks and how she should tidy it up. The neighbour she is talking about is a working mum with young children who leaves the house at 7am every day. My retired neighbour has a gardener.

Obviously NOT ALL retired people are like this at all. Some are incredibly understanding and helpful. But others seem to completely lose perspective on how relentless working life can be, especially with children.

I have no idea why that posted twice 😂

You write a Goady post about retired people then spend all afternoon on mumsnet.. don’t you have work to do

Dh and I are just retired and I frequently comment how awesome it is that we get to do whatever we want, every day for the rest of our lives. It doesn’t seem quite real. What I would say though is that life goes in stages and the young children phase is hardest. By the time you get to the pre retirement years your children are usually at uni or fully independent. So you do have time to relax and slow down a bit. The other thing is that retirement for many people coincides with becoming a carer for an elderly parent. And later on for grandchildren. So it’s not like you are crazy busy one day and then it drops off a cliff. It’s more kind of ups and downs.

What???
I worked FT with three children. My mum (born in the 1920s before women even had the full vote) also worked FT. All normal in my world.
I'm not sure where all these women dossing about at home were.

In the 5 hours this post has been running you pull have weeded the garden or painted a room. Just saying…

Aww bless, you really didn't get my post, did you?

You could say this about anyone. Some teenagers think they're hard done to to have to mix work and study with chores. People who have children with additional needs know SOME parents really don't understand what it's like to have to drop everything to cope with an emergency several times a month instead of a year.
To an extent, every time I get a very busy period at work, I "forget" how easy the normal times are!

Sorry @Hallamule , I quoted you instead of the post about only having one person working.

I'm with you.

Yes and No.
You do forget pretty quickly, but don't assume that all retired people have nothing to occupy their time either. Also be aware that while some of us might be 'fit and healthy', most of us won't be, or will have slowed down significantly or have caring responsibilities for aging partners. Many still do a lot of family caring too. It's also the first time in our lives (mine anyway) that we have time to do things we didn't have time to do before. Don't begrudge us that - your time will come too.

Exactly, then complains she never watches TV 🤣 she could have watched several programmes this afternoon in her private office instead of trying to wind people up.

Think you meant to quote me 😆 sorry I dared to share my experience of coming from a one working parent household…

People keep saying this but I know lots of old active people who have more bags of energy than me.

The post is not about people getting tired as they get older.

I did not assume. That is why I said this:

Obviously NOT ALL retired people are like this at all.

Report it then.

I am working!

Yes I did mean to quote you.
Of course share your experience but don't assume (and state) it was like that for everyone.

Oh yes. I don’t work full time, but my parents know my work hours. They will announce they are coming round at such a time, totally forgetting that some of us are at work

So work, you don't have to reply to every comment

OP, if you carnt take the heat don't start a goady thread 🤣

I didn’t… I used my own parents as an example.

Yeah. Selfish buggars aren’t we? Still, we worked hard for decades. 🤷‍♀️

You do realise that watching tv isn't a quasi-compulsory social obligation?

I haven't been on this post for 5 hours.

I guess I could have baked my own bread too and attended a sewing club?

It is for that poster who is trying to get me to watch TV,

Apparently parents sit and watch TV from 7.30 - 11.30pm every night 😂

Work off 😂

Or people that cant remember what it was like to be skint when you defo know they used to be skint! Like..why cant you afford it, its months away or just buy such and such, its only X amount!! Grrrrrr