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Afghanistan humanitarian crisis

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Ihatetomatoes · 18/05/2026 22:21

BBC news 3 out of 4 struggle to find food

A growing number of billionaires and yet shocking food famine around the world.

Shocking decisions taken to sell children.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

A man wearing a pink turban cuddles his small daughter close in front of a cracked mud wall

Afghanistan humanitarian crisis: Ghor's starving families

In Afghanistan today, a staggering three in four people cannot meet their basic needs.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

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Ihatetomatoes · Yesterday 14:33

Swiftie1878 · Yesterday 14:30

Hey, you started the thread. Thought you wanted opinions?

You haven’t thought this through, and your charity donation is the worst sort of virtue signalling as it ends up in the pockets of abusers. You don’t want to hear that, I get it. Doesn’t make it less true though.

Look you have given me you opinion and now descended into nastiness. I totally get you think I've wasted my money. That's fine. I wouldn't judge you for sending your money to a charity. All you are doing now is getting personal, isn't your opinion enough?

You made your point, time to go and have a go at someone else now?

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Ihatetomatoes · Yesterday 14:34

ginanddreams · Yesterday 14:28

Interesting video from WFP posted this afternoon specifically on the food crisis in AFG and for anyone more interested in the context - it’s on Instagram for anyone using that platform.

https://www.instagram.com/worldfoodprogramme?igsh=a2hhbGZiM2JoNmR

there’s also a short video on how WFP transports aid to various destinations for those interested.

I'd ont have instagram. Is it possible to copy and paste the details here? Thanks

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SwirlyGates · Yesterday 14:35

Ihatetomatoes · 18/05/2026 22:58

So let them starve? The children too?

I'm not blase about this at all, but I have no reason to believe that any aid I give would reach the children. The Taliban are a law unto themselves. In the recent earthquake, women victims were prohited from speaking to male rescuers, while female rescuers were not allowed. Afghani women no longer get an education; they cannot train as doctors or midwies, but men cannot treat women, so women cannot access healthcare.

It seems only girls are being being sold. "The choice to sell daughters over sons, is because culturally sons are widely seen as future breadwinners, and here in Afghanistan, with the Taliban's restrictions on education and work for women and girls, it is even more pronounced." That is of their own making. And it's of their own making that selling children is even possible.

https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/
https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/

How the Taliban’s Repression of Women Deepens Afghanistan’s Earthquake Tragedy

The earth shook beneath Afghanistan once again, and as rescue workers pulled bodies from the rubble, one devastating truth became clear: half our population remains invisible even in our darkest hour....

https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/

Ihatetomatoes · Yesterday 14:36

SwirlyGates · Yesterday 14:35

I'm not blase about this at all, but I have no reason to believe that any aid I give would reach the children. The Taliban are a law unto themselves. In the recent earthquake, women victims were prohited from speaking to male rescuers, while female rescuers were not allowed. Afghani women no longer get an education; they cannot train as doctors or midwies, but men cannot treat women, so women cannot access healthcare.

It seems only girls are being being sold. "The choice to sell daughters over sons, is because culturally sons are widely seen as future breadwinners, and here in Afghanistan, with the Taliban's restrictions on education and work for women and girls, it is even more pronounced." That is of their own making. And it's of their own making that selling children is even possible.

https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/
https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/

Thanks for sharing. I'll have a read.

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HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 14:37

endofthelinefinally · 18/05/2026 23:14

How do you get the aid to the women and children? The Taliban won't let women and girls access education, work to earn money, access medical care, read, speak, leave their homes. They won't let anyone in to help them.
Who can we donate to that can actually help?
It is absolutely heart breaking.
Women are dying in child birth because they are not allowed to have care or to train as doctors and midwives. It is barbaric but I can't see how to help.

And the Taliban are pig ignorant heathen bastards that happen to be very well armed courtesy of the good ole USA.

EasternStandard · Yesterday 14:43

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 14:37

And the Taliban are pig ignorant heathen bastards that happen to be very well armed courtesy of the good ole USA.

The weapons were handed over though.

Desperatelyseekinglazysusan · Yesterday 14:49

Ihatetomatoes · Yesterday 14:16

Indeed the women and girls have it incredibly tough, it's not their fault they were born in a country with extremist islamic leaders though. Hence, why I chose to donate. Others don't. that's up to them.

It is the fault of the majority of Afghan men who cheered and waved the Taliban back in, and the fault of the men who abandon women and children to try their luck in the West, knowing their wives, mothers and daughters won't be able to leave the house.

inamarina · Yesterday 14:57

There are some grim options for boys as well:

Bacha bazi (Persian for "boy play") is an exploitative, centuries-old practice in Afghanistan where wealthy or powerful men enslave, sexually abuse, and coerce adolescent boys to dress in women's clothing and dance for entertainment.

OtterlyAstounding · Yesterday 14:59

Desperatelyseekinglazysusan · Yesterday 14:49

It is the fault of the majority of Afghan men who cheered and waved the Taliban back in, and the fault of the men who abandon women and children to try their luck in the West, knowing their wives, mothers and daughters won't be able to leave the house.

Absolutely. Personally, I dislike that so many unattached men are refugees - they should be helping get women and children out to safety, and then going back to fight for change. But that's about as likely as pigs flying.

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 15:04

EasternStandard · Yesterday 14:43

The weapons were handed over though.

Once the Afghan army skedaddled after about ten days ooo lots of shiny new weapons and ammo for Mr.Taliban.

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 15:05

inamarina · Yesterday 14:57

There are some grim options for boys as well:

Bacha bazi (Persian for "boy play") is an exploitative, centuries-old practice in Afghanistan where wealthy or powerful men enslave, sexually abuse, and coerce adolescent boys to dress in women's clothing and dance for entertainment.

Don't think it stops at dancing🤮

SpaceRaccoon · Yesterday 15:06

That BBC article is an absolute disgrace. "Oh no, the poor man sex trafficking his own daughter".

I'm not sure how Afghanistan is the fault or responsibility of billionaires.

EasternStandard · Yesterday 15:06

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 15:04

Once the Afghan army skedaddled after about ten days ooo lots of shiny new weapons and ammo for Mr.Taliban.

Yep but that’s more on the army and the Taliban. I’m not saying your posts do this but there seems to be a lack of accountability for the actual perpetrators of the horrors.

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 15:07

inamarina · Yesterday 14:57

There are some grim options for boys as well:

Bacha bazi (Persian for "boy play") is an exploitative, centuries-old practice in Afghanistan where wealthy or powerful men enslave, sexually abuse, and coerce adolescent boys to dress in women's clothing and dance for entertainment.

Sorry i see you alreadymentioned the SA.

HRTQueen · Yesterday 15:10

OtterlyAstounding · Yesterday 14:59

Absolutely. Personally, I dislike that so many unattached men are refugees - they should be helping get women and children out to safety, and then going back to fight for change. But that's about as likely as pigs flying.

and where do these magical weapons come from where does the money come from refugees can not work

I would like to see more woman and children here too I think many of us would. Young men from many cultures (one I am from myself) the young men go abroad and are expected and most often do finance their family for the rest of their lives

I think you are really looking at this from a cosy western point of view

Life in Afghanistan is hell for the vast majority of people, certainly harsher on girls and women but that isn't down to all their fathers/husbands/brothers/uncles/sons they live under a regime that strips people of all there dignity, they live in terrible terrible poverty, they are just about existing. Yes its a deeply misogynistic culture but that can't change until people are free and safe to push for changes that is not possible for them right now

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 15:11

EasternStandard · Yesterday 15:06

Yep but that’s more on the army and the Taliban. I’m not saying your posts do this but there seems to be a lack of accountability for the actual perpetrators of the horrors.

It's a disgusting situation don't know how you'd bring them to justice..as always children and women suffer.

inamarina · Yesterday 15:14

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · Yesterday 15:05

Don't think it stops at dancing🤮

Me neither 😞

EasternStandard · Yesterday 15:14

HRTQueen · Yesterday 15:10

and where do these magical weapons come from where does the money come from refugees can not work

I would like to see more woman and children here too I think many of us would. Young men from many cultures (one I am from myself) the young men go abroad and are expected and most often do finance their family for the rest of their lives

I think you are really looking at this from a cosy western point of view

Life in Afghanistan is hell for the vast majority of people, certainly harsher on girls and women but that isn't down to all their fathers/husbands/brothers/uncles/sons they live under a regime that strips people of all there dignity, they live in terrible terrible poverty, they are just about existing. Yes its a deeply misogynistic culture but that can't change until people are free and safe to push for changes that is not possible for them right now

The army were trained and equipped to fight but as seen there was nothing to stop them just handing over all weapons to the Taliban.

BlushingBrightly · Yesterday 15:16

Desperatelyseekinglazysusan · Yesterday 14:49

It is the fault of the majority of Afghan men who cheered and waved the Taliban back in, and the fault of the men who abandon women and children to try their luck in the West, knowing their wives, mothers and daughters won't be able to leave the house.

And then some of those men who get to the West continue to put their Stone Age views of women into practice here, resulting in danger and harm for UK girls and women too. Examples:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c4g4x2zyer2o

https://www.gmp.police.uk/news/greater-manchester/news/news/2025/december/man-charged-with-rape-of-two-teenage-girls-in-bolton-over-weekend/

https://www.cps.gov.uk/west-midlands/news/two-teenagers-sentenced-rape-leamington-spa

https://www.avonandsomerset.police.uk/news/2025/12/four-charged-after-teenager-raped-in-bristol/

I already know we have a plentiful supply of home grown British rapists, by the way, so don't bother telling me. The point is that I don't wish to prop up a thoroughly misogynistic state apparatus any more. The women and children in Afghanistan have my sympathy but I can't see their situation changing in any meaningful way without the Taliban being brought down.

Four charged after teenager raped in Bristol | Avon and Somerset Police

Three men and one 16-year-old boy appeared in court over the weekend.

https://www.avonandsomerset.police.uk/news/2025/12/four-charged-after-teenager-raped-in-bristol

Desperatelyseekinglazysusan · Yesterday 15:24

Young men from many cultures (one I am from myself) the young men go abroad and are expected and most often do finance their family for the rest of their lives
They do, but it takes many, many years to get to the West. They have basically abandoned women who simply will not be able to survive long enough to get the money sent into the bank accounts they don't have and can't access because they can't leave the house. I think Afghan men should not be allowed asylum. Life is terrible for everyone in Afghanistan but they are not the worst victims by a long shot. We can't have the whole of Afghanistan here so we should not have men who have abandoned women in their country while they seek riches abroad.

HRTQueen · Yesterday 15:30

Desperatelyseekinglazysusan · Yesterday 15:24

Young men from many cultures (one I am from myself) the young men go abroad and are expected and most often do finance their family for the rest of their lives
They do, but it takes many, many years to get to the West. They have basically abandoned women who simply will not be able to survive long enough to get the money sent into the bank accounts they don't have and can't access because they can't leave the house. I think Afghan men should not be allowed asylum. Life is terrible for everyone in Afghanistan but they are not the worst victims by a long shot. We can't have the whole of Afghanistan here so we should not have men who have abandoned women in their country while they seek riches abroad.

What you really think these young men just want to leave their mothers knowing how bad their lives are and knowing its a real possibility that they will never see their families again, can you not imagine how desperate you must feel to do that, how heart-breaking this is

have you ever spoken with refugees about their experiences

HRTQueen · Yesterday 15:32

EasternStandard · Yesterday 15:14

The army were trained and equipped to fight but as seen there was nothing to stop them just handing over all weapons to the Taliban.

Yes that is the spin from the US

in reality they were left with equipment they were unable to operate, attacked from all sides and just totally overwhelemd

this was predicted by many but ignored

SwirlyGates · Yesterday 15:46

inamarina · Yesterday 14:57

There are some grim options for boys as well:

Bacha bazi (Persian for "boy play") is an exploitative, centuries-old practice in Afghanistan where wealthy or powerful men enslave, sexually abuse, and coerce adolescent boys to dress in women's clothing and dance for entertainment.

It's men who want this, men who enable this, men who pay for this. Whether the victims are girls, women, boys, it all comes down to male vileness.

TulipsForDaisy · Yesterday 16:12

What a sickening article. There truly is no hope for Afghanistan, not even a glimmer. Aid won't work, it will always fall into the hands of the oppressors. If a man really cared about his family, surely he would do anything possible to Prevent the cycle from continuing - abstaining from sex may be the only power they have. You couldn't, in good conscience, bring more daughters into the world knowing what sort of life they have ahead of them.

TonTonMacoute · Yesterday 16:31

Octavia64 · 18/05/2026 22:34

The taliban refuse to co-operate with any un agencies and have banned most charities from operating in the country.

they have also put stringent restrictions on healthcare for women and babies including that women healthcare professsionals are no longer allowed to work at all.

It was clear from the beginning that these restrictions would lead to deaths that were completely preventable however it is taliban policy and they currently run the country.

it’s not got much to do with money.

This.

Poorly educated religious zealots in thrall to a death cult rarely make good governments. The billionaires have spent most of this century trying to intervene in Afghanistan, not always for the most desirable reasons admittedly, and have been roundly rejected time and again.

You can't help those who won't help themselves

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