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To think compulsory national service for young people could be helpful for many?

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Jane379 · 17/05/2026 20:50

The recent thread on benefits generational cycle got me thinking...could compulsory national service period help some young people, including ones like these?

Or would it make things worse?

OP posts:
LeedsLoiner · 18/05/2026 16:24

Jane379 · 17/05/2026 23:03

Might you elaborate on this? I have recently been researching NI but shamefully didn't consider that angle on this...

Well somewhere around 40% of the population might not actually want to join the British Army...

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 16:25

Everythingpink101 · 18/05/2026 16:19

Why only young people? Why not ALL people?

why do you think?

Natsku · 18/05/2026 16:32

ToffeeCrabApple · 18/05/2026 15:37

We need state backed institutions to train trades people in areas like bricklaying, carpentry, plumbing, electrical, roofing etc. At the moment we rely on existing tradespeople taking on apprentices but existing tradespeople benefit from the shortage of supply because they can charge more.

Courses need to include basic business skills - learning how to use simple book keeping apps, basics of tax as a self employed trader.

Anyone going for large government infrastructure contracts or housing estates over 8 properties should be required to include a minimum number of training roles.

We also need more state support for industries like cement, glass, brick making, and timber. We end up very volatile to price shocks on these because we don't always produce enough of our own.

This would be very good. My country has vocational schools that teach things like this, with work experience placements in firms a part of the course, for instance I studied aircraft maintenance at one of these schools and got a job from my work experience placement. These schools are very popular and about half of 16 year olds pick them over academic high schools (and very many adults go to them to retrain in new careers, as I did)

LeedsLoiner · 18/05/2026 16:32

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 16:18

Or... we could come up with some ideas that aren't such obvious shit. It's actually pretty defeatist to think we have a binary choice between spunking a load of resources on an unworkable idea and UC all round.

And your ex military HCPs point isn't comparable because these are people who chose to be in both, not a random adolescent who got forced against their wishes and because they couldn't get out of it.

Aren't ex-service people a massively disproportionate portion of the number of homeless?
Maybe all the military training doesn't actually prepare people for life in the "real world"?

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 16:34

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 16:24

Your attitude is exactly WHY I think it would be a very positive thing.

means you envisage placement for those with non-extreme reasons.
why wouldn't we? It's 2026 , is it necessary to have such an ableist attitude?

If you want to advocate for it despite the fact that it won't apply to everyone equally, go for it, but let us not pretend we could possibly implement anything like a universal system.
you have 2 options, either we never do anything because it can't be truly universal
or we work towards making it as universal as possible.

It would be a huge improvement to ignore lazy people usual excuses to avoid to do anything.

Edited

I didn't say we wouldn't, although you're going to need to be a lot more specific about what you mean by 'extreme' and what you envisage them doing before we can work out who's ableist. Obviously the potential exists for a system that's appalling for people who fall just below any medical exemption threshold.

It being a huge improvement is also a claim that needs to be proven. Maybe there is a theoretical case that an inequitable system only applying to the people without better options could still be beneficial overall, nobody's made it. Realistically that case needs to be made on it own merits, rather than advanced because someone's just realised that they can't make a realistic argument for absolutely everyone having to do it.

Natsku · 18/05/2026 16:40

JenniferBooth · 18/05/2026 16:21

Right so you would be totally ok with conscription / National Service into childrens homes and conscription into child minding then. Because why not right? Why should NHS patients or those in care homes etc be the only ones to take the risk of being cared for by someone who may not want to be there. Still palatable? Put your money where your mouth is!!!

Those doing the civilian service option in my country can work in schools and nurseries (can't be childminders as that requires qualitifications), one of my DD's substitute teachers last year was doing his service working in her school.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 16:42

I am still waiting for an argument why everyone "shouldn't have" to do it.

It should be male and female, that's the only thing I would change with most of the current set-ups. It's not an alien concept, it exist in so many countries, it's not difficult to start the process. It's a positive

No one is saying it should become mandatory from the 01st June 2026.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 16:45

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 16:34

I didn't say we wouldn't, although you're going to need to be a lot more specific about what you mean by 'extreme' and what you envisage them doing before we can work out who's ableist. Obviously the potential exists for a system that's appalling for people who fall just below any medical exemption threshold.

It being a huge improvement is also a claim that needs to be proven. Maybe there is a theoretical case that an inequitable system only applying to the people without better options could still be beneficial overall, nobody's made it. Realistically that case needs to be made on it own merits, rather than advanced because someone's just realised that they can't make a realistic argument for absolutely everyone having to do it.

I know it's totally unrealistic to pretend people wouldn't play the "sensitive/ adhd/ anxiety/ allergic to effort/ work-refuser card to refuse to do anything, but one can dream.

I am also aware the army is not a babysitting club and it would be unfair on their staff to have to teach kids things their parents never bother doing, but one can hope compulsory service would become a thing sooner rather than later.

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 16:49

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 16:42

I am still waiting for an argument why everyone "shouldn't have" to do it.

It should be male and female, that's the only thing I would change with most of the current set-ups. It's not an alien concept, it exist in so many countries, it's not difficult to start the process. It's a positive

No one is saying it should become mandatory from the 01st June 2026.

Shouldn't have to or won't? I just ask because a theoretical case for everyone doing it is easier to make than an even slightly realistic one.

Like for example one could say Northern Ireland will just have to go along with it, but obviously once you know anything about the place it becomes obvious that's not going to happen. Or we could pretend sole carers would be fine because we'll find the resources to give the people they're looking after live in carers instead, but clearly that is pie in the sky.

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 16:52

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 16:45

I know it's totally unrealistic to pretend people wouldn't play the "sensitive/ adhd/ anxiety/ allergic to effort/ work-refuser card to refuse to do anything, but one can dream.

I am also aware the army is not a babysitting club and it would be unfair on their staff to have to teach kids things their parents never bother doing, but one can hope compulsory service would become a thing sooner rather than later.

Ironically, I think my ADHD child would rather like the army. Whether or not they'd like him is a different question!

Somersetbaker · 18/05/2026 17:02

Young people could if they wished just walk into the recruiting office and sign on for King and Country, to the right person it can be a decent career with plenty of transferable skills to use later. There is a lot of truth that a volunteer is much better than a pressed man, unless you just want canon fodder.

Kirbert2 · 18/05/2026 17:08

scalt · 18/05/2026 10:01

We can talk about compulsory national service for young people when there's a compulsory "national service" for parliamentarians: they must have worked for at least six months in a minimum wage, customer-facing job, so they have spent some time in the same world that many other people live in, instead of the bubble of wealth which so many of them come from, never having known the world outside private school and Oxbridge.

Their children must also attend state school for at least 6 months.

TheTideIsNigh · 18/05/2026 17:09

Fuck me. 42% of people on a parenting site apparently don't think the future is quite bad enough for young people yet and want to bring back national service - something that almost none of them would have had to do themselves.

As if it's going to do literally anything for their future prospects of getting a job or owning a home. It will just keep them in limbo for a little bit longer while giving them a bit more time to ponder just how fucked over they have been by older generations.

Shame on you all.

NotReallyNotOftenAnyway · 18/05/2026 17:13

I think that for ASD kids with severe anxiety an apprenticeship would be much better. Kids who are too anxious to go to school are not suddenly going to leap out of their shell for national service, but having a sheltered work position with a kind adult to keep them safe could do the world of good for them.

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 17:18

TheTideIsNigh · 18/05/2026 17:09

Fuck me. 42% of people on a parenting site apparently don't think the future is quite bad enough for young people yet and want to bring back national service - something that almost none of them would have had to do themselves.

As if it's going to do literally anything for their future prospects of getting a job or owning a home. It will just keep them in limbo for a little bit longer while giving them a bit more time to ponder just how fucked over they have been by older generations.

Shame on you all.

or maybe some of us raised our children well enough to think that they would be absolutely fine with a universal mandatory national service

as they would be if they had just been born in a different country.

It would make their life a lot easier as well, instead of facing a future having to manage teams of special little darlings with anxiety and feelings who have been so mollycoddle by their anxious parents they are completely unprepared for the real world.

FennelGingerJasmineOrMint · 18/05/2026 17:20

Rather than waiting until the age of 18 and then offering ( or insisting) on national service, why don’t we give our young teenagers the tools and opportunities to learn discipline, team building, problem solving, etc, at an earlier age? Don’t wait until they are adults.

Scouts, Army cadet force, Duke of Edinburgh schemes, etc are fantastic for building confidence and teamwork. Middle class kids, who have been pushed into these activities, have grown and gained advantages from joining these sorts of clubs. Kids who have come from poorer and/or disadvantaged families often haven’t had that option.

We need to help these kids/ families early on. Not wait until they are adults.
… and yes, I am aware that you need volunteers to run these clubs. Perhaps the government should set up something similar and pay for staff.

BoredZelda · 18/05/2026 17:21

Jane379 · 17/05/2026 22:48

People with genuine conditions should be accommodated. The question is how many are genuine?

It's hard to know as there could be valud reasons many have increased (older paternal & maternal age, EDCs to name two) but there could also be potentially large numbers who do not actually have anxiety..

The ones who have a diagnosis are genuine.

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 17:28

ThisCandidMintGoose · 18/05/2026 17:18

or maybe some of us raised our children well enough to think that they would be absolutely fine with a universal mandatory national service

as they would be if they had just been born in a different country.

It would make their life a lot easier as well, instead of facing a future having to manage teams of special little darlings with anxiety and feelings who have been so mollycoddle by their anxious parents they are completely unprepared for the real world.

Having raised your kids to be daft enough to accept that the piss on their legs is rain isn't something to be proud of. Neither is them credulously thinking somethings universal when it isn't/wouldn't be.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 18/05/2026 17:33

I don’t think it’s a good idea.

I agree with those saying, isn’t it funny that it’s those now too old for it who propose it. No one proposes it for themselves (or so rarely that I’ve never heard them).

I think there should perhaps be a scheme that kids can join if they can’t find a job or further educational prospects that’s encouraged and attractive - that can include either military or non-military service. But I don’t know that we should force all young people or even force those who aren’t otherwise occupied to join it rather than get benefits - it does feel like a sort of punishment for kids from poorer backgrounds, as you can bet the better off would never end up having to do it.

As I say, maybe having a scheme that seems attractive is the answer as then better off kids
might join.

TunnocksOrDeath · 18/05/2026 17:34

Most young people do not need this intervention, and with the cost of housing and living these days could really do without an additional delay to becoming economically active and independent. It would cost the country an absolute fortune for very little tangible benefit as you'd need to either pay everyone on national service a wage, or pay them a stipend and house & feed them for the duration. You'd also have to pay a small army of trained staff to provide them with training and oversee their 'service'. There would also need to be an (expensive) bureaucracy to track everyone, manage the deferrals & exemptions, and bring legal proceedings against those who attempt to dodge it.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 18/05/2026 17:35

FennelGingerJasmineOrMint · 18/05/2026 17:20

Rather than waiting until the age of 18 and then offering ( or insisting) on national service, why don’t we give our young teenagers the tools and opportunities to learn discipline, team building, problem solving, etc, at an earlier age? Don’t wait until they are adults.

Scouts, Army cadet force, Duke of Edinburgh schemes, etc are fantastic for building confidence and teamwork. Middle class kids, who have been pushed into these activities, have grown and gained advantages from joining these sorts of clubs. Kids who have come from poorer and/or disadvantaged families often haven’t had that option.

We need to help these kids/ families early on. Not wait until they are adults.
… and yes, I am aware that you need volunteers to run these clubs. Perhaps the government should set up something similar and pay for staff.

Agree with this too!

Kirbert2 · 18/05/2026 17:35

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 17:28

Having raised your kids to be daft enough to accept that the piss on their legs is rain isn't something to be proud of. Neither is them credulously thinking somethings universal when it isn't/wouldn't be.

Yep.

Of course it wouldn't actually be universal and the ones some people on this thread would like to see take it up the most would likely be the exact ones who would be more likely to be exempt.

BrownBookshelf · 18/05/2026 17:35

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 18/05/2026 17:33

I don’t think it’s a good idea.

I agree with those saying, isn’t it funny that it’s those now too old for it who propose it. No one proposes it for themselves (or so rarely that I’ve never heard them).

I think there should perhaps be a scheme that kids can join if they can’t find a job or further educational prospects that’s encouraged and attractive - that can include either military or non-military service. But I don’t know that we should force all young people or even force those who aren’t otherwise occupied to join it rather than get benefits - it does feel like a sort of punishment for kids from poorer backgrounds, as you can bet the better off would never end up having to do it.

As I say, maybe having a scheme that seems attractive is the answer as then better off kids
might join.

Definitely agree. Let's properly fund things that people might actually want to do, sensibly invest in opportunities, and that has the bonus of meaning we don't need to piss away any resources on enforcement too.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 18/05/2026 17:36

Somersetbaker · 18/05/2026 17:02

Young people could if they wished just walk into the recruiting office and sign on for King and Country, to the right person it can be a decent career with plenty of transferable skills to use later. There is a lot of truth that a volunteer is much better than a pressed man, unless you just want canon fodder.

This is very true but I think alot could be done to make it more attractive.

And have non military options that you can similarly sign on for.

CrystalSingerFan · 18/05/2026 17:41

Theeyeballsinthesky · 17/05/2026 21:22

Great opportunity to post this again

Thanks! They were unbeatable.