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To ignore these absolutely inane text messages?

169 replies

FeliciaFancybottom · 17/05/2026 17:38

My friend seems to have gotten into the habit of texting every thought that pops into her head and almost giving a running commentary on her life. I'll get the same messages every day: 'I've just been for a walk, I've been for lunch, it's cold here today, work is busy, I'm going to hit class'. On and on it goes, and I'm running out of things to reply with. How many times can I say "oh that's nice/good/interesting/whatever"?
I don't need this level of info about her life, and it's getting on my last nerve. I'm starting to expect her to text me that she's just had a pee!
How can I tell her that I won't be answering these kinds of messages, or do I just ignore them? I'm not massively fussed about texting; other friends get in touch maybe once or twice a week, and that's plenty for me.
I know I sound mean btw but who has the time and the interest for this!!

OP posts:
Noshadowsinthedarkness · 17/05/2026 17:40

Just ignore and if she or he asks, just say you’re not much of a texter.

You don’t sound like close friends as such…

Fibrous · 17/05/2026 17:40

My brother does this. I just ignore it and respond occasionally. Sometimes he sends photos from the toilet! I know he’s bored and lonely but if I respond it just makes it worse.

BeardySchnauzer · 17/05/2026 17:40

You could do the passive aggressive thumbs up emoji

Witchonenowbob · 17/05/2026 17:40

Don’t reply

ToadRage · 17/05/2026 17:41

Just ignore them. If you tell her to stop it's nat further feelings. It sounds like she is trying to insert meaning into her life and doesn't really have a lot going on.

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 17/05/2026 17:42

She says she is going to ‘hit class’?

TallSturdyGirl · 17/05/2026 17:43

Noshadowsinthedarkness · 17/05/2026 17:40

Just ignore and if she or he asks, just say you’re not much of a texter.

You don’t sound like close friends as such…

Nothing to do with being close friends. I wouldn't want this level of information about my husband or teenagers let alone a friend!

Spicysirracha · 17/05/2026 17:48

So this is a very recent development?

Does it not occur to you then that there may be something else going on if she’s never messaged like this before?

Flannelfeet · 17/05/2026 17:54

Just reply shut it or I will "hit" you!!

Seriously though, maybe shes feeling lonely and needing a friend to talk?

Stoicandhappy · 17/05/2026 17:57

You really don’t have to respond to every message…

BiddlyBipBipBeeBop · 17/05/2026 17:58

Is she lonely?

Bumblepig · 17/05/2026 18:01

Sounds like Facebook statuses from 15-20 years ago

Disturbia81 · 17/05/2026 18:02

Just ignore, any reply is encouragement.

WhatMe123 · 17/05/2026 18:14

She sounds lonely to me and is trying to gain social interaction

CalmTheFuckDownMargaret · 17/05/2026 18:30

A shrug emoji would put a final stop to this nonsense. If you don’t want to be quite as rude, just totally ignore and when she asks why, say ‘When you text me a running commentary about the mundane, there’s nothing I have to say!’

SunnyRedSnail · 17/05/2026 18:31

@FeliciaFancybottom well you could always reply telling her you've just had a poo, what rating the poo was on the Bristol Stool Scale, and how soft the toilet roll was?

Gggfxgrd · 17/05/2026 18:31

Try calling him

Nottopanic · 17/05/2026 18:41

Just ignore them surely

Pickledonions12 · 17/05/2026 18:53

Ignore
Or every 5th message send a thumbs up

Blodyneighbour · 17/05/2026 19:12

I get a running commentary on my friends FB status "DIARY " every day since she been in hospital. How many tablets she's had, what she's eaten, what her friend has took her to eat, what the nurse said, what the view is like, how many pots of antibiotics and IV lines she had, what the little man did with her honey and banana breakfast, (sliced it up)
How the drugs aren't working, how her organs are performing and the green muck that comes out of them,
How many minutes she did on her bike ( its usually 26 or 19 minutes ( never a round figure. Unless the little physio guy takes her for a 20 or 30 minutes walk around the ground..
She's not even sick, just doing a trial.

icannotlivelaughloveintheseconditions · 17/05/2026 19:13

I’d respond every 6-10 messages

Dalmationday · 17/05/2026 19:14

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 17/05/2026 17:42

She says she is going to ‘hit class’?

HIIT class. It’s a gym class

MrDobbs · 17/05/2026 19:19

BeardySchnauzer · 17/05/2026 17:40

You could do the passive aggressive thumbs up emoji

Oh dear is the thumbs up passive aggressive? I have been using it as just a thumbs up, ok/yes/no problem.

cramptramp · 17/05/2026 19:26

‘That’s nice dear’ is a good response to every single message.

IsItTheBlackOneOrTheRedOne · 17/05/2026 19:29
Steve Coogan Shrug GIF

This gif every time