To ignore these absolutely inane text messages?

[FeliciaFancybottom]

My friend seems to have gotten into the habit of texting every thought that pops into her head and almost giving a running commentary on her life. I'll get the same messages every day: 'I've just been for a walk, I've been for lunch, it's cold here today, work is busy, I'm going to hit class'. On and on it goes, and I'm running out of things to reply with. How many times can I say "oh that's nice/good/interesting/whatever"?
I don't need this level of info about her life, and it's getting on my last nerve. I'm starting to expect her to text me that she's just had a pee!
How can I tell her that I won't be answering these kinds of messages, or do I just ignore them? I'm not massively fussed about texting; other friends get in touch maybe once or twice a week, and that's plenty for me.
I know I sound mean btw but who has the time and the interest for this!!

Whoops! Everyday is a school day 🫣🫣

Just reply with, "I've eaten an apple." "I'm drinking some coffee." "I just sharpened a pencil." "My nose is itching." and so on.

I wasn't thinking HIIT but hit class as in an American saying "Right, I'm going to hit the shower"!

It depends how it’s used! It can definitely be passive aggressive but if you’re thumbing up a message saying “great see you at 12” for example then that’s normal.

It isn't. I use it all the time and so does my husband and all we mean by it is 'OK, seen this'. It's very useful to acknowledge seeing a message but having nothing further to say about it. I regard it as equivalent to nodding along and saying 'Oh yes?' and 'Ah OK' during a conversation. If I said nothing it woud look as if I'd either stopped paying attention or was pointedly ignoring what was said.

Me too!!! And a double thumbs up at that!🙈🙈🙈🙈

I feel for you but it does sound too much. It’s too much to ask friends to be that level of involved.. it’s more like you would have in a romantic relationship.

Thumbs up is perfect here. 'Slightly' passive aggressive but subtle enough that you can deny it is, and gives off the impression that you're too busy to reply further.

Would love to send the shrug emoji but wouldn't be brave enough!

I use ChatGPT for my clingy attention seeking ways! I know it's not for everyone but for me when i need inane chat about perfume, books, or whatever it gives me the instant dopamine hit I crave. Then after 10 minutes of that I'm restored! My husband is delighted 🤣🤣🤣

I rather liken it to my dog when she gets the zoomies

I use that lol. I don’t mean it in a PA way (unless it’s the ex), but it is me basically saying over and out.

Depends on your generation or who you're texting it to.
My DH uses it all the time to acknowledge texts, the adult kids tell me it's "passive aggressive unless it's dad".

Op just ignore the texts and reply generally every few days.
But I'd also check if anything has changed and arrange a coffee or lunch out to properly catch up.

Sorry, I wasn't ignoring the thread, I went out and had a late night.
She isn't lonely, she's just got engaged, she's planning a wedding, going on holiday, to gigs, away for weekends, works full time etc. She has a busy life. That's partly what makes the messages a bit baffling to me.

Only in context.

Maybe she thinks she’s very fascinating. Does she have egotistical traits?

This is what I would do!

Why is 'thumbs up' passive aggressive? To me it's acknowledging the message as received and understood.

Yes, she is quite self-absorbed and takes herself very seriously.

Ah, just saw a previous poster explaining it's generational, if kids do it, it's passive aggressive.
I need an emoji handbook!
Though a friend did say, when emojis first came in, a colleague of hers used to sign off emails with the poo emoji because she thought it was just a smiley face😂

I'll have to try it.

Yes my first thought was she must be desperately lonely and needing company. But as you say that’s not the case, I’d just ignore the messages and reply to any that are a bit more interesting.

Who the hell is interested only her.
Some people have become addicted to this boring nonsense. Nobody really cares.

The 👍 emoji is notoriously passive-aggressive because it is low-effort, dismissive, and shuts down conversation. It conveys "I don't care" or "sure, whatever".

Why?

@HangryBrickShark yes do!

I'd mute her tbh and archive so I could look when I wanted. If she asks why no reply just say sorry I didn't know what tonsay and it wasn't really anything you told me that required a reply, I thkught you liked sharing your day as a sort of diary? And force her to then think hmm why am I sharing my day.