I think I might BU but need some perspective

[MangaMoo]

I don’t know if IABU here but can’t help how I feel so hoping you guys can give me some perspective.

My DH is a chef and I have just found out that he has been cooking special meals for one of the managers in his work. Nobody else, just this one manager, who is a woman.

Now, I don’t think that anything physical has been happening but I am wondering if he was trying to get her attention, like the start of something maybe? I also wonder why just this one person and nobody else. It also unnerves me that he’s doing special things for other women who aren’t me.

He says it is just circumstances because she asked one time and appreciated it and he likes to be appreciated at work, which I can see but I still just don’t feel happy about it.

AIBU?

My DS is head chef in a hotel restaurant and will cook special meals for staff occasionally as long as a) he has time, b) they ask him nicely, and c) appreciate it.

It's good that he's talking to you about it, I don't think it sounds like anything to worry about. Chefs love being appreciated for their food.

He probably should make sure he does the same for other managers too, though.