Would you go on holiday with your adult daughter?

[wanderlustdiaries]

I’m in my 20’s, mum is in her 60’s.

I’ve asked her if she wants to go on a girls trip at the end of the year. 4 nights in a city in Europe (we’ve not chosen yet).

Would you do this? I don’t know if It seems a little odd to do or if it’s totally normal.

If my 21 year old daughter wanted to take me away I’d love it. Lovely mother daughter time.

Aw OP, sorry that your mom doesn’t want to go.

What city were you thinking of, and perhaps folks on here can give you single traveller trips.

Also since your mom doesn’t want to leave grandkids, would girl trip with mother of those grandkids be possible, and have your mother take the grandkids for the duration??

My mum wouldnt with me (she might with my sister).
I hope to have the type of relationship with my daughter that we could.

Do it. My mum is no longer with me. I wish I’d done more while she was still able to travel. By the time I wanted to do more with my mum she couldn’t as her health wasn’t as robust.
Had a great few days in Paris with her though when I was in my 20s and a couple of day spa trips. But that’s it really. I didn’t make good choices

I'm off to Italy for a long weekend in October with DD. It's years since we have had time to ourselves and I can't wait! Enjoy OP 😊

I'm 45, my Mum passed away 5 years ago and had been ill for about 15 years before that. I would love to have been able to do things like this and really enjoy an adult relationship her.

Yes if my DM was still alive

I did suggest to DS18 that a new tradition could be a weekend/week away with me every year for us to chill/explore etc - he looked a bit …. But I’m thinking in the future when he is in between girlfriends and realises mum would pay he may say “yes” (DH thinks I’m delusional )

You’ve already asked her, what will you do if people say it’s weird? I go on holiday with my mum, we enjoy each other’s company, I wouldn’t decide based on what others do.

I've been on holiday with both my adult daughters (separately) - i'm in my 60s, they're in their 30s.
We've had some amazing times 🙂

I used to go away with my dad.

Loved it

I go on holiday with my adult children. I don’t understand why it’s weird.?

Oh and I go away with my dad. He’s amazing.

Is it just the two of you or are you asking your mum to join a trip you are planning with lots of your friends? If it's just the two of you then I think it's a fantastic idea. Genuinely one of My biggest regrets is that I didn't do this with my mum when she was still able to travel. It would have been lovely to make some memories just the two of us.

My dd and I are literally planning our next trip away tonight!

Have fun.

Me and my DM do a holiday just the 2 of us every year. Usually a long weekend but also longer holidays on occasion . Rome, Venice, Dubrovnik etc. We always have a lovely time and I will treasure the memories

I think it depends entirely upon the relationship and would be perfectly normal within close families. As an adult I would never have gone on holiday with my parents because we had totally different tastes and apirations. I ducked out aged 16 by telling them I could not get the annual leave. I never went away with them again.

Of course. Well I don’t have a daughter (sadly) but love hanging out with my mom.

I’ve done day trips and holidays, totally normal x

Her not wanting to go would spur me on to going because she’ll definitely regret missing out.

She can’t spend 4 nights away on a lovely holiday with her lovely daughter, all because she’s so co-dependent on her husband.
It’s ridiculous and she’ll look back and regret it.

Solo travelling is amazing but if you’re nervous could you look for holidays that are typically for solo travellers or like coach trip type holidays, so that you’re with a group and not feeling so alone.

Please don’t let her being boring put you off.

The mum doesn’t want to go 💔

girls trip at the end of the year. 4 nights in a city in Europe

I would struggle with that, sorry, DD's ideas of fun aren't mine.
I recognise it's a great experience for many.

You know what? I can see my mother saying that now I think about it.

Her and my father have a weird co-dependent possessive relationship. This is a woman who was blowing up my phone when he was ten minutes late home from a reunion (I was picking him up and had been stuck in traffic), and who he made feel guilty for having one night out with her friend so see a show he didnt want to go to.

@wanderlustdiaries it seems there is a more complex relationship with you mum and it makes you sad. You are not alone in this, a lot of people don’t have that “ great” relationship or closeness with their mothers for a wide range of reasons. You may wish to explore that or maybe post in relationships where there is a community of support x

I'll come, where are we going?! Make it cheap cos I am a bit skint lol

Ive been on a few fab trips with my mum over the years, to New York, Pompeii, London to see shows, Edinburgh, etc. Now she is nearly 80 there might not be many more so Im glad we have those memories to look back on. When I was 40 and my daughter was 15 we went on a girls trip to New York with my mum, it was amazing. Do it while you can 🥰