Would you go on holiday with your adult daughter?

[wanderlustdiaries]

I’m in my 20’s, mum is in her 60’s.

I’ve asked her if she wants to go on a girls trip at the end of the year. 4 nights in a city in Europe (we’ve not chosen yet).

Would you do this? I don’t know if It seems a little odd to do or if it’s totally normal.

My daughter and I do, we also go for lots of day trips together. It’s lovely that she likes spending time with me x

I‘m really sorry to hear this.
maybe she genuinely would feel bad leaving you dad behind. Would you consider a city break with both parents?

No. I just thought she’d maybe say “I’d love to but” but it was just a straight no. I feel stupid and embarrassed

I'm 61, my son is 22.
We still do holidays together. Last September we went to Porto, in previous years Copenhagen and Amsterdam.
Sadly we won't be able to abroad this year as I'm having treatment for cancer but I hope to get a few days away with him in the UK.
Your mum is keen to go with you. You never know what life is going to throw at you - don't waste time thinking about whether you 'should' be doing or not doing something.

Go with your mum and have a fabulous time

I've been away with my daughter (25) several times. I'm 59 and we are very close. We really enjoyed Budapest and Venice. You should definitely go together.

Don’t be embarrassed. If she did nothing to decline gracefully and kindly then the shame is hers. You sound lovely ❤️

I would be utterly over the moon if my 24yo suggested this - and would gladly pay for her trip too!
(spoiler: she won't; we have a good relationship but she would rather spend her precious annual leave with friends or her boyfriend).

I think it’s a lovely idea and very normal

Yes, and I have done many a time. Sounds lovely.

I am going on a a 4 day holiday to Croatia with my 23 year old daughter in August! I’m 44 🙂

Me and my mum have done a few little breaks together- we love it!
We are very close 🙂

You[ve asked your mum on a trip and both agreed to go. Why does matter what’s “normal”?

I’ve been on several holidays with my mum and friends of ours have done the same.

I’m going away with my adult daughter (25) for a week this summer. She is great company and it’s extra special for me as my mum died when I was 20 and so I didn’t really have that adult daughter relationship with her.

So lovely even my own mother doesn’t want to spend time with me 🤷🏻‍♀️ it is what it is

Yes absolutely me and my DD went to Prague last November for 4 days it was great, she’s 24 and I’m 58.

I’ve just been away with my 20 year old dd to Barcelona. It’s peak times.

Normal and lovely.
I did several trips with just my mum in my 20s.

I wouldn’t, because travelling with my mother is the most stressful experience known to mankind. But plenty of people do.

Gosh, yes, always. I’m 58, daughter is 24. I hope we always manage to get some time together each year.
We’ve done Rome, Florence, Venice, the Ligurian coast, the French Riviera. We both like camping so sneak the odd UK weekend in when we can.

I promise you that no one is looking down on you.

In fact most people would envy your life.
And if you’ve ever come across any negativity it’s likely because people are just jealous.

You are only young once.
Too many people (including myself) move out and have kids young.
Whats the rush.

Enjoy your time with less responsibilities.
If you do choose to move in with someone and have children, there will be plenty of times where you wish you could go back to being child free and living with your parents again 😁

The holiday sounds fantastic and I know many mothers and daughters or sons and dads who go away together.
It’s literally so normal.

Sorry just read your updates.

How tragic for her that she can’t spend a couple of days away.

She’s missing out but oh well that’s her own problem.

She is lucky that you even offered - look at the replies on here about how many would/do love it.

Go have fun without her.

To be honest I don’t want to go anymore because how tragic is it that I have to go alone because even my own mum doesn’t want to spend time with me? I’ve spent most of the evening crying because it’s just made me feel really crap about myself

I am 56 and go on holiday with my 21 year old DD every year-just the two of us. We laugh from start to finish. We have been to Jordan, Madeira and France over the past three years.

This is awful but you don’t have to go alone - join a travel group!! DD has done trips with Tru Travels and Gals Who Travel as she didn’t fancy ‘proper’ solo travelling and had the absolute time of her life. Made amazing friends too!