AIBU to think my husband is being an asshole regarding my ear infection?

[HealthConcerns]

Just that really. Currently on day 6 of an ear infection. Started as an outer ear infection, I was given antibacterial ear drops 2 days after the pain started (as I’ve had that feeling before which goes away so wanted to wait before seeing GP).

I was using them as instructed for 2 days along with alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen. No relief whatsoever, and yesterday my ear popped and some muck came out of it so I went back to my GP. My eardrum has ruptured and I’ve got a middle ear infection so am on some oral antibiotics and prescription strength pain killers.

Here is where, in my opinion the assholery behaviour starts.

Ive worked all through this, done all the school pick ups and drop offs, done my share of the housework etc without complaining but this morning (day 6 of infection, day 2 of stronger meds) my temperature spiked to 39 degrees Celsius, I’m shivering and can’t get warm, the pain is something else, I can barely lift my head off the pillow without wanting to be sick.

I didn’t really sleep last night either due to the pain so I called in sick to work today and I have another appt with the GP tomorrow (on their advice) as I really should be starting to feel better now, even if just a little bit when in reality I’m feeling worse. The whole side of my face hurts that side and I can’t open my mouth properly to chew food without my ear hurting even more.

He has had to do the school runs, dinner and dishes today, and is highly likely to need to do them tomorrow unless a miracle happens overnight. He’s been stomping around the house, moaning that he’s having to work as well as do “all your stuff” how im lazy and it’s “just an ear infection” and that im wasting resources with all these appointments and medications.

AIBU to think he’s being an asshole about me being ill or should I get a grip as it’s “just an ear infection”?

I hope you are feeling a bit better. Rereading this, it is clear that your relationship is abusive. I hope you realise this. When Covid happened I know of half a dozen women who had big wake up calls. They saw their husbands so clearly and finally admitted the selfishness that had been in the background for decades.
They quietly and firmly changed themselves. Two husbands have long Covid and THEIR lives are very different as while still married their wives now leave them to manage it and have made it clear they will not be caring. Another couple live separately in the home, no cooking, etc., and are happier for it. Another couple of women have finally taken multiple long holidays to family abroad, something they hadn't felt they could do because their husbands weren't keen. They made it clear they will do these trips alone and are away months at a time. Every single woman is happier now with their new clarity. NONE will be carer's if the situation arises and are happier to relocate to a nursing home themselves if necessary.
Your husband has dropped his mask and shown himself to be abusive.
Ffs, the doctor had to speak to him🙄.
Doctors only have to spell it out to the real arseholes.
Tell this to family and friends, don't protect him.
Abuse loves secrecy.
Mind yourself.