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Supermarket meat

170 replies

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 12:43

Friends inviting us around for BBQ.

I don't eat supermarket meat, do I just bring our own stuff?

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godmum56 · 12/05/2026 16:45

neveraskingtime · 12/05/2026 16:32

and ignore people being cnts to you for being picky about what you eat. Not everyone likes to eat poor souls that have been tortured in a battery farm.

and not all meat from supermarkets is factory farmed

DontShoutInMyEarholeTracey · 12/05/2026 17:08

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 12:45

The invite says no need to bring anything - but I might - I mean it can't hurt.

Are you joking? That would be so rude. Your food is not good enough so I’ll bring my own for you to cook on the Barbie. Your food will be sizzling away next to the supermarket sausages anyway so you might as well eat what’s on offer.

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 17:11

Okay okay - I will just be veggie for the day!

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Catza · 12/05/2026 17:14

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:23

Of course I am aware it's a bit rude, hence why I am asking here.

And yes I would be happy to take lots of meat.

The problem is that the host would probably have planned and timed their cooking according to what they have purchased. So you can't drop in with your own meat at the last minute. Either check in with them in advance or stick to sides.
We had BBQ at the weekend and we're smoking meat since 9 am. If one of our guests showed up with their own sausages, the best we could do is stick them after the main meat was already served.

cardibach · 12/05/2026 17:24

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 17:11

Okay okay - I will just be veggie for the day!

Or you could just try the meat. Maybe supermarket meat has changed. Or your tastes. Or it’s not from a supermarket anyway.

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 17:25

cardibach · 12/05/2026 17:24

Or you could just try the meat. Maybe supermarket meat has changed. Or your tastes. Or it’s not from a supermarket anyway.

True

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TheChosenTwo · 12/05/2026 17:36

Ha! I’m regarded as a food snob by my family (I’m not, I just don’t buy meat from a supermarket and don’t buy ready meals or jarred sauces etc. guess whose house everyone comes to for food?!…) and even I would just eat what was offered with good grace!
I’d mostly load up on salads and sides to be honest but I’d not mention it and no one would even notice. Well, unless you are the only guest and they actually serve the food on your plate! It’s one meal, I would just get on with it rather than causing a fuss.

BarbiesDreamHome · 12/05/2026 17:42

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:40

If I took a sandwich I would look insane!

I was thinking of taking a few smoked lamb shoulders for everybody.

That's totally fine 🙂

Just frame it like "I'm completely obsessed with this meat at the moment and I've overbought so I've brought it with me 😆 please do help me get through it!"

Then they're helping you rather than you "bringing better" or having to eat veggie of that isn't your preference.

Enigma54 · 12/05/2026 17:48

Either you eat the meat, go veggie or decline the invite. Easy!

Scottishhens · 12/05/2026 17:52

"Looking forward to the BBQ, I have been doing no-meat-may so hope you won't mind if I bring a veggie burger"
Though honestly, you won't die if you eat a supermarket chop or just eat salads and a roll, so I would probably help yourself to salads and don't mention it, no one will notice or care what you are eating I shouldn't think!!!

AppropriateAdult · 12/05/2026 17:55

Don’t bring your own meat.

Instead, you say:
”How lovely, Sandra, I’d be delighted to come. I’m not much of a meat eater, I’m afraid, but I’m happy to bring a big salad or some bread?”

This is better than saying you’re a full-on vegetarian, which will limit you in future if you end up socialising more often. Sandra will either accept your offer, or else tell you not to worry about bringing anything, Bill’s on salad duty and there’ll be plenty of veggie nibbles.

Nobody gets offended, and you haven’t outed yourself as the Farm Shop Snob that we now know you to be Wink Bill and Sandra will be happy to have you back any time.

Newnamesarehard · 12/05/2026 18:32

Honestly OP, if you have a good few drinks you'll probably eat whatever anyway.

And I agree that a £2.50 chicken breast isn't going to be such a huge difference to a £4 packet of 2 from a supermarket when it's been charcoaled anyway!

Take the lamb but i'd be fully prepared for the hosts not to cook it

Dizzydrizzy · 12/05/2026 18:37

Go veggie for the day else they’ll think you’re a weirdo

FurryWastebin · 12/05/2026 18:37

There's nothing the matter with supermarket meat. You're just being picky and chances are wouldn't be able tell the difference (undoubtedly the mn crowd will be along sharpish to disabuse me of that opinion)

If you don't like it your options are don't go, go veggie, or be prepared to look like a snot.

HIYAitsRuth · 12/05/2026 18:49

coulditbeme2323 · 12/05/2026 13:34

Assumptions, and I am obviously not going to ask!

What made you come to these assumptions? Get your head out of your arse. You've already said you would feel a bit rude. In that case you either eat it and go or dont. It really is that simple. I like my meat from our local farm shop top however some salad and a bit of chicken want harm you. Bloody hell get a grip of yourself.

AlecTrevelyan006 · 12/05/2026 19:46

If I was the host and someone turned up with their own meat for cooking (after explicitly telling everyone not to bring anything) I'd smile, be polite and say 'sure no probs." But inside I'd be seething and thinking you're a rude, snobby weirdo.

SomeOtherUser · 12/05/2026 20:32

Just eat a small amount of the meat they are serving. You will be okay.

Inertia · 12/05/2026 22:52

You could eat your own meat before you go.

Then just eat salad/ bread/ wedges at the bbq.

basoon · 13/05/2026 07:44

I honestly feel that if you're not a vegetarian and regularly eat meat you can put a substandard burger on your plate and eat a little of it. You know it won't do you any harm at all.

godmum56 · 13/05/2026 21:36

For heaven's sake. Not all supermarket meat is substandard!

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