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To wonder on the future of generous welfare in the UK

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happybug1234 · 11/05/2026 12:51

It seems increasingly obvious that many middle-income families are becoming frustrated at how squeezed they are financially, while at the same time seeing people on universal credit receive a growing range of subsidies and support — £1 attraction tickets on days out, a 6% rise in benefits this financial year, childcare costs reclaimable through Universal Credit, housing benefit, and so on. I see thread after thread on this on this site and also increasing momentum in the media on this issue (income cliff edges etc)

In my own extended family, 1 unemployed parent with the other on min wage, in social housing appear to have more holidays and more disposable income than we do, despite us both working full time with a household income of around £95k. Once childcare, mortgage, insurances, commuting and tax are taken into account, we 100% have a lower level of disposable income than they do as they do not have any of these work related costs and their rent is paid. They have recently gone on a 2 week holiday whilst the most we can ever afford is 1 week.

Quite a few teachers in my friendship circle are declining promotion opportunities or TLR because the extra pay often doesn’t feel worth the additional stress once tax, pension contributions and childcare costs are factored in. Instead, some are putting more effort into private tutoring, which is tax free cash in hand.

What is stopping the government from addressing this as people seek to be responding accordingly in their behaviour!

OP posts:
Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 17:26

XenoBitch · 11/05/2026 17:23

I would start reporting them now. They are like a dog with a bone.

MN seems to hate single mums, which I find ever so sad.

Its really sad. If i could work more i would. But cant.

Skinnysaluki · 11/05/2026 17:26

Viviennemary · 11/05/2026 16:39

This is such a ludicrous argument. Should I be excluded from buying designer clipothes and handbags because I can't afford them.

How are you equating access to key historical sites that tell the story of our island, such as the Tower of London, with a luxury like a designer handbag? Absolutely false equivalence, absurd argument.

Walkyrie · 11/05/2026 17:27

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 17:26

Its really sad. If i could work more i would. But cant.

Yes I hear that a lot.

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 17:27

Walkyrie · 11/05/2026 17:26

And the people who aren’t getting time with their kids because they’re working and paying your benefits..?

Not my problem

XenoBitch · 11/05/2026 17:27

Walkyrie · 11/05/2026 17:26

And the people who aren’t getting time with their kids because they’re working and paying your benefits..?

Leave it alone. You are getting nasty.

Doubledenim305 · 11/05/2026 17:27

NRFT but I'm thinking it you on benefits and housing payments, then you never going to live in a nice part of town/neighbour. Like it's always going to be a poor bit of town with all it's associated problems.
Plus u don't have your own house/buying an asset and something that u can pass onto your kids. Also it's good and rewarding to have a nice job and earn your own money and not b dependant on anyone.
I do see people who live on benefits go on nice holidays/get endless take aways/get nails done etc etc. But do I think they have a nicer life? No, not really. Houses always look pretty messy and not in particularly desirable areas. Sitting around all day not working is depressing.

Monty36 · 11/05/2026 17:27

Threeslothsontheshirt · 11/05/2026 16:25

Where is the named tenant living whilst subletting?

God knows. Somewhere else I presume. It is an appalling policy. The rent they charge no doubt will be nothing like the social rent they have to pay to the LA.

Skinnysaluki · 11/05/2026 17:28

monday1983 · 11/05/2026 17:01

Not always i paid nearly 300k for my 'asset' now the government decided it worth 0k as apparently is not safe so basically i threw away 300k,but will government help me? Oh no as apparently i don quality for anything. Meanwhile people who can't be arsto work one day in their life have everything for free...

Swap places and live in a HA home for a couple of months on UC.
Then come back and see if you’re still so envious and resentful

Wynter25 · 11/05/2026 17:29

Doubledenim305 · 11/05/2026 17:27

NRFT but I'm thinking it you on benefits and housing payments, then you never going to live in a nice part of town/neighbour. Like it's always going to be a poor bit of town with all it's associated problems.
Plus u don't have your own house/buying an asset and something that u can pass onto your kids. Also it's good and rewarding to have a nice job and earn your own money and not b dependant on anyone.
I do see people who live on benefits go on nice holidays/get endless take aways/get nails done etc etc. But do I think they have a nicer life? No, not really. Houses always look pretty messy and not in particularly desirable areas. Sitting around all day not working is depressing.

I live in a nice part . I was lucky my parents bought my house.

Freddiesfortune · 11/05/2026 17:30

@Walkyrie
Try being the parent of a severely disabled child.
Your out of hand dismissal of every parent other than a single parent and the other comments you have written on this thread are reductive.
Universal credit isn’t always an option for parents of disabled children or for those with a disability themselves or a disabled partner.
Hence no discount on that basis to attractions - it’s not like there’s a big pie of great options for low income families (for whatever reason they find themselves being in that category) that taking from it means other people can’t also enjoy those things.
Im not on UC and never will be as far as I can predict. I also have no burning desire to go to the Tower of London. I’ve never thought about whether I could go on a discount with my disabled child- maybe I could get in but it’d be pointless if there aren’t the necessary changing facilities and she’d rather I took her for a walk anyway.
The across the board distaste for families with disabilities is a rising problem for people like me and my child- and neither of us to anything to deserve it. She wouldn’t learn anything from the Tower of London or from any fucking free exhibition. I’ve had people on MN tell me she probably shouldn’t exist and relishing when the welfare state “inevitably” collapses.
I might be a single mother too at some point in the near future. I don’t expect I’d gain your support then either.
Maybe there’s more to the generalised assumptions the media want everyone to swallow (for their own agendas of course).

Crikeyalmighty · 11/05/2026 17:30

Monty36 · 11/05/2026 17:27

God knows. Somewhere else I presume. It is an appalling policy. The rent they charge no doubt will be nothing like the social rent they have to pay to the LA.

We need teams going round checking on social housing - check who is paying bills, council tax, who is living there etc .

Doubledenim305 · 11/05/2026 17:30

Walkyrie · 11/05/2026 17:02

YANBU of course but the usual lot will show up to say you’re goady, how there are starving children (where?) and so on,

UC will not make you rich as single adult, but through personal experience I find there are many adults who are happy to live a non-demanding, non-working life albeit one which isn’t the lap of luxury. They see being a little bit skint preferable to working. The % of healthy adults claiming and not working is actually insane. Many top up through crime, or steal. Always money to spend on alcohol and drugs in many cases. The rest are happy to just watch Netflix all day - lifelong entertainment is now relatively cheap.

If you have kids, particularly one with a ‘disability’ (and this can mean anything from a severe mental and physical difficulty, to ADHD, and everything in between), then yep, very generous and you really won’t earn any more by working. I know MANY families who have 2, 3 or even 4 children all on DLA, parent claiming UC, carers, PIP for themselves and the amount they get is absolutely insane and a total piss take to the working public.

And before anyone comes at me with the ‘would you swap money for a disabled child’ that’s so ludicrous and nonsensical I’m not even going to address it.

We urgently need a nationwide, non-exempt benefits cap of 30k. That in itself is a very generous amount compared with the vast majority of the world. And no unemployment benefits for the under 25s, who get hooked on a life of welfare and early on become completely unemployable by lying in bed all day and embedding laziness and MH problems from having no routine and getting up to no good all the time.

Those 2 measures would completely transform life in the UK but nobody has the balls to do it.

Everything said here is true.
Topping up benefits with some drug dealing / working with local crims. And we are such a weak snowflake nation now that nothing much seems to happen.

oldFoolMe · 11/05/2026 17:31

Threeslothsontheshirt · 11/05/2026 16:21

Yes this is true. If your financial circumstances change you still have a tenancy for life. The house is yours until you choose to give it up.

Not true for a long time, its a 5 year lease at a time

XenoBitch · 11/05/2026 17:32

Crikeyalmighty · 11/05/2026 17:30

We need teams going round checking on social housing - check who is paying bills, council tax, who is living there etc .

AFAIK they have yearly inspections anyway. My DM recently had one, which she was scared about as DF died recently as she was worried she would be evicted.

TigerRag · 11/05/2026 17:33

Doubledenim305 · 11/05/2026 17:27

NRFT but I'm thinking it you on benefits and housing payments, then you never going to live in a nice part of town/neighbour. Like it's always going to be a poor bit of town with all it's associated problems.
Plus u don't have your own house/buying an asset and something that u can pass onto your kids. Also it's good and rewarding to have a nice job and earn your own money and not b dependant on anyone.
I do see people who live on benefits go on nice holidays/get endless take aways/get nails done etc etc. But do I think they have a nicer life? No, not really. Houses always look pretty messy and not in particularly desirable areas. Sitting around all day not working is depressing.

I've lived in 2 HA flats in 2 different areas of town. The first area has a bad reputation and the street was known as the cities poorest area. Crime was high

I remember asking my dad where exactly it was when I got offered my flat and he said it's awful and has a reputation

I'm now in a different much nicer area

Lifeomars · 11/05/2026 17:34

MaturingCheeseball · 11/05/2026 15:48

But MANY people are on limited incomes - and they have to pay because they go to work . This is all sending a bad message.

It’s not the same as subsidised school trips, which ensures a child is not excluded.

Re pensioner discounts - they are usually to get punters into something at a less busy time. And they are becoming rarer as there are too many pensioners now! The pil made out like bandits but I can see that by the time I retire I’ll probably have to pay extra!

So sorry for being retired and cluttering up the place, will book Dignitas asap **

ChefsKisser · 11/05/2026 17:34

Meadowfinch · 11/05/2026 16:45

I only have one child because I knew I couldn't afford to have more and give them an acceptable standard of living. I did the responsible thing. I pay huge amounts of tax, the NHS is on its knees and yet they lift the 2 child benefit cap, and we're supposed to welcome that. When does it stop? We as a country cannot afford such a lack of personal responsibility.

This. What is going to happen...Reform will get in or get a huge number of people in government. Large swathes of left leaning but sensible people with good salaries and paying big tax bills will leave. Benefits will be reformed quickly and money will be removed universally including for those who really need it. Everyone will be unhappy.
We are moving abroad to get away before it implodes. I feel sad for families who can't afford things but we don't want to subsidise everyone else while struggling forever.

Fluffybuns88 · 11/05/2026 17:34

It's well documented that a strong welfare system massively benefits the economy long term, it helps to provide better health, education and crime outcomes.
This increases productivity across nearly every sector and saves money in healthcare and education.

It's really not that hard to grasp, benefits are essential to the economy of a population in the long term, not just the bare minimum but a good standard of them, they creates jobs, keeps shops on the high street and allow opportunity for learning.

When there is constant discourse about welfare cuts you need to sit back and ask who is it benefiting in the short term and why are you being told this because the people who are making the policies are well aware of the positive data and economical benefits to providing support to the poorest of people.

LiveLuvLaugh · 11/05/2026 17:35

Itchthescratch · 11/05/2026 15:02

That isn't true, especially if you are lucky enough to rent social housing. You have secure housing at below market rate. You could invest the excess money in stocks and shares that often outperforms the housing market. You also avoid having to pay interest payments on mortgage payments. You can enjoy an excellent standard of living, enjoy your money and then have no assets to sell when you need a care home.

And you don’t have to pay the crippling costs of routine maintenance of a property which are subject to eye watering recent increases - labour costs for trades are 4 x my hourly pay rate. Materials are off the scale.

nevernotmaybe · 11/05/2026 17:35

Meadowfinch · 11/05/2026 16:45

I only have one child because I knew I couldn't afford to have more and give them an acceptable standard of living. I did the responsible thing. I pay huge amounts of tax, the NHS is on its knees and yet they lift the 2 child benefit cap, and we're supposed to welcome that. When does it stop? We as a country cannot afford such a lack of personal responsibility.

Definitely nothing sinister about the social engineering of class and money defining where more people will be coming from in the future.

monday1983 · 11/05/2026 17:37

Crikeyalmighty · 11/05/2026 17:30

We need teams going round checking on social housing - check who is paying bills, council tax, who is living there etc .

And start checking all the ' single ' mothers living with their partners and 5 kids on benefits

TigerRag · 11/05/2026 17:39

Walkyrie · 11/05/2026 17:02

YANBU of course but the usual lot will show up to say you’re goady, how there are starving children (where?) and so on,

UC will not make you rich as single adult, but through personal experience I find there are many adults who are happy to live a non-demanding, non-working life albeit one which isn’t the lap of luxury. They see being a little bit skint preferable to working. The % of healthy adults claiming and not working is actually insane. Many top up through crime, or steal. Always money to spend on alcohol and drugs in many cases. The rest are happy to just watch Netflix all day - lifelong entertainment is now relatively cheap.

If you have kids, particularly one with a ‘disability’ (and this can mean anything from a severe mental and physical difficulty, to ADHD, and everything in between), then yep, very generous and you really won’t earn any more by working. I know MANY families who have 2, 3 or even 4 children all on DLA, parent claiming UC, carers, PIP for themselves and the amount they get is absolutely insane and a total piss take to the working public.

And before anyone comes at me with the ‘would you swap money for a disabled child’ that’s so ludicrous and nonsensical I’m not even going to address it.

We urgently need a nationwide, non-exempt benefits cap of 30k. That in itself is a very generous amount compared with the vast majority of the world. And no unemployment benefits for the under 25s, who get hooked on a life of welfare and early on become completely unemployable by lying in bed all day and embedding laziness and MH problems from having no routine and getting up to no good all the time.

Those 2 measures would completely transform life in the UK but nobody has the balls to do it.

They're announced that under 22s won't be able to get LCWRA. Happy?

bestcatlife · 11/05/2026 17:39

I was just calculating how much I’d get if I were to become unemployed and claim UC. these things worry me as I have health problems, and have been out of work before (due to aforementioned problems) I would have about £100 per month to spend on food, wouldn’t able to put the heating on ever even in winter and probably couldn’t afford the water bill. (I’m a single person) dunno about discounts, ect

TheABC · 11/05/2026 17:40

Plugg · 11/05/2026 15:31

Our minimum wage is WAAAAYYY above the oECD average. Hugely higher than any other OECD country. Raising it further makes it not only harder for current businesses to retain workers but it also makes UK businesses far less internationally competitive. Is that what you want.

Low wages are an issue because housing is so expensive here. Labour acknowledge this with their pledge to build 1.5m houses, then undermine this with imposing endless ridiculous planning regulations on prospective builders which means they just give in and don’t bother. Make it easier to build, get house prices down and people won’t need to earn as much.

We actually need to take this further - it's much more than a supply and demand problem. We've got a million long-term empty homes in the UK, due to probate, investment, market turnover and renovation. Plus the problem of short-term rentals in holiday spots. Over the past 40 years, the tax regime in the UK has made it more profitable to invest in housing than in anything else. As a result, our business sector is starved of capital, whilst the housing market is overinflated, and council tax makes no sense.

  • We need a land tax on properties instead of council tax - this can be administered through a digital land registry
  • Aim for 25-50% of pension funds going back into UK business, tech and industry as other countries do (currently 4%)
  • Build more social housing, by allowing councils and housing associations the chance to access cheap credit to do so (borrowed against guaranteed returns)
  • Offer cheap or free qualifications in areas where we have skills gaps.

None of this is rocket science. Likewise, if we want to get more people off long-term sick leave, we need a medical system that allows quick operations or help for mental health, decent rehab, skills coaching, and incentives for employers to take them on (in the case of lifelong disability). It's expensive in the short term, but much more costly in the long term.

Katypp · 11/05/2026 17:40

As ever: quit and claim then 🤷🏻‍♀️
Another benefit bashing thread...
This! These threads are getting really old.

Do posters think they are being pithy and/or amusing by responding the these threads with smartarse soundbites like these?

Clearly they are interested enough in the subject matter to click on the thread, then don't engage in the discussion and plop a silly comment on the thread. Just why?

Apart from the fact that dismissing the many posters on the thread who agree with the OP is exactly how Reform are getting a foothold, it also shows they have no actual answers.

My partial solution (which would at the very least get more money into the economy and make benefits less desirable) would be to tax EVERYONE once their income reaches the tax-free threshold.

Pensioners, benefits claimants, pensioners, children, maintenance recipients - once their annual income crosses £12,750 (or whatever it is currently), they are taxed. Pensioners take a lot of flak on here (by people who seem to not realise they will be pensioners themselves one day) but they are one of the few groups who actually DO pay tax on anything they receive over the threshold.

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