To not want to pay above a full tank of petrol for a lift to the airport?

[alexandrasm]

I fly from my “local” (2 hours away!) airport at the end of summer. My flight is in the early evening and I have an appointment in the morning.

My brother offered to give me a lift, it won’t affect his work as he’s on 0 hours and can just request a late start/no hours on that day (he usually doesn’t work on a Friday anyway).

I said yes please, and said I’d be happy to cover a tank of fuel as it would probably use about that to get there and back, and have some left over. (So I’m thinking about £40, he has a hybrid so it doesn’t use a ton of fuel).

He’s now said £40 plus £75 on top for “his time”

AIBU to think sod it, I’d rather just pay a taxi (about £100 according to local Facebook groups) because he’s being a CF?!

You are not 'easy going with money' if you are cadging favours like this

Honestly OP, make your own way.
My friend many years ago had obliged family so often, and then once asked as it was at awkward hours.
Her brother mentioned money.
She was appalled and never replied back.
She organised with a friend whom also needed an early drop, to do a swap.
Going forward she never mentioned it again.
Her parents within a year were no longer prepared to drop him and then he rang her. She politely brushed him off. He has paid for so many taxi's over the past 20 years. Twat.

No , I would not expect! But if I was close to a sibling and I asked and they said yes I see nothing wrong with that . Especially if I do lots of favours for said sibling. In my family siblings help each other.

I’ve never known people get so upset by asking family for favours!

Yes I think that's what you've done. You've asked your sibling, hoping they'll say yes, instead of just sorting something yourself to avoid inconveniencing someone else. The fact you'd have to sort something else is irrelevant and obvious. Not sure why you keep repeating this.

Upset?

Because you’re making out I’ve sat him down and said “I have to be at the airport at X time on Y date, you’re my only option, so you’re driving me”

This! It’s the one things that’s driving me mad about the post!!

why is everyone so miserable😂😂😂

OP YADNBU lol i am actually cracking up at some of these replies

if my Dsib demanded payment on top of the fuel, i’d tell him to bog off😂

your brother said yes FFS!!! haha

No that's not what I've said at all. I've said I think it's cheeky to ask someone to give you a lift when it's a 4-hour round trip for them instead of just looking for other options in the first place.

I’m clearly aware of those options and now looking into them? I guess you never ask for anything ever

Chuck me a fiver and I will give you a lift from the train station to the airport 🤣

Nope, we’re like that. We have a family favours WhatsApp 😂

Stops any requests getting lost in the main chat (DH’s family is huge so you glance away from the chat for 5 mins a come back to 90+ messages).
The only person that ever insists on paying petrol money for lifts is my DD2 as she can’t drive for medical reasons so can never reciprocate. Folks only accept it because she won’t accept the lift if you don’t.

I think you mean if you don’t ask, they don’t say yes and you can’t then pretend they offered because you don’t know what an offer is.

You mentioned National Express and you've mentioned Cornwall / South West - tho your mileage to the airport would be very similar to mine in South Devon.

Look up Megabus / Falcon, leaves from somewhere in the SW - goes to Exeter etc. Every 2 hours. to the airport.

Bargain, the bus is £9.50!

I still find it so crazy how bad public transport is when you leave the major cities. Imagine a London airport without a dedicated train station, or Manchester or Birmingham airport without one. But down here we just get scraps!

How long will it take? Will you have to travel to pick it up?

Your attitude has weird, cheeky fuckery vibes.

From the first post "he has 0 hours contract, and he can request late start/not working on the day" as if the fact he can skip earning on his work day to drive you is a positive.
Yes, I know that later you added he can get annual leave, but still, the attitude "he can drive me instead of going to work and get paid" together with "I am asking because it might advantage me from money and time perspective " sounds soo CF.

The "I asked, he said yes, so in my eyes he offered" is soo entitled.

Yes, favours are part of the life, but asking somone to skip earning for essentiallya full day so you can get to the airport cheaply when you are fully aware of the alternatives including your hypothetical super cheap taxi... why would you do that?

I’m going to guess you still live at home with your parents @alexandrasm

I would just never ask family or friends (except my husband) to do this. I would either get a taxi or, if I couldn’t afford one, a coach/bus. I am an adult and I just don’t like to inconvenience other people or be dependent on them. I also wouldn’t like to be inconvenienced by having to repay a favour. A few months ago my sister asked if she could stay with me as she was getting a flight from the airport that was close to me. This was fine. I enjoyed seeing her and made her a nice meal the night before but I was not getting up at 4:00am to take her to the airport. I gave her the number of the local taxi company which was what she expected.

2 hours is very far. I live within 45 minutes of 2 airports, both would cost me £70 taxi

Nope, I live alone. Are you going to leave me alone now, or keep going all night?

Fucking do one at this point, I was talking about the bus from Bristol temple meads to the airport. Genuinely just drop it.

It takes us around that time too, to get to Bristol Airport!