AIBU to feel shaken after being criticised for blacking out at the airport?

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Last night I returned back from a foreign holiday last night. I went with my parents and my godmother

At the foreign airport, DM cut her leg badly somehow with the either a luggage trolley or the barriers around the trolley park. Blood going everywhere. I have a phobia of blood and blacked out almost immediately. A couple of passengers ran into the terminal getting help. Whilst DF and GodM were getting tissues they had in their hand luggage. Another woman went up to my GodM and looked at me saying I’m a disgrace.

DM got first aid attention and was taken around the airport with assistance (airport was quiet). I recovered.

The four of us had a coffee, past security, and I went to the toilets with GodM. The woman who said I was a disgrace was there. She had a go at me. I said I have a blood phobia. She said I don’t care!

This woman’s attitude was horrible. I am not sure which flight she went on. She could have been on my flight- sitting on the opposite end of the plane.

I am still shaking from this woman’s attitude. I may not see her again.

I’m a fainter. I absolutely can’t control it (even if I am used to it so usually manage to say Im going to faint while trying to sit down). It’s not your fault you fainted. Whatever the reason was. Ignore the crazy woman .

God how horrid.

When I encounter people like this (judgemental/ angry / bitter / aggressive etc) I try really hard to flip it in my head to feel pity for them rather than upset myself.

Eg “Wow that poor woman can you imagine how awful her life must be having no compassion for anyone and just looking for negative / horrible things to say to strangers. I am so glad I am not like that and am a good friend / daughter / caring human being..”

It is really really hard of course but if you ‘fake it until you make it’ eventually it’s a bit more believable and then sometimes it actually starts being real!

I voted yabu because you shouldn't give this (unhinged) woman a second thought. You have no control over your reaction and it's a relief that you didn't get harmed when fainting. The only acceptable response to your situation is care and/or sympathy.

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What a horrible woman. I don't understand why exactly she thought you were a disgrace? Did she specifically articulate why?

If she thought you were a disgrace for simply passing out, that's insane. You couldn't help it.

I didn’t. My periods were very heavy. Fainted to the blood loss not the sight.

On the mini pill

My mate has a blood phobia and has to use an electric shaver as he found out when he cut himself shaving and fainted, banged his head on the sink and then his parents couldn't open the door when he was collapsed behind it.

I very much doubt this nutter would have called him a disgrace. Hope you're ok

This is exactly like my daughter. She’s not scared/phobic of blood, her body has a physical, uncontrollable reaction at the sight of it.

She went down like a sack of spuds when she cut herself with a plastic knife at school one day! And when she lost a tooth that bled a bit (but looked worse due to being mixed with saliva).

I faint at blood, when my daughter shut her finger in the car door at age 6, blood everywhere, I fainted and she was on her own at the stables screaming when I came to! Felt awful but absolutely not in my control. Do not listen to that mad woman!

Edited to add I’ve just remembered also fainting when she was a toddler cause I cut my finger chopping onions and she was again in the house alone while I was out cold, luckily not for long. Called my Dad to come round and take me to A&E as assumed it was a huge gash and had wrapped my finger in loads of kitchen towel and couldn’t look at it. When he arrived he could barely even find the cut lol! It was ridiculous. And totally not in my control!

WTF did it have to do with her?!

Mine isn’t a blood phobia, I can watch myself have blood taken or watch it on crime documentaries and stuff, it’s when it’s sudden, or injury related.

What a nasty woman. Don’t waste your time thinking about her

Silly judgy mare - like you can help it! The midwife fainted while stitching me up after giving birth to one of my children. I did think 'oh no, what have you SEEN???' It was actually because the hospital was hotter than the surface of the sun, but even if the cause had been a glimpse of the tragic state of my nether regions, I wouldn't have held it against her.

My DF was a very good dental surgeon but if anyone cut a finger, including his own he would go green then pass out. We all learnt to not offer up a damaged finger for attention. He knew it was ridiculous but couldn't help it.
Horrible woman

Ignore her. She hasnt learnt the important life lesson of, to not be a dick!

I'm a paramedic, so no issues with blood. But i do have a massive phobia of spiders which considering I'm born and raised in the UK and have never been to a country with dangerous spiders, my fear is far more ridiculous. At least you're scared of something that can actually have negative consequences.

I have fainted when faced with blood / medical situations, some quite serious, and one when I was supposed to be the first aider. It’s embarrassing, potentially dangerous and not something that anyone would do if they had any control over it. Luckily for me, bystanders have only ever been kind and understanding. What an absolutely horrible person that woman must have been. Please try not to dwell on it.

She might as well have said your dm was a disgrace for cutting herself and bleeding! Both are medical events!

I’d have told her she was a nasty old cow and to piss off and mind her own! Get on with life op don’t even think of her she’s obviously a spiteful human we all come across them occasionally. Hope your mums legs ok now.

Well I don’t suppose you did it deliberately. How nasty of that woman. She obviously has an axe to grind. She is probably one of the people who refused to let me sit down on a train when I had a broken leg because “I got here first” (well duh….. you have 2 working legs and I have 1). I imagine she also doesn’t believe in invisible disabilities either.

She was a weirdo and I would also be a bit shaken by a weirdo having a go at me in public toilets!

I have something similar with blood - it's not a phobia and I'm not scared of blood, but anything bleeding related makes me very light headed, I think it's just an automatic blood pressure drop.

I get it when having blood taken, doing first aid courses, even had to lie on the floor once after reading a newspaper article describing a significant bleed 😂
My dad and brother actually have the same response though my mum doesn't and she gives blood regularly.

Even writing this post is making my arms feel tingly 😳

Passing out is horrible. I'm pretty sure that if you could have prevented it happening, you would. The person slagging you off needs to sod off and mind their own business. Hope everything is ok now

I have a 6ft plus semi professional rugby playing son in law. Every time he has to have bloods taken he faints. No-one ever believes he will so he always ends up face planting the floor. My daughter was most put out when after giving birth, she suddenly realised all the medical staff in the room had abandoned her and were attending to him.

She sounds like a horrible unsympathetic woman.Just forget about her.

Greetings original commenter 💚
I'm so sorry you experienced this horrible attitude from some random female, who's got no right to impose her unrequested opinions on you🫂
God Bless You -
Why oh why do some just love to stick their awe in & make unkind comments, especially when it's none of their business - She doesn't know you & the very fact you fainted must've shown others how you, yourself were suffering too-I'm very queasy too&complete opposite of my Dear Mum who was a Nurse, very used to seeing blood 🙏
Please don't feel ashamed for being queasy, you can't help how you're made & it's nothing you should be made to feel embarrassed of - Also Sincere Soul, I'd be shaking following some random stranger being so wicked too😔 You most surely seem such a lovely gentle soul, please remember you don't deserve to be spoken to the way that interfering busy body spoke to you whatsoever 🫂
God Bless You&Yours Millions Of Times
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