AIBU to feel shaken after being criticised for blacking out at the airport?

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Last night I returned back from a foreign holiday last night. I went with my parents and my godmother

At the foreign airport, DM cut her leg badly somehow with the either a luggage trolley or the barriers around the trolley park. Blood going everywhere. I have a phobia of blood and blacked out almost immediately. A couple of passengers ran into the terminal getting help. Whilst DF and GodM were getting tissues they had in their hand luggage. Another woman went up to my GodM and looked at me saying I’m a disgrace.

DM got first aid attention and was taken around the airport with assistance (airport was quiet). I recovered.

The four of us had a coffee, past security, and I went to the toilets with GodM. The woman who said I was a disgrace was there. She had a go at me. I said I have a blood phobia. She said I don’t care!

This woman’s attitude was horrible. I am not sure which flight she went on. She could have been on my flight- sitting on the opposite end of the plane.

I am still shaking from this woman’s attitude. I may not see her again.

Unfortunately some people are just dicks and feel the need to say something unkind and unconstructive.

I hope your God M is ok and sorry you had that experience. 🌷

Gosh what a horrible experience all round! I hope your mum is ok. You don't owe that horrible woman an explanation, she's not judge and arbiter of the world and can fuck off. People who vocalise a judgement based on fuck all knowledge really are the scourge of the modern world. It does feel horrible but she is not more entitled to exist than you are.

On the other hand if you haven't sought treatment for your phobia I probably would. Fainting in crisis situations is inconvenient to say the least. I'm sure you don't enjoy it though.

Oh fear! She's bonkers. People don't faint for fun. She should embarrassed by her weird reaction.

A stranger said that to you?? Then they are the disgrace. You cannot help your bodies function at all. Hope your DM is OK it sounds like a nasty cut.

She was just a random weirdo, OP. You’re probably projecting your natural
upset about the whole unpleasant incident onto her. Put her out of her head.

It is. Skin came off and it’s about 3cm x 1.5cm. She had a similar cut on her other leg from walking into the oven door (she was cleaning it) and took 6 weeks of bandages to make sure the scab was fully dried. I say it’s going to be the same or another week as her other cut was on the side. This is on the front

That is ridiculous of her. You can't help your body's reaction to blood. So long as you weren't making the situation about you and demanding more attention than your godmother was getting (which I'm sure you weren't!), it really wasn't your fault.

I once fainted on a first aid course (the instructor was describing in quite some detail how to apply a tourniquet!). I felt that the instructor was quite critical of me afterwards. But I really didn't want to faint, I'd tried hard not to! I'm not sure what the solution is. Fyi interestingly when my daughter had to have an unexpected stay in hospital and have cannulas put in etc I was completely fine.

This 🙌!!!

You are being unreasonable to give the slightest consideration to this utter muppet of a woman. I hope your DM recovers soon.

She probably thought that you were drunk. Not that it's any excuse. She sounds pretty stupid.

Were you brought up to be a people pleaser and to care deeply what others think about you? I am and it's very difficult to disregard a stranger's opinion, even if you know that logically they're the one at fault and that their opinions don't matter.

Hope you're OK. You're not a disgrace!

Just ignore her . It’s not like you could help it & none of her business anyway . I would have told her to fuck off but I appreciate that’s not the most diplomatic response

I agree that she probably assumed you were drunk. YABU to care about the judgement of ignorant strangers though, just concentrate on your mum.

She must be very very thick indeed to think you deliberate made yourself lose consciousness. I'm almost embarrassed for her.

Lots of people believe entirely untrue things. Don't let this one bother you. Easier said than done, I know!

What an utter cow. I might have been tempted to accidentally brush some of the blood on to her.

Fainting at the sight of blood is a physiological reaction that can't be controlled. DH faints at such things.

Once, DD was recovering from an operation and had drains in her neck, and every time she coughed a little blood came out. We were in PACU and DH was sat in a rocking chair and I was bent over the bed with DD when suddenly all the nurses came running across the room to catch DH who had toppled forward and was going to hit his head on the hard floor.

Another time DD was having a blood test and they were struggling to get a vein. DD fainted and so did DH. The nurse caught DD and I caught DH.

This poor excuse of a woman should be ashamed of herself. If I had been near you I would have given her a piece of my mind.

@doorss I hope your mum heals well. What a shock.

What a horrible person
I have had fainting episodes. It is the most horrible, vulnerable experience ever and nothing to be ashamed of.
Hope DM is ok and glad you got home safely

The words you need in such a situation are "piss off and mind your own business".

Such people get a lift out of upsetting and intimidating others. You did nothing wrong, you can't control a faint, but maybe need a thicker skin.

I had blood taken when I was 4 and fainted. Since then, I can't see blood or I'll pass out, like you. I'd be inclined to not care what people thought but that's how I am, anyway, for everything in life. Nothing anyone thinks changes your reality so don't let it phase you. Glad everyone eventually ok.

She was awful. People just behave like absolute dicks sometime. I’ve seen it before and if it’s any consolation, we as random strangers thought the person needlessly inserting themselves in someone else’s misfortune was a total dickhead and loads of people thought he was an absolute bellend and were rolling their eyes at him every time he made a needless comment. They show themselves up when they are stressed about something.

She’s a nutter. If it makes you feel any better I got a public bollocking from the priest at church when I was about 8 because I didn’t fuss over my older sister when she fainted (my parents sorted her out). My sister was always fainting over something so it wasn’t a big deal to me. But that bollocking really upset me, I was just a child.

That woman is just an interfering busybody with no manners. You’re probably more annoyed about not telling her to fuck off.

She’ acted really badly OP. She’s either a horrible person or there’s something wrong with her in that she doesn’t know how to properly behave herself. Honestly, try and forget her, the way she behaved was not normal.

Lots of people faint at the sight or though of blood. DH can faint at the sight of his own blood. His dad too. He’s a big muscly bloke with tattoos. It’s not that he’s scared of blood or gore or gets panicky in stressful situations, quite the opposite but if he has to have bloods taken he has to make sure he is sitting in the chair and will let the nurse know. They’ve said they see it all the time. I have seen him go faint and it’s like he has absolutely no control over it.

My 6ft son fainted the first time he had a blood test. I fainted the first time the optician put contact lenses in my eyes, in fact I have fainted twice in the optician chair. These things happen. She is a nobody, an ignorant fool.

Ask yourself this - if your child was bleeding to death with only you around to save them, would you still black out? If yes then you need help to get over it.

What a horrible woman.
She may have assumed wrongly that you were drunk/hungover but you have a go at you twice, including once it was clear you weren't is unpleasant and ridiculous.

"I don't care" when you explained your phobia is just stupid. If she "doesn't care" why is she sticking her beak in? I'd love to say i would have retorted by saying "well I don't care about your opinion" or similar but I probably wouldn't have gathered my thoughts quickly enough!

Do see if you can get some sort of therapy for your phobia though, it would be worth it. My daughter seems to be developing a fear of needles so this has been on my mind recently!

I even fainted at fake blood!!

You’re not a disgrace at all. I’m a midwife and am used to blood no problems. But I go faint if someone has a loose tooth or talks about teeth. Can’t be helped.