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To think there will be many more disabled adults in 20 years?

655 replies

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 22:04

I’m disabled myself, just to put that out there.

It just seems like the number of people with a disability, usually a psychiatric one, is going through the roof.

40% of disability benefit claimants are claiming for mental health related reasons. The number of anxious children and teens on here, and that I know in my own life and family, is really really high. So many schools refusers and kids in need of extra support, special school placements and so on. It seems there are a lot of unemployed young adults living at home who simply don’t have the mental acuity to get a job, live independently, have a life of their own.

3 children in my family are currently school refusing, one we only found out about today but it was not a surprise as she’s always been very anxious and has selective mutism.

My AIBU is, should we be doing something to prepare for what may be a very high number of adults not working in years to come? How will we sustain them all?

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PracticallyPeapod · 03/05/2026 22:47

I agree and I say this frequently. We’re already on that trajectory in that the number if young people claiming PIP is increasing.

Spend time in schools and you’ll see how large the number of children is who will clearly never work for various reasons.

Theunamedcat · 03/05/2026 22:48

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 22:41

Well the issue about lack of carers can be solved/alleviated by immigration so I’m not sure why you’re lumping that in with concerns about pensions.
What is your solution then OP if you’re so concerned about it?

There are plenty of people unemployed in this country we dont need to bring more in

Unnecessaryletter · 03/05/2026 22:49

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A less honest way of saying, 'let's just sweep this under the carpet'.

FloralDeerPattern · 03/05/2026 22:51

I think that rather than preparing for more mentally ill people the question should be asked what is contributing to this? Poverty, poor housing, stress, inequality, discrimination all contribute to poor mental heath. The answer is to make Britain a healthier place to be.

XenoBitch · 03/05/2026 22:52

Dollymylove · 03/05/2026 22:47

The pensioners are always a target for mumsnetters. Those who have spent a lifetime working.
We are paying 100s of 1000s of healthy people to sit on their arses every day because they are too lazy to get a job. How about getting them to earn their benefits by going out picking litter, tidying up the areas, cleaning up graffiti etc. Anyone refusing will have their benefits suspended.
Oh but we cant do that can we, its against their yuman rites innit

Being on benefits is not a crime. So making them do some sort of community pay back wont work. Or are you just wanting benefit claimants to be in high viz bibs in public so everyone knows who they are?

CherryBlossom321 · 03/05/2026 22:53

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 22:08

I don’t mean the job market which I agree is woeful and I also think the education system is woeful and needs a huge shake up.

I mean the number of young people and kids who look very unlikely to ever live a fully independent tax paying life, surely we are going to have to find a way to support them.

The numbers just seem massive.

If the woeful education system actually gets a huge shake up (and society in general!), then far more young people will be able to live a fully independent tax paying life. But also, pigs might fly…

RedRock41 · 03/05/2026 22:53

It’s definitely a phenomenon and good Q OP.

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 22:54

Theunamedcat · 03/05/2026 22:48

There are plenty of people unemployed in this country we dont need to bring more in

They’d be employed… Not sure how recently you have been to a hospital but a large proportion of the nurses are from overseas.

Nothingl3ft · 03/05/2026 22:55

Dollymylove · 03/05/2026 22:47

The pensioners are always a target for mumsnetters. Those who have spent a lifetime working.
We are paying 100s of 1000s of healthy people to sit on their arses every day because they are too lazy to get a job. How about getting them to earn their benefits by going out picking litter, tidying up the areas, cleaning up graffiti etc. Anyone refusing will have their benefits suspended.
Oh but we cant do that can we, its against their yuman rites innit

How about if these jobs need doing we pay people a decent wage to do them instead of a wage that can barely be existed on? Less people on benefits then! Radical huh!

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 22:56

But what do people want from this thread? Yes there are more children diagnosed with SEND. Yes they will become adults. What do you propose we do about that?

XenoBitch · 03/05/2026 22:56

Theunamedcat · 03/05/2026 22:48

There are plenty of people unemployed in this country we dont need to bring more in

2.6 job seekers to every vacancy.

Pickledonion1999 · 03/05/2026 22:56

Regarding young people today ( 20-30' s). Yes there are huge numbers who are neurodiverse, and with MH issues etc but there are also many who are living a lot more healthy lifestyles then my generation did at that age. None of my four kids in their twenties drink much at all, one is extremely obsessed with nutrition, going to the gym, leading a healthy lifestyle. My dd whilst not being able to afford the gym walks miles etc. Talking to other mums they all seem to be leading healthy lifestyles so I'm hoping that as this generation reach their fifties and sixties they will hopefully be in good shape.

RaininSummer · 03/05/2026 22:58

Some of these anxious people may feel better able to cope if they got off the internet, turned off the tv and developed some interests or hobbies. I do think these things have made anxiety and not leaving the house or bedroom much worse. I recall very few if any young people struggling like this when I was a teenager.

Toddlerteaplease · 03/05/2026 22:59

Yes because babies who’d have died 30 years ago are surviving.

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 22:59

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 22:56

But what do people want from this thread? Yes there are more children diagnosed with SEND. Yes they will become adults. What do you propose we do about that?

What should we do about any looming future issue? Try to mitigate it early as that’s better for everyone involved?

If I knew the answer I wouldnt have started the thread.

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Glowingup · 03/05/2026 23:01

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 22:59

What should we do about any looming future issue? Try to mitigate it early as that’s better for everyone involved?

If I knew the answer I wouldnt have started the thread.

So how do you mitigate it?

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 23:02

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 23:01

So how do you mitigate it?

No idea hence my asking. Any suggestions?

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XenoBitch · 03/05/2026 23:02

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 23:01

So how do you mitigate it?

Yes, how do you somehow create less disabled people?

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 23:03

XenoBitch · 03/05/2026 23:02

Yes, how do you somehow create less disabled people?

Well it used to be vaccines, health and safety, universal healthcare, a proper sewage and water system and better maternity care. But obviously thats not working any more

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AlcoholicAntibiotic · 03/05/2026 23:06

XenoBitch · 03/05/2026 23:02

Yes, how do you somehow create less disabled people?

It’s not about creating less disabled people. It’s about creating an environment where more disabled people can work.

I don’t know what the answer is - perhaps giving employers incentives to employ disabled people?

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 23:06

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 23:03

Well it used to be vaccines, health and safety, universal healthcare, a proper sewage and water system and better maternity care. But obviously thats not working any more

I think that was to reduce infant deaths, not to reduce disability. You can’t really reduce disability unless you want to get into eugenics in a serious way, and things like autism can’t be screened for in utero.

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 23:07

Glowingup · 03/05/2026 23:06

I think that was to reduce infant deaths, not to reduce disability. You can’t really reduce disability unless you want to get into eugenics in a serious way, and things like autism can’t be screened for in utero.

Health and safety at work reduced infant deaths?

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XenoBitch · 03/05/2026 23:07

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 03/05/2026 23:06

It’s not about creating less disabled people. It’s about creating an environment where more disabled people can work.

I don’t know what the answer is - perhaps giving employers incentives to employ disabled people?

That will never happen, especially in the lower paid jobs. They want the best of the best.
So bump disabled folks off benefits, but there will be no jobs for them.

SemperIdem · 03/05/2026 23:08

I think a lot of the mental health issues, the rise of extreme feeling about many things, that we are seeing across all age groups but especially the young, are tightly linked to the screen based culture that is all pervading.

There is an element of contagion to many things - in the early 00’s it was magazines constantly discussing weight which influenced a generations fractured eating habits, now it is a curated algorithm that spews that same information at them over and over again that they carry in their pocket. The same is also true of right wing propaganda - never more influential than it is now.

Hard to unring the bell but I think it needs to be done for the greater good.

Walkyrie · 03/05/2026 23:08

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 03/05/2026 23:06

It’s not about creating less disabled people. It’s about creating an environment where more disabled people can work.

I don’t know what the answer is - perhaps giving employers incentives to employ disabled people?

I think they should buy up buildings in each major town/city to renovate into small, 1 bedroom flats. I think a lot of these kids as adults will simply spend their lives on computer games and tablets and just need adequate lodgings and basic needs met.

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