How much?

[weddingdilemma2026]

We have been invited to a wedding of a friend. The invite requests “money towards a honeymoon instead of a present” we have no idea how much to give. Don’t want to look flash and potentially give more than close relatives but then again don’t want to look miserly.
If you were invited what would you suggest is a reasonable amount? The wedding isn’t for a few months so the amount isn’t a problem.
It is also local so no additional spending needed to travel or stay away.

£100?

When we were in this position it was for a relative ( a DN). We gave £100 per guest, i.e. three of us in our family going so gave £300. This was about 3 or 4 years ago.

How close are you to them?

What can you afford?

How close? Someone you work with and invited to the evening do £50, a proper friend and there the whole day £100/150.

£100 is a reasonable round number assuming you’re ok financially. If very close to the couple, maybe double it. I have seen £1K given if person is incredibly well off.

But anything is fine so long as it fits your personal finances.

I’d give them a John Lewis voucher and give no fucks about it. A wedding isn’t a fundraising event for a holiday.

£100 i would say x

Eww outright asking to pocket people's money 🤢 it doesn't matter what you give to be honest, they'll still make a fortune.

£100 if you can afford to. £50,if more of an acquaintance than a friend, is acceptable.

£50-100 depending on how close you are.

Minimum £75 per person invited, unless close family then minimum £100

Per person? That seems excessive.

It will feel like you are paying for the reception.

We usually do £100 between us (couple).

For a friend it would depend how close you are.
Average £50.00.
How much would you have spent on a present ?

For close friends more.

£100

What would you have spent on a present? That’s how much I’d give.
I know people on MN hate this kind of thing and some posters will say “buy JL vouchers, the CF’s!” Or “how dare they! Buy them a present instead!” But if you’re going ri spend through money anyway, why wouldn’t you help them get what they really want, in this case an amazing honeymoon?!

I agree with this

So you'd go out if your way to give them something they don't want? Why? If you're going to give them a voucher, why not give them the cash equivalent that they asked for.

I tend to do all day £100 or evening £50.

I find it very amusing when people do this, like this isn't far far ruder than people asking for money in the first place.

I would have said £50 but I seem to be in the minority.

Thanks for your replies so far. To answer a couple of questions it is to a friends wedding and it is a full invite ,so day do and night at a lovely venue.

we are doing £75 as a couple but would do £150 if we had it