How much?

[weddingdilemma2026]

We have been invited to a wedding of a friend. The invite requests “money towards a honeymoon instead of a present” we have no idea how much to give. Don’t want to look flash and potentially give more than close relatives but then again don’t want to look miserly.
If you were invited what would you suggest is a reasonable amount? The wedding isn’t for a few months so the amount isn’t a problem.
It is also local so no additional spending needed to travel or stay away.

£50

Because they are cheeky fuckers. You don’t get to tell people what to gift you just because you are getting married.

£50. 6
Its a gift, I find the idea you have to cover the cost of your invite weird.

Wh do you gain from giving a present that you know isn't wanted?

Well people have done for generations. People used to make wedding registries in places like John Lewis. To tell people what they wanted as gifts. But people usually live together before getting married now so they don't need or want a toaster. Or anything from that shop for that matter. What they do want is a holiday. So why not contribute to that instead of getting something THEY DONT WANT. Or do you often go to weddings of people you don't like, so you don't mind being rude to them.

I really don't understand your point of view. If you're friends enough to be invited to a wedding, why deliberately annoy your so-called friends, just to make some weird point?

I’d say £50

I’d give £100 for a friend.

I’d say £100 as a minimum.

This was a could have years ago, DH and I gave £150 as a gift to the couple, but we did have travel and accommodation costs to factor in, including meal the night before and overnight stay.

How much would you spend on a present or give as a cash gift in a card? Have you really never given cash at a wedding before? We’re a family of 4. We’d give £100 if close to the couple. £50 if a work colleague or something probably.

100 each
At least cover the cost of your plate

If I could afford it between £50-100 per person. If I was loaded then I guess thousands?!

£50 or if family or close friend £100 x

€250 where I live.

Same

i object to giving cash for a holiday, they can either afford the whole wedding and honeymoon or don’t do it

Why? They should not have a wedding if they can’t afford to pay for it

Make sure you write in the card how much better you think you are than them and are ignoring their perfectly reasonable and logical request as a way of expressing your perceived superiority.

We gave £50 a few years a go at DH's friends wedding. Tbh it was a tough time financially and it was all we could afford. Groom hasn't spoken to DH since so we gather they were insulted.

On the other hand travelling (UK) for another friends wedding and gave a small personal gift, as we couldn't afford accommodation and a 'big gift'. They couldn't have been happier that we made the effort to attend.

It really seems to depend on the grabbiness person.

are people answering on a couple or individual attending?

£50-£100 if you can afford it, but also don’t feel bad about just giving them a card or a voucher. Personally I think money requests are bloody cheeky. People should pay for their own damn honeymoon.

Much as I despise requests for money, I’ll give £200 as a rule.

£50

Because it still feels tacky to some. And it’s difficult to gauge how much, which is not the case necessarily with a gift. And it’s awkward if you’re skint.

Of course you do?? Ever heard of a gift registry???

For a good friend £100 and a bottle of champagne or deluxe chocolates