To expect the school not to let dd have her photo taken with lipstick on?

[Nighbynight]

this is actually a genuine question to teachers.

dd had her school photo, and I had to sign a paper giving my consent for her to be photographed. The other girls persuaded her that wearing lipstick would be a good idea. We got the photos today, she looks awful and the lipstick is really obvious.

The photos cost 30 euros per pack. I have got photos of all my other children, that I intend to circulate around relatives, but I can't possibly send the ones of dd. I will have to get them done again, which will cost a lot again.

dd is a bit hurt, so I don't want to tell her that I am not going to buy the school photos, as she is rather down at the moment, and would be very upset by anything she perceived as rejection.

I feel that the school should have monitored things a bit more closely. When I was 11, makeup was forbidden in our school. Or if they were going to get a signature beforehand, they could easily have added a box saying "my child is/is not allowed to wear makeup in the photo" so that people who wanted it could wear it.
I bet teachers will kick at the thought of yet more work, but right now I feel like not letting dd in the photos next year.

[Soapbox]

My 10 yo DD has just gone to her dancing show this evening wearing lipstick, eyeshadow and a bit of blusher. She looks like one of those awful US beauty pagent queens!

I definitely feel she is too young to wear make up - perhaps because she is so beautiful I fear make up won't improve her

I would get the photos done without make up, as you suggest.

I can't believe that children are going to school wearing make up at 11yo Mrs W I'm glad the DCs school is a make up free zone!

[littleducks]

if there is a black and white option that would be good, very arty

[Soapbox]

Toe nail varnish is different, are as temporary tatoos! In fact DD has a lovely butterfly just above her hip bone! I bet the mums who were dressing at teh show tonight will be tutting at me - it does look rather permanant!

[bobbysmum07]

Poor kid. If I were you, I'd try lightening up a bit. Otherwise you'll end up with a rebel on your hands.

[Nighbynight]

it is a pack, all the options are in it together. All the photos are already printed out, just to apply the blackmail, so that parents cant reject it!

blueshoes, have you read the thread?? I said that I am not rejecting them for that very reason.

[blueshoes]

Nighbynight, have you ignored the rest of what I said?

[Nighbynight]

why is toe nail varnish different though soapbox? I feel that way too.

[Nighbynight]

you painted a picture that isnt true

[blueshoes]

You know best then. It is just your dd's feelings afterall.

[Soapbox]

I think for me, it is different because no-one else sees it so I can't be judged for my parenting lapses but can privately enjoy the fact that I am not an up my arse conformist, whilst allowing everyone else to believe that I am

[Nighbynight]

it looks lovely with flipflops though.

[Poohbah]

I agree Blueshoes, she must have felt very low at that moment.

NBN, if I was you I would have a chat with your daughter, tell her she is beautiful but that she is your baby and that you feel she is too young for make up. It's not her that you don't find pretty but the lipstick doesn't suit her skin colour and that you are worried that your relatives will think that you have let her wear the makeup at such a young age and that you shouldn't have done. She is 11 and old enough to understand and have empathy for what you are thinking.

[Anna8888]

My daughter has new pink and bejewelled thong sandals from the sales and she will be getting her toe nails painted bright pink and it will look lovely with her little girl's plainest pink summer dress and cardigan and a plait

[mummyloveslucy]

At my daughters school they are not alawed to wear make up at all right through the school, so that's 18 if you include 6th form. It is good though as I won't have to moan at her.

[tillystar]

I can understand you are upset at the photo but it does annoy me when teachers get the blame for everything!

I beleive teachers are there to teach, not to monitor the state of their pupils' lips and hand out little forms with tick boxes at every occasion.

If your daughter knos she isn't allowed to wear make-up and did it is her fault not he teachers. Just because she is vunerable right now and you don't want to tell her off doesn't mean you should be looking to take your annoyance out on the school.