AIBU to be furious that DH keeps adding chilli to my meals?

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Been with DH 14+ years. Hes got a habit of putting chilli in food - often to the point where he can’t even eat it himself. I’ve told him time and time again NOT to put chilli in my food as I don’t like it. But he does it anyway. It came to a head around 6 months ago when he made some burgers and put chilli in them meaning it was a complete waste of a meal. I couldn’t eat it and he only ate half. I was fuming and he knew it … he’s not done it since.

Until tonight - he said he was making us jacket potatoes. He spent around 2 hours on this chopping, grating etc etc … it smelt lovely and despite the fact that it was getting on for 9pm I chose not to eat anything beforehand as I didn’t want to spoil the meal he was taking so long to make.

First bite in, mouth on fire. I said “you’ve put chilli in this havnt you?”. He said “only a little bit, it is a bit overwhelming isn’t it? I didn’t think I’d put that much in”. Absolutely livid, took my plate to the kitchen and told him I didn’t want it, whole plate of food wasted.

Why?? Why does he do it?? He couldn’t even eat it himself. Turned out he’d put a whole scotch bonnet in it! Why would you put scotch bonnet in someone’s food that doesn’t like chilli?

He then sat there looking all sad and embarrassed. Offered to make me something else so I don’t think it’s malicious but why in gods name do it??

What I don't understand is why you keep name-changing to write your posts about this.

THIS is you from three years ago, isn't it.

So he did it six months ago, hasn't done it again until the once tonight, and that's what you mean by "he keeps doing it"?

No one with a low tolerance for chilli buys scotch bonnets - I think this is bullshit

Meh, my DH has to follow a recipe by the book, he absolutely cannot deviate. I just pick off the bits that I dont like (eg red onions) and say mmmmm like Monica from friends as id rather he cook meals that I slightly dislike than not cooking at all.

Bet there's a chilly atmosphere at home tonight.

So you still eat his cooking even though he has been doing it for at least 3 years? You are the insane one. Cook your own meals and throw away all chillies. Actually don't throw them away, hide them and save them up and then put the whole lot in his dinner next time.

Buy him some chilli sauce that he can add to his own plate, gradually. My DH does most of our cooking and likes hotter food than I do. If he wants spicy he makes me something different.

I’d slather his portion of the next meal you make in red hot chilli sauce. Knobhead.

Down to the ‘whole scotch bonnet’

Does anyone think this is a bot scraping old content and redelivering it lightly rewritten under a different name? The complaint seems to be too ridiculously similar to be real.

If it’s not a bot, you need to leave, OP. My ex does it to my daughter too, despite knowing she has IBS. He simply cannot look beyond his own wants in the moment, despite the fact that he seems embarrassed/defensive afterwards when she can’t eat what he’s served.

You have my sympathy and YANBU. My husband is the same except he was putting whole or ground cloves in everything he cooked. I told him to stop as cloves have no place in a savoury dish. I resorted to hiding them as he can never find anything he's looking for in the cupboards.

Just accept that this is your life and he isn't going to change, that you'll never have spare money because of the amount you both waste on food that goes straight in the bin. That it's impossible for you to leave him for reasons and that's it.

No point grumbling is there. 🙄

Yeah I’ve read this one before.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5308659-dh-put-chili-in-my-food-again

Also this one? Or a similar husband, there are more of them...?

In this one, the dh drinks and is a dick to her when he's been drinking. Might not be the same one tbh.

Maybe putting unwanted chillies in one's wife's food is a thing

I'm definitely not suggesting he deserves a blow job any time soon, but next time he gets one I'd make sure to have mouthful of chillis immediately before.

Then ask him if it's "a bit overwhelming" as he runs his dick under the cold tap. 😜

If you’re scraping old threads for content, don’t repeat ones that are so blatantly obvious.

If you’ve been repeatedly posting about this under different usernames, then either divorce the idiot or shut up about it because it’s clearly not going to change.

I thought this sounded familiar 😂
That I'd read about chilli being put in food even though being repeatedly told not to before.
Is it the same person?! If so, FFS man

So he can't ever have chilli because you don't like it? He should have probably told you you'd have to sort your own dinner tonight though as he was making something with chilli.

I’ve definitely read this before. If you’re not trolling us, you’re a fool for not fucking him off years ago.

I’m glad I’m not the only one whose evil mind went straight to this!!

Have you asked him why?

I really feel like I’ve read this exact post before.

This. And then say "it IS a little bit over powering, isn't?" as he dances around screaming with his knob on fire.

You need to tell him you need a conversation, sit down, look him straight in the eyes, and say "I do not like chillies, can you PLEASE stop adding it to our food? If you add chilli I am telling you now in advance that I won't like it, and I won't eat it. Do you understand what I've just said?"

If he does it after that, he's just an arsehole.