AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

None uniform. It is military slang!

I think the OP probably realises people forget shit.

She was just baffled that the mum knew it was mufti day but didn't know why, when the information came as one.

My bafflement is that such a simple observation and question has created a 25 page thread that has hashed out everything from PTA politics to the n-word.

Good old mumsnet

I feel it’s got worse since modern technology. Once upon a time school used to have to send written letters. The endless printing of letters and the cost to the school to do this would have been impossible to do on such a large scale so there were hardly any of these sort of events happening. My parents used to receive letters from school once in a blue moon, usually about school trips and really important stuff.

Now it’s just easier to have everyone sign up to a school app and bombard them that way about absolutely everything. Or if not via an app then it’s via email or text message. The countless messages are relentless.

You say “not judging” and then go on to do just that. People are busy and dealing with a lot, be glad you have the capacity to be so on top of everything.

All those posts you have quoted are just OP genuinely learning for the first time that mufti isn't universally understood.

I thought it was too. Not used as extensively as it used to be maybe but I had no idea it wasn't generally understood. Why would someone take time to explain a word if they have not unreasonably assumed everyone knows it.

They would just be accused of being patronising by someone.

Why is it a fayre and not a fair?

I suspect the trashed reminded the kids that it was mufti day and then additional kids chatter so mum probably knew that much. My ex gets the same emails as me from school but he has no clue when things are happening.

Loads of us said it at ours.

We literally begged for it!

But alas. The torture lasted for 7 whole years 😩

A mufti is an Islamic scholar; the word derives from Arabic. It was adopted by the British during the period when they were consolidating their empire, mainly to refer to clothes worn by military people when they were off-duty, but must have been used by some schools as well. British had shed almost all of its imperial territories by the beginning of the 1960s, and I haven't heard the term since I was a child over fifty years ago when it was used by upper middle class types.

Yes, I agree 😄 🥰

Yes it can be very bad at times!

Mufti isn’t even a word. I’m not sure why people are so surprised that it’s not universally understood if it’s not an actual word. It’s clearly slang and I’m not sure what/ how that particular word has come to have any association with ‘non uniform’

Absolutely. Britain is moving into a recession and many parents are fighting to stay afloat and don't have time or energy to think about the school "fayre". The teachers and children should be in the classroom, not floating around in "mufti" on a Friday afternoon.

Thank god you decided to enlighten everyone with that answer, 24 pages into the thread 🙄

Can everyone for the love of god stop banging on about mufti. It's tiresome and irrelevant

Really? After multiple posters have provided an explanation both in their own words, with links to online references and even screenshot? And you having access to Google yourself?

That's taking wilful ignorance to an extreme.

Well it's obviously not irrelevant if so many people are struck by the term, which is very clearly a regional term, which is new to many many people in the thread.

What a stupid post! Wilful ignorance don’t make me laugh 🤣

I did google it. The first thing that came up was “A mufti is a qualified Islamic legal scholar”.
And the 2nd explanation was “mufti is plain or ordinary clothes”

Neither of those describe the word as “non uniform day for school children” duh!

Exactly this.

Woman forgets school event - it’s hardly uncommon and seems very odd to start a thread over it when you’re ’not judging.’ People work and often have several tabs open in their brains, this one obviously just bypassed ger her. It really does seem like op started a thread just to congratulate herself on being so on it while subtlety slagging off those who have a life might forget these things.

Why? Because you said so lol

And the multiple posters who have fully explained it? And provided links to the explanation? Here it is again - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mufti_%28dress%29?wprov=sfla1

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mufti_%28dress%29?wprov=sfla1

Oh get over yourself. Why the fuck would anyone have time to search all this shit up just because someone decides to start a thread ranting about a specific event and uses a non word to describe that event and assumes we should all know what they’re talking about.

‘Wilful ignorance’ about a slag term that sounds very much like the other slag term (used to describe female genitalia). Yeah sure it’s wilful ignorance. You people who do seem to know what ‘mufti’ means seem to be ‘wilfully ignorant’ about those of us who don’t 🤣

and wouldn't that be bliss 🥰

It's not a non-word. I didn't have to search anything because I knew it and, like OP, never realised it was a particularly unusual word that many people would need to look up.

How one is meant to know that a word in their standard vocabulary as well as that of their friends, family and official school communications is uncommon I don't know.

It is a non word and you are being ‘wilfully ignorant’. You seem almost offended that I didn’t know what it meant 😂

”How one is meant to know that a word in their standard vocabulary as well as that of their friends, family and official school communications is uncommon I don't know.”

Sorry but that last paragraph makes no sense… should I google it to find out what you mean? Lol. Think you’ll find what you’re say is they are being wilfully ignorant