AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

Unlikely. If it's the word used commonly at schools in the area that's probably what they call it in all comms. Same as our school only call it a tag day because everyone does round here. Which I'd never heard of before but took approximately 30 seconds to figure out.

I think the school fayre probably isn’t a huge priority for most people so the date isn’t necessarily going to stick on their brains. Schools send emails constantly and if you have children across multiple schools you will be bombarded with messages across various email accounts, apps, newsletters, WhatsApp groups, Facebook pages and and websites, so you start to tune out some of the less important ones.

I usually am reminded of the school fayre by my kid, on the day. I work and study full time though, have two kids in different schools, with no support from family nearby, constant medical appointment to juggle for my family because we all have chronic health conditions and I have severe, unmedicated innatentive ADHD so I may not be the most on top of things 😂. Other parents will be juggling similar demands though.

I can understand that if you are a PTA parent, or a stay at home mum/work part time and don’t have much else going on then the school fayre might be a bit higher up your agenda/might be a touch point in the year that you look forward too and it might be difficult to understand why it’s not the same for others.

There's none of this from the OP.

There was a genuine wondering as to how someone could read something that said two things are happening on Friday, react to the first one and seem entirely oblivious to the second one. Which is a bit odd really.

And she's then come back understandably a bit pissed off and tired at the effort of the PTA to raise £1k that day being dismissed as people glorifying themselves and being a clique of ponytail swishing bitches.

Did they happen to go to school in North Oxford?!

I also sent my charges to a school concert dressed as bees due to a school uniform/slang mix up!

Well to be honest, as an Irish person, I am a bit!

Mufti as a word Is not self explanatory. And using it a huge assumption that everyone will understand it and what it means.
Or that children will communicate what it means.
What it stands for I cannot even work out. The U will be uniform. But as to the other letters not a clue.
The whole point of communication is to ensure you do ! This is a fail.

Having just seen a message on our school Facebook page asking whether kids go to school on a bank holiday, I now believe that there’s a fairly big chunk of society that are utterly clueless.

This term does not exist in the Northeast at all.

No. As explained countless times it is not an acronym. And clearly it is widely understood at OP's school and many others.

Same as I didn't know what a tag day was when my school first mentioned it but as it is commonly used by the rest of that school and surrounding ones it was not a chore to work it out by asking or from context.

Just as others have not heard the word "mufti" until this thread, I have not heard the term "non uniform day" until this thread.
Just as others had no idea it can be called mufti day, I had no idea it wasn't.
Everyone I know calls it this. Every teacher. Every parent. I've never known anyone to question it. In all my years on the PTA, not one person has ever asked what it means.
I genuinely believed it to be universal.

Where my kids used to go to school, teacher training days were known as 'Baker Days'. Now they are 'inset days'.

It was fairly easy to say to someone 'we're from 'off', what's a 'Baker Day'?' Or even Google...

Not “someone”, a mother.. Someone who doesn’t have to manage a penis. Utterly shocking.

Whoops! I have definitely forgotten about certain days and turned up to the school and not realised there was something on. We get so many emails, a few always slip through the net. The parents WhatsApp is usually full of either lost school jumpers or people forgetting about an event, so I don’t think it’s that unusual. Most of the events are between 3-5, so I can’t make them due to work.

Well yes, because the person was a woman. Would you prefer it if she had written the entire post saying "parent" and "they" to obscure the person's sex? What would be the point?

The oddity of reading and absorbing point 1 or 2 of on an email and stopping there would be just as weird if it was a man.

Thank you so much xx

There’s a problem in a few areas at the moment with school emails going into junk; they’re trying to fix it.

Maybe the child mentioned the non uniform element to remind her.

In any case I don’t believe anyone is genuinely baffled. Some people are scatty, some uninteresfed and some just don’t have the bandwidth. It’s not that hard to understand, surely?

this thread is mental...We call it 'non uniform day', always have done always will do- which is perfectly normal and quite acceptable. So weird that people find that term 'boring' 🤔

Never ever heard 'mufti'. I live near London.

Oh and we get so much pointless shit from the school, it does get ignored a lot of the time.

Not really pointless though is it? I've just had the final figures. We raised £1047.85
Every penny of that will go right back into the school to benefit the children and families

Don't come, don't donate, don't get involved by all means. It's not for everyone and that's absolutely fine.

But there's no need to label the hard work of others, who have volunteered their time as "pointless shit" just because it doesn't interest you. Especially when you'll probably benefit from their "pointless shit".

Same maybe it’s a southern thing

I think your attitude of being ‘baffled‘ risks you sounding like you don’t get why it’s not top priority for everyone, when you clearly do. Which is quite odd as it seems clear to most people on the thread.

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She wasn't baffled by someone being completely uninterested, that's expected. It was the noting part A and being completely oblivious to part B of the sake information.

God you sound really judgemental and unpleasant op, back away from the thread and read your posts cold tomorrow and you will see it.

she didn’t read the gumph. She is likely busy. People have all sorts going on in their lives, from illness to money problems, that can take away their attention at times,

you sound like you think you’re some form of superior being as you’re so big into “raising money for other people’s kids.” And well done yoh for doing that. But try to accept other people’s have other things going on in their lives and one day that might be you.