AIBU to be baffled a mum had no idea the school fayre was happening?

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Today my daughter's primary school had a spring fayre after school on the school field. Ice cream van, face-painting, various stalls with games, the usual. All arranged by the PTA to raise money for the school.
There was a mufti day today, and the children were asked to bring a donation to the school as an exchange for the mufti, something like cakes to sell or a teddy for the tombola or a bottle of wine as a prize or something.
One mum wanders onto the field after school, with both of her kids in mufti, looking around bewildered saying "What's this? Is this a new thing they're doing? Will it be every week?"

And this is so weird to me because the spring fayre has been organised for months. We have lots of emails asking for donations, several more asking for volunteers, we've had at least three leaflets home about it, and she obviously got the memo about mufti, the whole point in which was for the school fayre!

My phone own child has been banging on about it for three weeks.

How can she get so unaware? I'm not judging, honestly, I'm just baffled how it got past her.

Is it just me? Could you miss something like this after all that communication?

What do you do for work op? Just interested

Because her kids were literally in mufti. But she was walking around the field like she'd just been beamed into space

Really? That sounds so rude and judgey.

Maybe the person being criticised in this has literally no interest in the 'Spring Fayre' 🙄hence took no notice of all the emails. Whatever. It doesn't actually matter how baffled you are.

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This thread is too clikcbait-y to be genuine.

I agree and the ‘OP’ changes personality halfway through, picking up a nice line in slightly sarcastic humour.

On the offchance it’s real, the disorganised M is clearly prioritising things other than her children.

Actually, alot of schools haven't used this term for years, as historically, the British Army is not as well regarded internationally or indeed, even nationally, as you may think. You sound quite narrow minded and unkind . Who are you to judge someone else's general knowledge?

Stay at home/9-5 mum -v- busy career mum maybe?

This. You do sound very judgy OP.

I am in South East and have never heard Mufti day, it's just non-uniform at my kid's school

She may have a lot going on in her own life which is distracting her.

Kent born and bred, never heard of a ‘tag’ day and have never heard anyone use the word mufti in real life. It’s always been ‘non-uniform’ in every school I’ve known. Fascinating how there can be such differences in vocabulary just in the same county!

I am a teacher at my kids school (although in a different department - it's a K12 school). And I still have no idea what's going on! Their primary school events will be different from kindergarten, middle or high school and despite literally being a member of staff and being at the school every day, I still can't keep up!

OP is a very important member of the PTA. They're very important and it's very insulting that literally everyone isn't in awe of them and their very important events.

No further questions are allowed.

On the offchance it’s real, the disorganised M is clearly prioritising things other than her children

This is a stupid thing to say.

Same for me in Somerset. Non uniform day. Only time I’ve ever heard the term mufti being used is on Mumsnet

i am surprised people havent heard of mufti

and i dont blame the woman for her attitude,
life can be so busy

I refuse to get too outraged about this one, but, if OP is on the PTA, I can see why they might be frustrated.

We have someone who never seems to know when it is an inset day. Not knowing whether you kid is supposed to be at school or not and expecting others to tell you is more infuriating....

Maybe it’s a regional term? It used to be mufti when I was at school in Kent in the 90s, not heard the term at all now I’ve got kids in Cambridgeshire.

That woman wouldn't be me because as a sahm I got all the time in the world to read school communications and help out. I do appreciate that some, especially single parents who work full time, have other preoccupations. She might have ADHD/ve ill/ have mh problems/ whatever. Her children probably told her they weren't supposed to come in with uniforms that's it.

It would be nice if we could stop judging fellow mums for their (minor) shortcomings.

shes probably busy and missed the notices, but her kids told her it’s non uniform day. Not exactly rocket science to work that out.

Regardless of what you say, your creation of this post and your unwillingness to just accept her kids probably told her, tells me you are, in fact, judging her.

Just like this charming post…!

I like the sound of that mum.

Lol I took the kid to school on an INSET day.... We'd been told about a dozen times... 😂

A lot of parents can’t even be bothered to read with their children, you see it time and again on here. Do you really think they are interested enough to pay attention to school events?!

I read with my children ever single day.

Didn't mean I always took in every detail of every school event and always remembered to record it in my calendar. We had busy lives and school was just a part of them