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Do you let your children scream?

56 replies

pleaseshutup · 30/04/2026 21:22

Do you let your children scream?
Im talking about when they are playing, outside or in public spaces?
high pitched screaming or screeching?
If so why?
If not, why not?
Yabu: they are just children playing, leave them be.
Yanbu: they should be told to stop because it’s horrible for other people to listen to.

OP posts:
Supporting2026 · 30/04/2026 22:41

Sadly my 1 and 2 year old love a good scream. Drives me nuts but i won't stop it at their age by playing up to it so i let it go.

BudgetBuster · 30/04/2026 22:43

Fatiguedwithlife · 30/04/2026 21:53

You tell them to shut the hell up or be punished. Like any other undesirable antisocial behaviour

But by that point they have already screamed? And the OP would be holed up rocking in the corner.

I don't "allow" my 2 year old to scream. But that doesn't mean he doesn't scream. In particular he'll scream in response to another kid screaming (for example if he hears a child scream, he'll do a little scream back thinking it's funny). I correct him, tell him thats not nice and we aren't scream but I can't physically control him in advance...

BertieBotts · 30/04/2026 22:43

Sometimes yes.

Sometimes I am exhausted by the futility and just allow them to let it out. TBF usually at home, or in a more isolated place (we live on an industrial estate, so they can make as much noise as they want really, our neighbours are mostly factories and train tracks).

My 17yo no longer screams so I think they grow out of it anyway. Can't remember when. Probably about 11.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 30/04/2026 22:49

Supersimkin7 · 30/04/2026 22:39

‘Am I wrong for not stopping it? It doesnt seem excessive to me but i'm always with her’

Why would you want your kid to be a local menace?

She might deserve more than ‘Not Nice to be Near’

Thank you.

Goinggreymammy · 30/04/2026 23:01

I try not to .... for example if someone starts shrieking on the trampoline I call them inside.
However I voted YABU to have started such a judge goady thread.
Lots of posters have pointed out that their children never screamed much, it jwasn't something they did as parents. So it is probably down to children's temperament. You might as well start a thread "Do you allow your children to be nervous in new situations " or "Do you allow your children to enjoy spending quiet time alone"

Goinggreymammy · 30/04/2026 23:09

Supersimkin7 · 30/04/2026 22:35

No.

We had an exuberant screecher in Sainsbury’s yest and people left the shop.

Antisocial very high, very loud noise triggers pain or migraines in a lot of people (plus the urge to provide the 5 yr old with a reason to scream).

It’s unpleasant and allowing DC to cry wolf is never a good idea. ASD equally awful to be around but everyone makes allowances for that.

Thanks for your discriminatory views on people with autism. I find people who show derision and hate to people with disabilities awful to be around, but the difference is they are in control of their views and could do something about it.

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