Do you let your children scream?

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Do you let your children scream?
Im talking about when they are playing, outside or in public spaces?
high pitched screaming or screeching?
If so why?
If not, why not?
Yabu: they are just children playing, leave them be.
Yanbu: they should be told to stop because it’s horrible for other people to listen to.

Absolutely no screaming ever. Unless your leg has fallen off. Screaming is for dire emergency only, not for fun.

Yes i stop it no one should have to put up with deliberate screaming or loud squealing

What do you mean? Children in a play park being noisy and doing what many do with the screaming sets off your flight/fight?
is that only when you can’t see that they’re just being noisy? Are you prone to catastrophic thinking?

I’m not sure what I’m
supposed to do with my ASD teenager then. I’m not letting her scream, I just can’t prevent her from doing so.

Screaming is a human emergency signal to warn or summon aid, not to be diminished by recreational use. I would not allow children to scream.

Me too. We lived next door to a family whose little girl could scream all day probably because her dad liked to drink and play music every time the sun came out. Competing fir attention and yes I am judging.

Absolutely not I’ve raised three and managed to avoid screaming and shrieking. Can’t stand it when other kids do it.

Yes, I think most people explain to them very young that they shouldn't scream, and even in Reception, quite a few understand that Aisha has sensory issues, so it's painful for her when you scream, and that Aunty Rose gets migraines, so even some 5 year olds know and use these words, and they know to scream if there is danger, but never unless it's something serious.

An excited scream outside in the garden when playing etc which isn't prolonged? Yes.

Prolonged screaming in public places just for the sake of making noise? No.

You tell them to shut the hell up or be punished. Like any other undesirable antisocial behaviour

In the right environment - a playground or funfair for example, screaming because it's fun - no problem. Random every day stuff, they've never wanted to.

Screaming should be for alarm and distress only - including adults.
As witnessed last month in a holiday resort - adult woman screeching
Everyone just thinks - “oh, Brit woman screaming in pool again” - sigh.
Except everyone dismissed the noise and no one responded - it took a long time for anyone to realise the woman wasn’t messing about screeching but out of her depth and drowning.

do you have or had dc? That sounds pretty scary parenting!

No.

but my new neighbours let their 3 year old . It’s not nice to listen to from 6am to 8.pm

I don’t ‘let them’ scream but my 3 year old often ‘screeches’, I tell him to stop and distract him as I hate it and he’s also very sensitive to certain noise but very comfortable with his own! We’re a few months in to this delightful phase - I absolutely do very directly tell my child not to scream but he doesn’t care! If we were in public I’d remove him for everybody else’s benefit, thankfully it’s mostly at home and when he sees his nursery friends and he’s never done it somewhere like a cafe. We also thankfully have no neighbours who can hear him!

Okay so my dd is autistic and does scream - in the supermarket for example. Not crying, just happily screaming to herself

Am I wrong for not stopping it? It doesnt seem excessive to me but i'm always with her

Tell me the truth, kindly, and i'll take it

Reading through the thread, I will try to distract her from screaming

When mine were young - absolutely not. Kids were also told off at school for doing it but that doesn’t seem to happen now.

Please try and stop her, it physically hurts my ears when it’s somewhere like a supermarket.

No @mumofoneAloneandwell please don’t feel guilty tripped here, I hope the complaining posters are only meaning the dc that are screaming for the sake of it, not those like your dd, for whom this is how she communicates

This.

No.

We had an exuberant screecher in Sainsbury’s yest and people left the shop.

Antisocial very high, very loud noise triggers pain or migraines in a lot of people (plus the urge to provide the 5 yr old with a reason to scream).

It’s unpleasant and allowing DC to cry wolf is never a good idea. ASD equally awful to be around but everyone makes allowances for that.

No. It's bad parenting to let that happen because it can cause pain for others an trigger migraines also its bad for them because if they scream in a real emergency you won't know it is so. No one wants to hear that shit

No. Obviously young children sometimes scream or have tantrums but part of your job as a parent is to bring them up so they learn not to do this.

‘Am I wrong for not stopping it? It doesnt seem excessive to me but i'm always with her’

Why would you want your kid to be a local menace?

She might deserve more than ‘Not Nice to be Near’

My next door neighbours let theirs scream ALL THE TIME they're outside in the garden. Not just the odd one as might happen in play, but as if it's a screaming competition. I guess the parents are peacefully indoors with the doors shut while this goes on. Twats. I wonder if they allow the same level of screaming indoors when the weather's bad.