Things people do that baffle you 2

[jenzzi]

Following this thread https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5520735-things-people-do-that-just-baffle-you?page=40

Things included
talking on loudspeaker in public
very elderly people who shop on Saturday morning
people that stop at shop entrances
people park next to you in a car park that is about 20% full

People who put their hazard lights on when they're pulled over at the side of the road; buses - I'm looking at you. Why oh why? If your right indicator is going I think you're pulling out and either your left indicator can't be seen as there are other vehicles behind you, or I then have to double check your left indicator, having slowed down to let you out.
Just put your left indicator on if you must have any indicator at all.

How about on motorways where the overhead gantry signs are very clear about wanting you to move to the designated line now? Do you ignore them? Interested observer - no strong feelings either way but I do tend to follow the motorway signs. Depends how lucky I'm feeling whether I chance others as I know it pisses people off.

Using two lanes won't get everyone through a one lane section any more quickly. In fact the argument is that using one lane from further back actually makes the traffic flow more smoothly and quickly.
The only counter argument is that when you're on an A road for example, traffic building up may cause congestion at earlier junctions and impact more people that way. That would rarely be the case on a motorway though.

You need to use the one lane from further back so you have a smooth flow of traffic. People who use the second lane then try to murge later creates a stop start in the flow of traffic making the time longer for most drivers. Except of course the ones who ignore this rule.

@BrickBiscuit to be fair to the individuals they almost can't not they get schooled and lessons on it very early and it's backed up by family and community . Also they are told they are born it...

It's mandatory to follow the motorway signs. They actually do mean "move over now". It's advisory to follow the merge-in-turn advice. It says take account of the speed of traffic and do it if safe.

Interesting point. I was born, brought up and educated into a religion. I immediately thought (around the age of six or seven I suppose) that this doesn't make sense. I could not believe the adults were taken in by it. There were such blatantly obvious contradictions and impossible stories.

It seems a bit of a hot topic. I got nearly three times as many as the most reactions I'd ever got before (screenshot attached).

[edit though disappointed not to get a 'first post nails it' comment!]

Work for a supermarket for 14 years and you will notice more. As majority of customers spend 1.5 hours a week in a supermarket in 2/3 visits. I worked 35 hours a week

Merge in turn, if used correctly, is very smooth. Two lanes going the same speed and drivers just merge into one lane, one at a time. What causes the stop/start is the drivers trying their best to close gaps and stop merging.

So you should have noticed that elderly quite naturally walk slower and often take longer time make decisions. It's called aging and you should have been accepting and been more tolerant

You know jenzzi, elderly people don't take longer just to piss you off. Many have early onset dementia which affects their decision making. Many walk slow due to arthritis. There's many other conditions In not going to name them all. I get so angry when people, esp people who work in shops so should know better get annoyed with the elderly who just want to get through the day with kindness. Jenzzi it's time to give your head an enormous wobble.

People who spend thousands of pounds on a holiday abroad. Then never leave the hotel and don’t eat the local cuisine.

This is my hell. I go on holiday to relax. Plus spend days exploring the area. Then eat local cuisine

Plus jenzzi when you work in a supermarket you are there to help the customers. Not put the elderly or disabled through even more stress. I have also worked in a supermarket, your attitude is disgusting

I’m baffled how some people seem to read an aggressive/attacking/unpleasant tone into every neutral statement or see everything as “bashing”.

Maybe calm down and try reading things in a neutral or friendly way. Much nicer way to imagine things than making everything combative.

Many have early onset dementia

Early-onset dementia is dementia that appears at a young age, often in 40s/50s.

It doesn't mean the early stages of dementia in people over 65.

Oh sorry I guess one of my parents just imagined it in their late sixties even tho it was medically diagnosed.
And it dosent takeaway the fact that OP displayed horrendous behaviour towards the elderly when she worked in a supermarket. She should be discusted with herself

It’s not disgusting. They are not helping anyone including themselves shopping during busy times.

My parents are retired and they don’t shop on Saturdays! None of our friends and family circle who are retired shop on Saturday mornings.

Active travel such as cycling saves the nhs more money than it costs to treat cycling related accidents

I know that road, my friends live in Inverness! I'm driving the M8 in Glasgow, coming off at Ibrox where there's 4 month roadworks 🙈, & Paisley Road West has new temp lights/ roadworks/diversions daily! Sheesht!

Sorry about your parent. Late-onset dementia starts in the late sixties. Early-onset dementia starts before the sixties. Early-stage dementia is what happens after it starts, whatever the age.

The elderly people in your earlier post are probably in the early stages of late-onset dementia.

I have a disability which affects my speed, I'm doing no harm by shopping on a Saturday, I enjoy it. Other people need to learn tolerance because I'm going to keep doing it. The world does not revolve around the able bodied person only. If your parents don't want to shop on a Saturday that's their decision. You have no right to expect other pensioners to do the same, some pensioners only carry what they can manage so shop almost daily. You do not have the right to expect them to change this for your convience just because you can't wait a couple of minutes.

This one won't garner much support, but here goes..

I hate it when I get a coughing fit and people keep offering me a glass of water. Even when I shake my head or wave my hand at them, they keep insisting.

I've never understood how a glass of water helps - the tube affected by the coughing fit is your windpipe, and water would go down your oesophagus. You definitely don't want water down your windpipe!!!

I think it's more to do with the feelings of the offerers - they want to be seen to be doing something. And I suppose medics would say 'it's the placebo effect - it feels as though it should do some good, so you relax and the coughing stops' or something?

What I crave when a coughing fit starts is for people not to look at me, not to make a fuss and to leave me alone and not make me speak. That's the best way to help things calm down. Or just let me run away and leave the room , if the situation allows and please, don't come running after me asking about water!!!

Apologies for sounding ungracious.

In Mass when people usually say certain prayers in unison and you get the odd person that says it as quickly as possible ahead of other people. Could be cultural? But we all know the words, why say it before everyone else and out of sync?

Opposite end of the spectrum - in a certain former USSR country, people clap in unison at the end of a show! Slow and monotonous, it's quite ominous 😂

People who undertake on a 30mph road, speed ahead only to stop at the red light that was visible from before the undertaking. Why??

Men who parade around topless in summer. It's not that hot! All the women of various ages including those pregnant or going through hot flushes are managing to cope with tops on. People live in much hotter climates and cover up! Put your scorched belly away.

One I know isn't popular on here - why is there this attitude I've come across on quite a few threads of let whoever's looking after your child do anything they want (load them with sweets, no rules etc) or put them in paid childcare and presumably never leave them alone with your child? Speaking as one with a fabulous MIL who has my toddler one day a week, we provide everything she wants and she can have a day off whenever she wants to. She is very much on board with trying to keep consistency for our child but also has her own different rules at her house which we teach him to respect. Why no middle ground? Surely GP and parents can get more or less on the same page and same team? GP and GC get such a great bond from alone time, this attitude of let GP run amok or not see their GC as much is so strange to me. Again maybe it's cultural but GP are another authority figure for us just as the parents are. I do think it's good for kids to have their own relationship with different rules at Grandma's house but I don't see what's wrong with parents and GPs agreeing a few basic ground rules like limiting sugar or screen time. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding the posts I've seen but I really find it baffling!

Good point. Anyway worrying about the NHS is sanctimonious in that context. We all do something that isn't good for our health.