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Things people do that just baffle you

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Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes · 23/04/2026 11:49

What does either a specific person in your life, or just the general public do, you just don't understand why they do it, and you either can't ask them or you've tried to ask them and they can't tell you?

Write it here and maybe someone else that also does it can tell you why, or has an idea as to why.

Here are mine:

Why do my neighbours across the street bring their bins outside a full 24hrs early? They are retired, home most of the day, go in and out of their house five or six times during that 24hr period, but bring their bins out early Monday morning when they don't get picked up until Tuesday morning?

Why do people talk on their phones on speakerphone in public, what is the purpose?

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FedUpandFiftyNine · 24/04/2026 14:42

I don't understand why so many women make their lives difficult by having ridiculously long false nails...

  • can't type on a keyboard or phone properly
  • seems to make them avoid holding or doing anything remotely difficult or dirty

Why? Just why?

FedUpandFiftyNine · 24/04/2026 14:44

Also don't understand why people don't flatten and pack their paper and cardboard in their recycling box, rather than just tossing empty, whole boxes in, and then letting them blow all down the street!

FedUpandFiftyNine · 24/04/2026 14:51

AwesomeChampagne · 23/04/2026 12:29

Vaping

In a similar vein to parking next to people in an empty car park, booking a seat in an almost empty cinema and someone sitting next to you

I was once in the cinema and there were 3 people including myself and someone decided to book the seat next to me

On the cinema thing, if you were sitting in the middle, about two-thirds of the way back, the other person will have booked the closest seat as these are technically THE BEST SEATS from a view and sound point of view. They want the best seat for the experience and someone sitting next to them doesn't bother them as much as sitting in an inferior seat would.

Allseeingallknowing · 24/04/2026 14:55

FedUpandFiftyNine · 24/04/2026 14:42

I don't understand why so many women make their lives difficult by having ridiculously long false nails...

  • can't type on a keyboard or phone properly
  • seems to make them avoid holding or doing anything remotely difficult or dirty

Why? Just why?

How do they wipe their bums properly ? Surely their nails go through the paper!

BauhausOfEliott · 24/04/2026 14:55

Some people on this thread are confusing 'baffling' things with things that are not baffling in the least, but simply selfish and annoying. Of course, some of them can be both, but it's not 'baffling' that someone makes loud phone calls in public or has badly behaved kids. They're simply people who put their own likes/wants/needs over those of people around them, which is cuntish but not baffling.

Anyway - now that I've got that off my chest, I am regularly baffled by the behaviour of my next door neighbours who (and have for years) constantly put quite expensive things in their garden and then just leave them to rot and rust, despite having two completely empty sheds. Their kids' bikes, their electric lawnmower and their strimmer have been rusting on on their lawn for the entire winter. Meanwhile, both their spacious sheds are sitting empty with the doors wide open. This is obviously no skin off my nose, so I'm not annoyed by it, but I'm dying to know why they don't just put stuff away.

They also buy their kids new paddling pools - and not cheap ones - every single year, because each summer they just leave them in the garden on the last day they use them and then they just remain there, growing mould and algae and getting punctured, for a year. Then they get thrown away and a new one bought. This has happened every year for the decade we've lived here. Again, they've got two empty sheds they could put them in.

If they were rich, I could at least explain it as them just being rich twats who don't care about the waste because they had money to burn, but they aren't rich at all.

jenzzi · 24/04/2026 15:01

FedUpandFiftyNine · 24/04/2026 14:44

Also don't understand why people don't flatten and pack their paper and cardboard in their recycling box, rather than just tossing empty, whole boxes in, and then letting them blow all down the street!

Or remove their name and address from Amazon and suchlike packages

SapphireSeptember · 24/04/2026 15:05

Starlightexpresss · 24/04/2026 09:45

Indeed- I've often wondered why those people are wasting their time on MN when they could be out changing the world, saving the planet, campaigning for causes, raising money for victims of war, volunteering to help with homeless shelters etc You know, the exact things they lecture others about 🤣

Bingo! They're clearly better than us mere mortals who like to have a laugh occasionally, or whinge about something silly.

@OvernightBloats Same here! I'm currently 'shopping my stash' as I can't find much I like on the high street/internet at the moment. I used to get so excited when new things came out, but at the moment it's a bit boring (to me.) Nail polish is still fun to buy though. 😁

Isittimeformynapyet · 24/04/2026 15:09

angelcake20 · 23/04/2026 14:19

I pack afterwards as otherwise the Sainsbury’s scales don’t register my bag properly and I end up having to wait for staff to zero it multiple times in a shop.

A member of staff at Sainsbury's taught me to pick it up and put it back down again it worked every time.

But that was before the Smartshop handsets. Use those and you don't have to put anything on the shelf.

I won't accept "I don't know how to use them" as an excuse!

(I will accept "my local one doesn't have them" though 😄)

TheignT · 24/04/2026 15:32

jenzzi · 23/04/2026 20:45

.Pensioners in their 80s and 90s who have to shop on Saturday mornings and complain how busy it is. During my supermarket assistant days, they used to annoy the staff and the working age customers. They annoy me still. I am sure they can find an hour- hour and a half during the week. I accept those who are taken by their working age children. That was about 3%.

. The need for people to play their music - which is usually crap, on loudspeakers on their phones on buses.

. People who go on holiday and only leave the hotel to go home. Then not eat any of the local cuisine. That is my holiday hell. Then see their photos on FB - they could have been anywhere. Nothing in the photos to indicate which country they are in.

I went to Sainsbury's at 10.30 today. Struggled to find a parking space as car park was packed, shop was as bad and long queue for checkouts,manned and self scan. Not convinced tomorrow will be any better.

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 24/04/2026 15:33

Flamingojune · 24/04/2026 13:54

Have it delivered

Not everybody wants to do that, though. They may not be online to order it, they may not want to pay the delivery charge, they may not need enough to justify a full order, they may not want to/be able to guarantee to be at home for a slot, they may prefer to look at the food that's available and choose their own...

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 24/04/2026 15:36

Flamingojune · 24/04/2026 13:58

So you go when its quieter to be altruistic? Or to suit your own needs?

As I explained: both - that's what I meant by it being a 'win' for everybody.

The queues are shorter for me, as I'm going at a less busy time; and they're also shorter for the folk who can only go at the weekends, because their queue isn't made longer by the people like me who can go at less busy times.

CarbootJunction · 24/04/2026 15:37

Why do parents take babies and children with them when they do a massive food shop? The notion genuinely baffles me.
Just get your shopping delivered and save yourself stress, expense and energy.

TryAndGetOutOfThat · 24/04/2026 15:38

LittleMissClutter · 23/04/2026 11:53

Why do so many of my neighbours drive to our local corner shop which is approximately a 3 - 4 minute walk?

For quickness. I admit to doing that, but then I'm elderly and disabled

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 24/04/2026 15:49

FedUpandFiftyNine · 24/04/2026 14:42

I don't understand why so many women make their lives difficult by having ridiculously long false nails...

  • can't type on a keyboard or phone properly
  • seems to make them avoid holding or doing anything remotely difficult or dirty

Why? Just why?

This one banjaxes me too. I sometimes think about people like Alex Brooker, who has fingers missing and limited ability with the remaining ones, having been born with disabilities, and how much harder everything must be for him... and then you have people with the privilege of having five fully-functional fingers on each hand but actively choose to seriously reduce their ability to use their otherwise-healthy fingers.

AwesomeChampagne · 24/04/2026 15:55

AntiqueBabyLoanSmurf · 24/04/2026 15:33

Not everybody wants to do that, though. They may not be online to order it, they may not want to pay the delivery charge, they may not need enough to justify a full order, they may not want to/be able to guarantee to be at home for a slot, they may prefer to look at the food that's available and choose their own...

I live alone and sometimes struggle to order enough for the minimum order amount required

LittleMissClutter · 24/04/2026 16:00

TryAndGetOutOfThat · 24/04/2026 15:38

For quickness. I admit to doing that, but then I'm elderly and disabled

Right but the majority of my neighbours aren't.

Otherwise I wouldn't be baffled about it?

Imdunfer · 24/04/2026 16:53

springhyacinths · 24/04/2026 14:02

Yes, I understand people have their personal reasons for doing this. It is the complete lack of spatial awareness - that they are now taking up the aisle, and blocking the passage of other shoppers, and the entitlement to do so.

The alternative is to block the shelves.

I've heard it all now, nobody, in a shop aisle stacked 6 shelves high and fifty feet long, with 10 feet of yoghurt alone is allowed to stand in an aisle to view what they are about to choose to buy.

Also people don't take up any more space depending on where in an aisle they stand to view the shelves face on.

Just how impatient a person are you?

igelkott2026 · 24/04/2026 17:10

TinyGingerCat · 23/04/2026 16:07

People in large teams calls that post in the chat “thanks that was great, but I’ve got to go to another meeting” or “sorry someone at the door”. I was on a call with 350 people today and a number of people did this. Why? Nobody gives a shit and it’s really distracting to have the chat function pinging away. See also people who type thank you at the end of presentations instead of using the clapping hands thing.

I hate that. Where I work, someone mentioned the thanking people at the end and all the pinging and asked if we could just take the thanks as read and got roundly criticised for it.

igelkott2026 · 24/04/2026 17:16

Catinabeanbag · 24/04/2026 10:55

People who stand in queues in shops for several minutes, then spend ages rummaging about in their bag / purse for their cash / card when they get to the till, holding everyone up. It's not a surprise that you have to pay for your item.... why not get the cash / card out when you're standing in the queue??!

People with no awaress of what's going on around them....staring at their phones, stopping randomly in the street to look at something / talk to somone, poeple walking in groups, talking, with no awareness that they're in the bloody way! Just move!

I agree with your second point but despite being massively impatient I've never been stuck behind someone looking for their card/cash. And even if they do, they can't start until they've put all their shopping down anyway if they were carrying a basket. We don't have loads of hands!

Shinyhappyapple · 24/04/2026 17:16

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 23/04/2026 22:19

See also mothers with small children who insist on doing their shopping (or worse, go into the post office) between 12-2 on a weekday

Perhaps they’ve been to a toddler activity in the morning or are shopping before collecting their older children from school.

Or perhaps they work during the morning and have just collected the younger child/ren from day care, running round the supermarket before getting home to put toddler/s down to nap, at which point they will put the hoover round before rushing back out to collect older children from school .

MoonWoman69 · 24/04/2026 17:35

Women (mainly) who wear Crocs with sports socks, pull the socks fully up over their leggings, then think it looks good. Trust me, it doesn't, it looks ridiculous. It just baffles me that they can't see that.
People who follow actors pages on Facebook, which aren't actually anything to do with the actual actors, comment on posts that are put up, as if they're communicating with the actual person!
Posters on Facebook who post "Happy heavenly birthday nan, you'd have been 112 today, been gone from us for 30 years" or some such drivel. When is the cut off for that?! I can maybe understand the first 5 years or so, but beyond that, it's daft!
People who pay vast amounts of money for personalised number plates. Why? If I had the money, I wouldn't do it, there's better things to spend my money on.
People who post on MN, clearly wanting everyone to agree with their outrageous post, then when they don't, they get nasty with every poster that challenges them. You've asked AIBU, just accept that you're not sometimes!
The last one is a bit of a personal one, but it baffles me that my neighbours gardener turns up every few weeks around 7am and starts working away with noisy petrol appliances. She's in her 80s, even she doesn't get up at 7am! Doesn't matter the weather, it's between 7am and 7-20. They can't assume everyone will be up getting ready for work, I'm not!

Sharptonguedwoman · 24/04/2026 17:51

Whatexcellentboiledpotatoes · 23/04/2026 12:17

I understand that but what's wrong with 5 or 6pm? Why are they out on the pavement from early morning when they are home all day?

And anyway, they don't care about noise, they walk their barky spaniel from 5am 🙃

Because the job is completed and they don’t have to think about it again.

HiPassingthrough · 24/04/2026 17:55

Why do people go on there phone when in company! I dont mean checking for calls but scrolling! So rude!

Iz20 · 24/04/2026 17:57

People usually women walking in front of their children often toddlers while chatting to each other I get stressed or that the kid will run into traffic and they are blessfully Wapping and walking 10 steps ahead .

TedDog · 24/04/2026 17:57

My mum has to use speakerphone on her phone as she’s partially deaf and awaiting a hearing aid. She does however avoid using it at all in public and if it rings, she tries to step away into a quiet corner.

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