What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

[shehardlysleeps]

I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

I'm assuming it was accidental? Did you stop?

How can you not know- didn’t you try to find out?

It's ok, she was cheating on him too, but she can write her own response to the OP, I guess.

Thanks for the drip feed. 👍

I've also heard that this happens a lot.
My Gran's last day was similar - my Dad (her son) spent the whole day with her at the home, and then she died in the night after he left.

You’d almost think she’d have said that in her original post, being that it’d be entirely relevant. If it was true…..

Crikey not sure I could possibly say after reading the mild things on here! Can hand on heart say that I’ve never bullied or been nasty to anyone, I’m not that sort of person.

I abhor bullies and have always stuck up for anyone being bullied, including myself. I am, however, a believer in Karma and helping karma get to the right person…

i have done things in the past but I don’t feel ashamed or guilty. They were things that were necessary at that time, you definitely shouldn’t let one bad decision live rent free in your mind! One bad decision doesn’t make you a bad person

I have one of those as well😳

Imagine if this was a men’s group….just leaving that there to think about for a moment

Slept with my boyfriend's brother.. one night with him, one with another.

At one point I slept with one at evening and later by midnight with another.
A pure madness. This was in 1996 BTW...I was young and stupid...

I joined in and encouraged teasing a boy at school (we were 7ish) because he had bad excema. I really wish I could say sorry now.

I behaved very badly to someone who loved me very much. He was heartbroken by what I did and I was dismissive of his feelings. If it comes into my head now I have to immediately think of something else, because it tortures me how heartless I was.

Got married. Awful

Got married. Awful

Had an affair with a married man. I justified it by saying I was single I could do what I wanted. I was young and dumb and just got out of an abusive relationship. To this day I’m waiting for my karma I feel awful all the time over it.

I’m not telling you! Gosh no.

Temporary speed camera van sometimes sits on my way home: As I come off a dual carriageway in the right hand lane (left goes to an often backed up left turn, traffic lights etc.), I can see through the trees whether or not it is there. One day, I saw it and slowed to the required 30mph. A woman in a white Fiesta came barelling up behind me like a bat out of hell, and was so close to my back bumper that I couldn't see much of her bonnet. Had I stayed where I was, she would have been OK, but I indicated and moved into the left hand lane and watched her go blazing past me ...and then slam her brakes on just that bit too late.....

It’s not the worst thing I’ve done, but I put a dog poo through a neighbours letterbox

I got divorced twice

Why?

So bad you did it twice?

I broke the heart of someone who was in love with me. Managed to break my own too at the same time. Three decades later we were in irregular email contact and I sent him a profuse and heartfelt apology. He accepted and we’ve maintained a warm irregular email contact ever since. He even made excuses for my behaviour! We both have very happy family lives with long term partners. It haunted me for years though.

Oh I feel for you. While travelling on a fast single carriageway a wood pigeon basically flew across my path at just the right height to hit my windscreen. I was very shocked and in my rear view mirror saw him dazed and floundering in the middle of the road. I immediately stopped in a layby and got out to retrieve him, just in time to see a lorry thunder towards him. He was totally flattened by it.

I felt terrible guilt as I had basically caused his death. He went from stunned to very, very dead in less than a second. Terrible to witness!

They were really rude all the time. I worked in a demanding job and they were partying all night and they used to have bbqs next to my washing. I tried being polite to them but they kept just saying fuck off everytime I asked. So I thought I’d use a language they understood.