What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

[shehardlysleeps]

I’m in a reflective mood, and it’s got me thinking about something I did a few years ago which is probably the thing I’m most deeply ashamed of.

There was a coworker who really rubbed me up the wrong way. I was very unhappy at the time, and going through an awful time personally. She would make snide comments about me, do things with my family members (who were colleagues too) which really got my back up, I felt like she judged me harshly and was pretty rude. Along with another colleague they made three or four very nasty comments which still stick with me.

Instead of raising a grievance, which I should have done, I took to posting about her on another website (along the lines of Mumsnet), not realising she used it too. She saw the posts and reported me, and I ended up facing a meeting with HR and a senior partner of the firm I was working in. It damaged my reputation within the firm forever and I ended up leaving after not being offered a promotion. I still feel ashamed of it now, nearly half a decade on, and feel like it’s tarred me forever.

Whats the worst thing you’ve ever done?

I still feel absolutely awful for that poor driver

I've done that. Puked on a hotel room carpet too and just gave it a cursory rub and then left... 🙈

Didn’t attend my gran or granny’s funeral. It was on the other side of the country and I have terrible fear of travel. For me, I know I paid my respects privately but I’m ashamed that people (other than my parents) will have just assumed I couldn’t be arsed. Especially since I attended my grandpa's but at the time I still lived local so the travel was less of an issue although I was still terrified.

Just remembered one...I was working in Clarke's shoes. A couple came in with a baby and a 3 year old. I fitted the baby with shoes and the 3 year old wanted new shoes but I got the feeling the couple weren't keen on spending too much. I checked his shoes and said he still had growing room because they were only going to buy new ones if he had outgrown his. I was also keen to not appear to be trying to make them spend money. The kid cried at not getting new shoes and I still feel rubbish about it. I should have just said yes he needs new shoes and not cared if the parents could afford it

Yes but that's not as bad as covering a man AND his lively hood! I'm a monster

I slept with two men in the same day and i was in a relationship with them both and they didnt know about each other..
But strangely i dont feel guilty as i was 20 years old and they were both twats. Deep down im quite impressed with myself. I was usually a sweet natured people pleaser and both those guys were quite manipulative. The whole thing was out of character for me and didnt last long. But i felt powerful tbh.
Of course it was also awful and sad and unhealthy. I shouldnt have been with either of them.

Something i do feel guilty about is that i was quite troubled in my late teens and had an amphetamine addiction. I was still trying to go to college at 18 but it was a course i had to pay for. I was living away from home and not in contact with my parents. My nan was quite supportive and tried to help me by paying the course fees.
She put the money into my account and instead of paying the fees i withdrew it all and bought a massive amount of speed. I couldnt then pay for the course and dropped out
I think thats probably the worst thing ive ever done as my nan wasnt wealthy and would have sacrificed things in order to send that money

you could have quickly popped in the shower. that's what I would have done. or you could have said there was a dead spider in the shower and you wanted to wash it away.

she won't need to as she'll get mummy's job when she retires.

It’s more the apparent pride the poster has taken in this which is the issue. The “poor things, lol”. Plus, it ultimately isn’t very helpful for her daughter either. Others on here actually feel remorse for their mistakes and have tried to learn from them.

Those two posts seem more like boasting , morally not good, but not the worst thing in the world to have done,

Always carry a doggy bag

And I would add that the people on this thread, with one notable exception, feel remorse for what they did. So in my book that makes them good people!

There are lots of people out there who never give their behaviour (past or present) a second thought. They just do what serves them and hang everyone else, and certainly don't lose sleep over it. And I know from experience that this applies to many people who might call themselves religious, or who hold positions of trust in society.

So don't feel bad! We're all imperfect, but what matters, I think, is how you move on from these things. If you reflect, feel bad and resolve to either make amends (not always possible) or to be better in the future, that's what defines your worth as a person.

People who LOL, however....there's no hope....

@SabrinaThwaite

For some inexplicable reason I love the detail in this ...😃

Why ? That is so random

It’s morally a completely neutral thing to have done. Assuming everyone involved was consenting and adult. Why do you imagine it’s ’morally not good’?

Maybe ,but the pp says she works for the local authority
Ime workin for the NHS slso public sector
There can be a lot of restructuring,with people being moved around
Things are not guranteed and with out mummy to hold her hand the daughter may juat find she has bitten more than she can chew.

Exactly!

I feel like this too. I regret many thoughtless things I said when younger, that would’ve hurt others’ feelings. I may be a much better person now, after years of reading, learning, reflecting, but I am paying the price in lost childhood/ potential friendships.
But if you’ve met my mum and older siblings you’d know why I was the way I was.

I used to live with a guy (in a two-bed flat - we weren't friends, it was just a flatshare) who had a massive jar of pound coins outside his room and I used to steal them to pay for my bus fare to work (I was extremely skint at the time). In my defence, he was a massive twat who expected me to cook and clean and got stroppy when I didn't, and also tried it on with me. The ceiling fell in over his bed one evening and that felt like karma.

It works with dandelion seeds too……place a few in the tray before freezing…..pop the cubes out and harvest dandelions to your heart’s content 😜😜

Don't we all do twatty things in our late teens/20s though? I can remember some horrible thoughtless things I said which make me cringe looking back, and I also slept with some idiotic guys, was careless about breaking hearts, and upset some of my friends unnecessarily. I regret all of that but I do know I am a better person now, probably because of it.

We can only hope.

I put bleach in my abusive exes washing detergent on the day I left him whilst he was at work.
I'd love to have seen his face after his black work uniform came out the wash!

I misread the beginning of this as ‘I put bleach in my abusive ex’s eyes’ and was just about to be genuinely aghast after a thread of generally meek misdemeanours!

I’m sure he looked adorable in his mottled, stonewash-effect uniform.

That’s my opinion, obviously others will feel differently. Why post on this thread, which is about the worst thing you’ve ever done, if it’s not a bad thing?