Things that are supposed to be enjoyable but aren't in reality

[Tooconfused12]

Here's my list:

Holidays with the family (kids under the age of 6.) Too expensive, the kids are always tired/vomiting/over-stimulated. Travelling is a fucking nightmare. There's at least two arguments with your partner. And you (being the woman) end up doing all the prep for about three weeks beforehand. When you come back it takes at least a week for you to get through all the washing. And you're exhausted.

Being on the beach. It's actually a bit shit all round. Sand everywhere. People get too hot and uncomfortable. Sand in the food. Warm drinks that have been left out in the sun. The kids end up with sand in their eyes and so do you. It's always really windy and the sea is miles out which means you have to walk for ages to get there. Someone gets bitten/cut by a rock/sunburnt/swallows loads of sea water and you give up and leave after about 2 hours of drama.

Eating out. Too expensive, better quality of cooking at home with fresh ingredients.

Paris. Dirty, smelly, you're followed everywhere by sleazy men trying to sell you stuff or pickpocket you. Everyone's really fucking rude as well

Having sex. It's a bit touch and go, most of the time it's slightly boring, the bloke normally orgasms before you and the people you really fancy - when you end up shagging it turns out to be rubbish after all that build up. Or they ooze sex appeal and charisma but they do something to give you the serious ick and your vagina slams shut.

Hen do's - end of.

Have to say, I agree with pretty much all of that. It’s a very relatable and realistic list 😆

im adding baths- I love the idea of a bath, but find that after 10 minutes it’s boring. And yes, that is even with reading / watching something on a tablet/ having a drink. Maybe I just need a nicer, bigger bath 😆

Definitely agree with beaches. Too hot and too much sand.

the hairdressers
being sat in a noisy environment making small talk and being messed with for hours and hours
no wonder my roots are showing!

Beach, definitely and sunbathing in general. I hate it! Luckily DH does too! We put up with it when the kids were young but these days the only time I'm on a beach is for a walk, fully clothed with shoes on.

Christmas.

Agreed @Tooconfused12but I quite like beaches for a day when it’s not baking hot. UK summer - good, UK winter - better. Overseas beach holiday - no chance.

Definitely agree with Paris.

I’ll add Pregnancy and clothes shopping.

I’m in Paris at the moment, it’s lovely. Obviously don’t go with young kids in tow.

With my DH, who I’ve been with long enough we’ve figured out how to do sex properly. Your Model May Vary, of course.😂

holidays and beaches with small kids…. Trick is to keep it simple IME. Don’t try to go abroad until they’re old enough to enjoy it properly and be able to walk decent distances. Get more adventurous as they get older - beaches are for launching boats or kayaks off ideally not lying around on.

So YABU, all these things can be enjoyable.

Dont agree with most of these because its not my experience but I don’t like beaches for two reasons, one sand brings me out in a rash (so does the sun, I take antihistamines) and two I bore after about 5 minutes sitting still, I don’t mind watersports but sitting there isn’t my thing.

i however loved travelling with my dc as little ones, so easy, ditto eating out is fine, love Paris and if you don’t like sex you have the wrong dp!!!

my dc are grown up now and remember childhood with fondness despite the fact we brought them up a bit differently to many modern parents, we used the word no for starters and not everything was about them plus no tablets because nobody had invented them and snake on a mobile phone bored quickly

Sharing a bath.

Supposed to be romantic/erotic but it's a squash to fit 2 adults into an average bath and someone has to be at the tap end.

Sharing a shower is equally rubbish because someone isn't under the water and gets cold.

Ps I did some of my more adventurous holidays with young dc, backpacking is fun with little ones, we had backpacks, double buggy and a cooler on wheels with extra back on top plus each of dcs nappy and personal gear hanging on the buggy, worked great

Omg yes YANBU on that one.

Spa days. Sitting around in a jacuzzi/ sauna is ace for about 20 minutes. Enough. Can I go home now?

Ooh whilst I’m on that topic - facials. Every single one I’ve had has broken me out and never left me ‘glowing’.

Gonna disagree on sex, though. In the words of Samantha: ‘Fuck me badly once, shame on you; fuck me badly twice, shame on me.’

Agree with beaches and sex also add spa days and afternoon teas. Disagree re Paris.

Picnics

Spa days
centre parcs

Mine is any supposedly social event where the background music or other noise is so loud you can’t have a civilised conversation without shouting. Pubs, some weddings or other parties - it’s so frustrating when there may be friends and relatives you really want to catch up with and it’s impossible.

Wow. I agree with basically none of that! We have had one rubbish holiday with our now 7yo (including several long haul holidays). I will agree on the prep, it is me doing it but also then we have what we need for a properly relaxing holiday. We do tend to go places with realistic expectations, ie, we went to Hawaii expertly to mostly do pool and beach but chose a place to stay that let us do it in a way that was enjoyable for adults too.

We love the beach but don’t live in the UK so maybe it’s just the UK beaches are a bit shit? We definitely have our kit dialed in though and live biking distance so we don’t have to deal with parking/crowds etc.

Eating out, also love, just need to make sure you don’t go to a shit restaurant?!

Sex with DH doesn’t always set the world on fire but he’s never not made sure I am taken care of before he is…

Snow days. It's freezing and wet. I don't want to build a snowman, I want to stay indoors.

BBQs. Sausages and burgers burnt on the outside, raw on the inside. Much prefer to cook indoors and eat outside.

Skiing. Sorry.

Snow definitely

Christmas definitely

Spending time with my sister or her DC

I do like to eat out sometimes, but other than that. Yes i agree with them.

I'm lucky enough to live near the beach and the mountains and tend to go to the beach more in winter (took DD yesterday was 8C and sunny) for dog walk, rock pooling, cafe lunch, hot chocolate, and go to the lake or river when it warms up in summer (no sand, no salt, no waves to frustrate small children, trees to jump out of, closer).

Still haven't taken DD 8 abroad, we went to hafan, less than an hour away, loads of her friends were there she had the best time, cheap out of season, great pool. In contrast the nearest airport is more than twice as far away and the flight alone would have cost more. So i might give it another year or two (definitely not this year with the ongoing political/fuel situation).

I love Paris, eating out and the beach, so I disagree with you there
But sex I agree is over rated
Also on my list would be
Alcohol/getting drunk
Parties
Loud music
Dancing

mine is nightclubs or any crowded loud environment. Hated it even when I was young.

And linked to that going out of an evening to anything at all. Bloody hate it.
I just want to be at home in my pyjamas.

And holidays . Massively overrated. I cant wait to get back home to my own bed !

In fact I am an extremely boring person I now realise!

Skiing
Barbecues
Hot tubs - festering hellholes full of other people’s fluids, dead skin and fungal infections
Sushi
Big weddings that go on and on and on long after everyone wants to leave (I recognise that this isn’t a popular opinion)
Baby showers and gender reveals- just Why?? (also unpopular I expect)

Christmas markets. Thousands of people buying overpriced food and mulled wine you can get for a couple of quid a bottle in Aldi.

Picnics. Dragging a blanket and various Tupperware’s of salad you spent hours making and it’s either too hot and the food wilts and congeals or it’s windy and rainy. Plus you need to drive so can’t even have a glass of wine.

Going to a ‘farm’ to see a field of pumpkins/tulips/sunflowers/lavender/whatever to watch bored kids go feral while mum tries to capture the moment for SM. Queue for hours in the rain for overpriced food.

I’m good with beaches though. We live on the coast so never need to do a whole day. We turn up late as the lobsters are leaving and if the tide is right the water is coming in over the warm sand. Always check the tide table if you don’t want an epic walk to the sea.